Dating for Men

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Anonymous wrote:I am a single 40 years old male and recently moved to Arlington from Los Angeles to take a finance job. I found that 90% of online dating women are just average at best in person.  After three months of OLD, I stopped doing it.  I joined several pickleball clubs and met so many wonderful people, one of them introduced me to one of his 25 years old female cousins who is 9 in looks and 10 in personality, and she has a good paying job as a Project Manager.  Join a club is the best way to meet people.  YMMV.

Why would such a good looking 25yo want to date a 45yo fart ?

Because he is a very interesting person and has a lot of money?

There are plenty of interesting mid 30s men with good careers . 40 is old for a 25 yo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a single 40 years old male and recently moved to Arlington from Los Angeles to take a finance job. I found that 90% of online dating women are just average at best in person.  After three months of OLD, I stopped doing it.  I joined several pickleball clubs and met so many wonderful people, one of them introduced me to one of his 25 years old female cousins who is 9 in looks and 10 in personality, and she has a good paying job as a Project Manager.  Join a club is the best way to meet people.  YMMV.

Why would such a good looking 25yo want to date a 45yo fart ?

Because he is a very interesting person and has a lot of money?

There are plenty of interesting mid 30s men with good careers . 40 is old for a 25 yo

An interesting mid 30s with a good career are several levels below a 40 years old finance guy who is also interesting with a great career and a lot of $$$. Why do you think Jason Statham is 20 years older than his fiance?

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Ask for a phone number.
Ask out on a date. ...
Ask to hold hands.
Ask for a kiss. ... without the expectation of more.
Have a discussion about whether you are monogamous and exclusive before having sex.

Asking, discussing, negotiating, and begging are not sexy. A confident, successful, socially calibrated man does not need to ask. If she showed up for the date and shaved her legs, then she wants a kiss.

“If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago.”
— Mark Manson

D.C. has lots of slender women.
https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/prevalence-maps.html

But they are not eager because:
Women ages 16-29 in the Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC-VA-MD-WV metro area earned 102% of what men their age earned in 2019.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/interactives/wage-gap-calculator/washington-arlington-alexandria-dc-va-md-wv/16_29/

Wow I didn't think I'd come on DCUM and see people encouraging others to avoid asking for consent!

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Anonymous wrote:I am a single 40 years old male and recently moved to Arlington from Los Angeles to take a finance job. I found that 90% of online dating women are just average at best in person.  After three months of OLD, I stopped doing it.  I joined several pickleball clubs and met so many wonderful people, one of them introduced me to one of his 25 years old female cousins who is 9 in looks and 10 in personality, and she has a good paying job as a Project Manager.  Join a club is the best way to meet people.  YMMV.

Why would such a good looking 25yo want to date a 45yo fart ?

Because he is a very interesting person and has a lot of money?

There are plenty of interesting mid 30s men with good careers . 40 is old for a 25 yo

An interesting mid 30s with a good career are several levels below a 40 years old finance guy who is also interesting with a great career and a lot of $$$. Why do you think Jason Statham is 20 years older than his fiance?

Because he’s hot. Your photo in the studio !

[Anonymous]

Dating in DC or any big city really can be hard because even if you're a big dog, there's always an even bigger dog looking to eat your food. And any semi-attractive woman will get the attention of the biggest dogs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they like Asian women, they hang out in traffic court.

I am near crying at my keyboard. I haven't read anything so wrong yet so right in awhile.

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Anonymous wrote:If they like Asian women, they hang out in traffic court.

I am near crying at my keyboard. I haven't read anything so wrong yet so right in awhile.

[Anonymous]

Dating in DC is a breeze for men on the numbers alone. If you aren't going out and getting laid multiple times a week, you need to get a dating coach and learn the basics of courtship. Once you have that mastered, you'll be shooting fish in a barrel like the rest of us. Just remember to wrap it up because it's very likely a decent percentage of the other bros sampling the merchandise are playing dirty and leaving their silent STDs behind.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish it were possible to read reviews of women so I could find out which ones are crazy, liars, or diseased.

