When people say ‘we are not ok’ in response to news events

[Anonymous]

“We are not ok” = look at me! I never see this from people personally affected by something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not Jewish but I am a mother and I do not feel ok today.

This. Infants were beheaded. Children were kidnapped and some killed. Parents have spent days trying to find out out whether or not their kidnapped children were just raped, or raped and killed. Many mothers around the world feel "not ok" right now.

And (many more) children have died because of Israeli air strikes. It’s a shitty situation to say the least.

But it’s not about you.

[Anonymous]

I would like to see the IDF simply remove Gaza from the map, and send the civilians to Iran to live, if they love Palestinians so much. There’s no going back from what they did. You don’t decapitate babies and not expect your “civilization” to be ended by the aggrieved party.

[Anonymous]

It seems like an odd thing to say, because who would assume someone was ok with what occurred? No one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“We are not ok” = look at me! I never see this from people personally affected by something.

I, like most people, have been emotionally affected by the news. But I would never use the phrase”I” as in “ I am not okay.” Because it’s not about me. It’s about all those who are personally suffering. I am removed from the circles of grief but I can support without talking about my own emotional reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This really bothers me and I see it happen so much when events befall a group or race and then other members of the group say ‘we are not ok’.
I’m a Jew and events of the last few days are awful. But I, personally, am ok. I haven’t lost family and I’m not kidnapped and I haven’t lost my home.
It just feels like trying to jump on a bandwagon and make it all about yourself.

I am not Jewish or Palestinian and I am not ok watching death on both sides of this never ending conflict. So yes, have compassion for humanity as people are dying on both sides and try not to see it with such a narrow lense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This really bothers me and I see it happen so much when events befall a group or race and then other members of the group say ‘we are not ok’.
I’m a Jew and events of the last few days are awful. But I, personally, am ok. I haven’t lost family and I’m not kidnapped and I haven’t lost my home.
It just feels like trying to jump on a bandwagon and make it all about yourself.

OP I agree and it is bizarre to me. This is where our society has been headed for some time. For some reason it is now glamorous to be a victim and so many (especially younger people) are so eager to identify as such. I notice it when people discuss race (e.g. acting as though being descended from slaves is the same as being a slave… no, YOU (plural) didn’t suffer… your great great great grandparents suffered but your parents were doctors and YOU went to private school…). I noticed it at the height if the MeToo movement. And of course whenever any tragedy befalls anyone. It’s somehow not good enough to say wow that sucks, what can I do besides count my own blessings?

I don’t know what’s going on but it is indeed strange and (IMO) narcissistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm proud of you OP. So brave of you that the murder of hundreds doesn't distract you from building another addition on your house.

DP. And what are YOU doing about it? Besides crying and seeking attention and accolades for how amazingly empathetic you are? On your way to Israel to take up arms? Or maybe you’re already a member of MSF and you’re about to head to Gaza?

[Anonymous]

I assume “we” is the bigger we - people/civilization.

If you read “we” to mean the individual, this might say more about you, the reader, than the person who wrote it. Maybe it just depends on the context.

[Anonymous]

How someone you don't even care about feels about someone else dying is even less relevant than someone else dying!

Ask yourself why *that* troubles you so much.

[Anonymous]

I’m Jewish and I’m not ok but I don’t really talk about it. It’s ok to be not ok, it’s a little weird to announce it on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm proud of you OP. So brave of you that the murder of hundreds doesn't distract you from building another addition on your house.

DP. And what are YOU doing about it? Besides crying and seeking attention and accolades for how amazingly empathetic you are? On your way to Israel to take up arms? Or maybe you’re already a member of MSF and you’re about to head to Gaza?

You have a hyperactive imagination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“We are not ok” = look at me! I never see this from people personally affected by something.

+1
I have to agree with this. And if "you are not ok", well what will you be doing about it? Any productive steps? Just saying "we are not ok" seems to me to be signaling for attention in such a passive way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This really bothers me and I see it happen so much when events befall a group or race and then other members of the group say ‘we are not ok’.
I’m a Jew and events of the last few days are awful. But I, personally, am ok. I haven’t lost family and I’m not kidnapped and I haven’t lost my home.
It just feels like trying to jump on a bandwagon and make it all about yourself.

OP I agree and it is bizarre to me. This is where our society has been headed for some time. For some reason it is now glamorous to be a victim and so many (especially younger people) are so eager to identify as such. I notice it when people discuss race (e.g. acting as though being descended from slaves is the same as being a slave… no, YOU (plural) didn’t suffer… your great great great grandparents suffered but your parents were doctors and YOU went to private school…). I noticed it at the height if the MeToo movement. And of course whenever any tragedy befalls anyone. It’s somehow not good enough to say wow that sucks, what can I do besides count my own blessings?

I don’t know what’s going on but it is indeed strange and (IMO) narcissistic.

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This post summarizes it so well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m Jewish and I’m not ok but I don’t really talk about it. It’s ok to be not ok, it’s a little weird to announce it on social media.

Same. Definitely not okay and I don't announce things like that on social media. (Well, I'm not on social media anymore but I never used to when I was). I would talk about, and I would tell someone if they asked, but no one is asking. I need more Jewish friends.