MIL and the toilet seat

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I agree with your MILs preference, but I can't imagine making a scene over it.

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I didn’t know closing the toilet lid was a thing with some people. I would tell her to go dig a hole outside and pee in it if she doesn’t want to use our toilet.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with your MILs preference, but I can't imagine making a scene over it.

I’m a PP strongly supporting MIL, but I also can’t imagine making a scene over it. But every time my BIL comes to visit, even if just for 1 night, he flips over the TP roll in the family bathroom so the sheets hang down the back (instead of the proper way, over the top).
So my in-laws are entitled and would probably make a scene as well.

[Anonymous]

It’s not how we do things in our house. Please don’t bring it up again.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you keep the seats down? These are just normal polite things you should be doing. Part of raising kids is giving them good home training. You also seem to be sensitive to your MIL’s criticisms. But she’s right!

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t know closing the toilet lid was a thing with some people. I would tell her to go dig a hole outside and pee in it if she doesn’t want to use our toilet.

Toilet SEAT. Not lid

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'm with your MIL. Open toilet lids skeez me out. Teach your kids to close them - mine have never once pinched fingers. It's a good life skill.

What “skeezes” you out? You’re about to sit your naked body onto it. This is bizarre.

NP. Huh? The toilet ring often has pee splatter on it. That's why we all sit on the toilet seat because it's cleaner. No one is sitting their naked body on the toilet ring.

I can't stand going over to houses that have the toilet seat up. I'm an adult, but I have fallen in before and am traumatized. It's also ice cold porcelain vs the warmer plastic seat.

+1 and oh boy do i JUDGE when it's a mixed-sex bathroom and I go in after a guy who didn't put the seat down. what a selfish jerk who was never taught better manners.

I agree. My DH always puts the seat down after he pees. It takes a second and hardly worth a thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t know closing the toilet lid was a thing with some people. I would tell her to go dig a hole outside and pee in it if she doesn’t want to use our toilet.

Toilet SEAT. Not lid

No, it's the LID. OP clarified above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t know closing the toilet lid was a thing with some people. I would tell her to go dig a hole outside and pee in it if she doesn’t want to use our toilet.

Toilet SEAT. Not lid

The subject says toilet seat, but the OP says lid and elsewhere the OP clarified that she is talking about the lid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with your MILs preference, but I can't imagine making a scene over it.

This. As other PPs have mentioned, it really is gross not to close the lid before you flush. The toilet spreads the germs all around. I also worry about things getting dropped in there when the lid is up. So in our house, lid is always down except when in use. And we installed all soft-close lids and they work well and are great for the kids.

HOWEVER, I would never complain about this aloud at another person's home. That is rude. Your MIL is being rude.

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Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

Who doesn’t sit on toilet seats in their own home? I’m shocked you are shocked.

Learn the difference between SEAT
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Yes, we sit on the seat. We do not sit on the LID.

Why not? Because you leave it up?

No, because that's disgusting. We also don't sit on our kitchen island. Do you?

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Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

Who doesn’t sit on toilet seats in their own home? I’m shocked you are shocked.

Learn the difference between SEAT
and
LID

Yes, we sit on the seat. We do not sit on the LID.

Why not? Because you leave it up?

No, because that's disgusting. We also don't sit on our kitchen island. Do you?

Not usually. But do you eat on your toilet lid? Odd.

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Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

Who doesn’t sit on toilet seats in their own home? I’m shocked you are shocked.

Learn the difference between SEAT
and
LID

Yes, we sit on the seat. We do not sit on the LID.

Why not? Because you leave it up?

No, because that's disgusting. We also don't sit on our kitchen island. Do you?

I sit on my kitchen island.

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Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

Who doesn’t sit on toilet seats in their own home? I’m shocked you are shocked.

Learn the difference between SEAT
and
LID

Yes, we sit on the seat. We do not sit on the LID.

Why not? Because you leave it up?

No, because that's disgusting. We also don't sit on our kitchen island. Do you?

I sit on my kitchen island.

You’re filthy. /s/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.


Team MIL

+1. Part of potty training is learning how to lift and lower the lid. Not rocket science or elite gymnastics. I promise your snowflakes can do it! Signed mother of 2 boys.