Who should be responsible for the maintenance of parents' grave if you're an only child and you're not local?

[Anonymous]

Are you open to cutting down the bush and just planting wild flowers

[Anonymous]

I would honestly just not respond to that.

I never visit graves. They’re not important to me. I don’t have a religious or spiritual connection to burials.

If it’s important to your uncle, he can prune it.

Okay after I was done being mad, I’d try to see it as an expression of grief and fear from your uncle. Grief over his sister’s passing, fear about his own legacy.

So maybe I would say something like, “thanks so much for looking out for mom. I know she loved Bush Flowers (or spring time or whatever). Would you like to prune it, or let me know if there’s a landscaper you recommend? I don’t have any current plans to be in town. All my love to you and Larla.”