MIL and the toilet seat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ew I have thought you meant the lid but you mean the seat? Gross. I’m team MIL though she’s rude to verbalize it.

Ew, gross. Go back and read.

[Anonymous]

All the particles potentially floating around when the seat is up. The potential for anything (tooth brushes) to fall in. Washing my hands while having to look at (potentially) hard water stains skid marks, tp remnants. Just close the lid. Why even have a lid if you're not going to use it.

And I'll go this far - realtors who post photos of bathrooms with the toilet lid up should be fired on the spot.

[Anonymous]

I'm with your MIL. This is basic manners. It's like your kids not flushing. This is pretty gross and disgusting. My sons are little, but we taught them it's polite to sit to pee at people's homes. It's cleaner and there's less spray. Your bathroom sounds like a frat house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'm with your MIL. Open toilet lids skeez me out. Teach your kids to close them - mine have never once pinched fingers. It's a good life skill.

What “skeezes” you out? You’re about to sit your naked body onto it. This is bizarre.

NP. Huh? The toilet ring often has pee splatter on it. That's why we all sit on the toilet seat because it's cleaner. No one is sitting their naked body on the toilet ring.

I can't stand going over to houses that have the toilet seat up. I'm an adult, but I have fallen in before and am traumatized. It's also ice cold porcelain vs the warmer plastic seat.

[Anonymous]

I’m with your mother in law on this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the particles potentially floating around when the seat is up. The potential for anything (tooth brushes) to fall in. Washing my hands while having to look at (potentially) hard water stains skid marks, tp remnants. Just close the lid. Why even have a lid if you're not going to use it.

And I'll go this far - realtors who post photos of bathrooms with the toilet lid up should be fired on the spot.

This is not about LIDS. This is the toilet SEAT that OP leaves up.

OP- you should just install urinals in your animal house. We put one in the workshop and it's hilarious. Ultimate man cave accessory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'm with your MIL. Open toilet lids skeez me out. Teach your kids to close them - mine have never once pinched fingers. It's a good life skill.

What “skeezes” you out? You’re about to sit your naked body onto it. This is bizarre.

NP. Huh? The toilet ring often has pee splatter on it. That's why we all sit on the toilet seat because it's cleaner. No one is sitting their naked body on the toilet ring.

I can't stand going over to houses that have the toilet seat up. I'm an adult, but I have fallen in before and am traumatized. It's also ice cold porcelain vs the warmer plastic seat.

I can’t stand it when people don’t read the post before posting a rant response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the particles potentially floating around when the seat is up. The potential for anything (tooth brushes) to fall in. Washing my hands while having to look at (potentially) hard water stains skid marks, tp remnants. Just close the lid. Why even have a lid if you're not going to use it.

And I'll go this far - realtors who post photos of bathrooms with the toilet lid up should be fired on the spot.

This is not about LIDS. This is the toilet SEAT that OP leaves up.

OP- you should just install urinals in your animal house. We put one in the workshop and it's hilarious. Ultimate man cave accessory.

Can you even read?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the particles potentially floating around when the seat is up. The potential for anything (tooth brushes) to fall in. Washing my hands while having to look at (potentially) hard water stains skid marks, tp remnants. Just close the lid. Why even have a lid if you're not going to use it.

And I'll go this far - realtors who post photos of bathrooms with the toilet lid up should be fired on the spot.

This is not about LIDS. This is the toilet SEAT that OP leaves up.

OP- you should just install urinals in your animal house. We put one in the workshop and it's hilarious. Ultimate man cave accessory.

Can you even read?

NP. In the OP, she references both the lids and the toilet seat, so it is unclear which one she is referring to.

[Anonymous]

"This is what works for us. If this is so bothersome to you, you may need to choose not to visit us. What you won't do is make a big deal about it, because it's not changing, and I don't care to hear your judgment about it any more. It's our house, our way, and you can leave if you don't like it. From now on, if you say anything about it, you will be asked to leave."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL

This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?

I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.

NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"This is what works for us. If this is so bothersome to you, you may need to choose not to visit us. What you won't do is make a big deal about it, because it's not changing, and I don't care to hear your judgment about it any more. It's our house, our way, and you can leave if you don't like it. From now on, if you say anything about it, you will be asked to leave."

If you said that you would be an even bigger drama llama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"This is what works for us. If this is so bothersome to you, you may need to choose not to visit us. What you won't do is make a big deal about it, because it's not changing, and I don't care to hear your judgment about it any more. It's our house, our way, and you can leave if you don't like it. From now on, if you say anything about it, you will be asked to leave."

Don’t do this.

[Anonymous]

Ours are up all the time too.
I think this clearly varies house to house and for your MIL to make an issue of it at your house is rude.