I wish I could read which men are cheaters, cheap and liars.

We have a great group for this in Denver, it’s on Facebook. Has saved me from many bad matches!!! Pictures and first names and reviews /warnings/red flags. Group is private with 20k members and you can post anonymously. Great resource for women.

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Where do I meet men here in DC? Any popular places to go? Men ages 40+

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Anonymous wrote:I am a single 40 years old male and recently moved to Arlington from Los Angeles to take a finance job. I found that 90% of online dating women are just average at best in person.  After three months of OLD, I stopped doing it.  I joined several pickleball clubs and met so many wonderful people, one of them introduced me to one of his 25 years old female cousins who is 9 in looks and 10 in personality, and she has a good paying job as a Project Manager.  Join a club is the best way to meet people.  YMMV.

Why would such a good looking 25yo want to date a 45yo fart ?

Because he is a very interesting person and has a lot of money?

Very doubtful if he works in finance.

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Anonymous wrote:Where do I meet men here in DC? Any popular places to go? Men ages 40+

The bar at J. Gilbert's in McLean.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve only dated in DC as an adult, mostly Americans, but have had a longish relationship with a woman who moved here from another country for law school and with a foreign embassy employee. Another 3-4 month relationship with a woman whose parents were immigrants, but they were very wealthy and she had a typical upper class American upbringing.

I’ve noticed no major differences and have little respect for men who pull the “American woman can’t compare” card.

If you've never dated women outside the US then of course you wouldn't notice a difference. Ignorance is bliss I guess. Enjoy those DC hotties buddy.

Thanks, pal! It's being going great so far.

DC women are very international and diverse in all age groups. Grad students from all over the world; ex spouses of international orgs staff. These are usually foreign born women from upper class families or the women selected for their beauty abroad by ex husbands, and then brought to the US. Lifestyle and beauty are correlated. Not sure why any man would need to travel abroad to find a woman, if he lives in dmv area with such huge selection

Depending on the country, it can be like night and day in terms of the number of quality women you can date relative to the US. There is a reason none of these guys date American women.

What you are saying is true about foreign born women in the DC area, but as people inevitably assimilate, they tend to lose their redeeming qualities that you initially found attractive.

You are just not well-off enough to date attractive foreign women in DC. This full assimilation never really happens culturally. Looks also remain with the woman if she’s a real beauty she’ll age well. If she had a wealthy family to send her for a grad program or married into US, very likely she’s got great genes - both intelligence and beauty. But foreign born women mature financially very quickly; by 30 y.o. in DC, if they have a good degree. They don’t date “regular” man just because a beautiful woman with brain and money has options. Accent or cultural background don’t matter. Execs in dmv area often date foreign born women of all ages. Agree that if you go abroad, the women there wouldn’t have as many options. But you also have to deal with negative selection: wh…res, who are only with you for money; girls who barely speak English, not as good of a gene pool, etc.

Yeah, the more attractive foreign women in DC will generally be pursuing guys willing to spend lots of cash on them. And no doubt, if you are an executive, you have a lot more options. But these women are more interested in $ than anything else, so they aren't a whole lot better than your avg striver type American woman in the DC area.

The big advantage to dating in other countries is the number of available women. You are looking at a dating pool of 2 million people in a large Latin American city vs maybe something like 50k foreign women in DC.

No, they are not pursuing any men- men are pursuing attractive women. Overall deficit of men doesn’t affect attractive females. And in terms of cash - you do realize that a long term specialist at WB/IMF group makes around 300k, right? Women simply try to date equals as we don’t like to trade down our lifestyle. If he’s not used to gym, cleaning ladies, good food I’m not there to change him. And he’ll think I’m
spoilt just because I already have access to all these services. I want to have similar spending habits as my partner; not more and not less

After reading this it's not so bad for some men to be single. This one is the type you need to avoid at all cost.