MIL and the toilet seat

[Anonymous]

OP is using both seat and lid in the OP. I can read and I read it multiple times. It’s unclear.

I’m usually never on team MIL and I think the theatrics are unnecessary but if it’s the seat, I’m guessing she’s fallen in at some point, which isn’t fun for anyone but is especially difficult on elderly. If it’s the lid, she needs to get over it, and I’d tell her that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

You don't sit on the toilet seat even when you have to poop?? You must have some crazy leg muscles.

Yes, I put my bare you-know-what on the seat to use it as intended, but I don't put my pants-wearing butt on the lid and act like that's not completely gross.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to clarify — seat or lid. If you are leaving the seat up, that’s completely gross and you need to teach your kids to handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

Who doesn’t sit on toilet seats in their own home? I’m shocked you are shocked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to clarify — seat or lid. If you are leaving the seat up, that’s completely gross and you need to teach your kids to handle it.

OP here. I’m sorry!

It’s the LID.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We almost never close the toilet lids. I'd tell her to get over it. Actually, I'd make my husband tell her or I'd make a big deal of saying "oh honey you need to go shut the toilet lid - you know that bothers your mother". She's rude.

Seriously. Why are you holding your family hostage to her ridiculous preferences in YOUR house.

[Anonymous]

How are so many posters in here not able to read??

OP leaves the LID up. NOT THE SEAT.

I am not a germaphobe and am fairly lazy cleaner, but the idea of flushing the toilet with the lid up is gross. My toilets don’t have soft close lids and all my kids (2 boys and a girl) have figured it out. The boys leave the lid up in their shared bathroom, but they know to close the other lids in the house.

[Anonymous]

Super gross that you leave them up. Teach your kids some manners.

[Anonymous]

I always close the lid. If you don't close the lid while flushing, you are putting urine and fecal matter all over your bathroom. That's Gross.Your toilet lids can't possibly be that heavy to lift. But you do you in your own house.

[Anonymous]

We close them all the time because our bathrooms are small and I am worried about things falling into the toilet by accident. I don't want to fish anything out of the toilet!

I think your MIL is ridiculous, because she doesn't get to decide what happens in other people's houses.

But I'd also encourage you to get better toilet seats. Ours are soft close, and they are that way even if you only open them 1/2 an inch. Get those.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to go use the bathroom at McDonalds.

[Anonymous]

Remove the lid. Leave the seat attached. MIL can choose not to use your bathrooms if she wants. Functionally, for your family, nothing changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

Who doesn’t sit on toilet seats in their own home? I’m shocked you are shocked.

Learn the difference between SEAT
and
LID

Yes, we sit on the seat. We do not sit on the LID.

[Anonymous]

If it were the seat, she'd perhaps have a point but she should not be rude, which she is.
If it's the LID, then she has no right at all to be making a fuss about this.

Grey rock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

Who doesn’t sit on toilet seats in their own home? I’m shocked you are shocked.

Learn the difference between SEAT
and
LID

Yes, we sit on the seat. We do not sit on the LID.

Why not? Because you leave it up?