Dating for Men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only dated in DC as an adult, mostly Americans, but have had a longish relationship with a woman who moved here from another country for law school and with a foreign embassy employee. Another 3-4 month relationship with a woman whose parents were immigrants, but they were very wealthy and she had a typical upper class American upbringing.

I’ve noticed no major differences and have little respect for men who pull the “American woman can’t compare” card.

If you've never dated women outside the US then of course you wouldn't notice a difference. Ignorance is bliss I guess. Enjoy those DC hotties buddy.

Thanks, pal! It's being going great so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only dated in DC as an adult, mostly Americans, but have had a longish relationship with a woman who moved here from another country for law school and with a foreign embassy employee. Another 3-4 month relationship with a woman whose parents were immigrants, but they were very wealthy and she had a typical upper class American upbringing.

I’ve noticed no major differences and have little respect for men who pull the “American woman can’t compare” card.

If you've never dated women outside the US then of course you wouldn't notice a difference. Ignorance is bliss I guess. Enjoy those DC hotties buddy.

Thanks, pal! It's being going great so far.

DC women are very international and diverse in all age groups. Grad students from all over the world; ex spouses of international orgs staff. These are usually foreign born women from upper class families or the women selected for their beauty abroad by ex husbands, and then brought to the US. Lifestyle and beauty are correlated. Not sure why any man would need to travel abroad to find a woman, if he lives in dmv area with such huge selection

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Ask for a phone number.
Ask out on a date. ...
Ask to hold hands.
Ask for a kiss. ... without the expectation of more.
Have a discussion about whether you are monogamous and exclusive before having sex.

Asking, discussing, negotiating, and begging are not sexy. A confident, successful, socially calibrated man does not need to ask. If she showed up for the date and shaved her legs, then she wants a kiss.

“If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago.”
— Mark Manson

D.C. has lots of slender women.
https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/prevalence-maps.html

But they are not eager because:
Women ages 16-29 in the Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC-VA-MD-WV metro area earned 102% of what men their age earned in 2019.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/interactives/wage-gap-calculator/washington-arlington-alexandria-dc-va-md-wv/16_29/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The older women in DC get, the pickier and more selective they get, despite corresponding decline in physical beauty.

This is good for women. Most would rather be alone than with some of the utterly unsuitable men cluttering up the dating scene.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish it were possible to read reviews of women so I could find out which ones are crazy, liars, or diseased.

Narrator: they all are

Well in fairness, some of them are abusive instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The older women in DC get, the pickier and more selective they get, despite corresponding decline in physical beauty.

This is true. I am friends with two women who are divorced and will probably be single forever because their laundry list of must-haves isn’t reasonable and they aren’t willing to make any compromises. One has been single for almost ten years, the other two. They deserve only the best and shouldn’t have to settle

By single do you mean no relationships or just not remarried yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ask for a phone number.
Ask out on a date. ...
Ask to hold hands.
Ask for a kiss. ... without the expectation of more.
Have a discussion about whether you are monogamous and exclusive before having sex.

Asking, discussing, negotiating, and begging are not sexy. A confident, successful, socially calibrated man does not need to ask. If she showed up for the date and shaved her legs, then she wants a kiss.

“If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago.”
— Mark Manson

D.C. has lots of slender women.
https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/prevalence-maps.html

But they are not eager because:
Women ages 16-29 in the Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC-VA-MD-WV metro area earned 102% of what men their age earned in 2019.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/interactives/wage-gap-calculator/washington-arlington-alexandria-dc-va-md-wv/16_29/

You obviously have no game. Asking can be super hot.

[Anonymous]

FWIW I’m dating a foreign born woman in DC who has been here for 6 months and she’s the best I’ve had, both in looks and everything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only dated in DC as an adult, mostly Americans, but have had a longish relationship with a woman who moved here from another country for law school and with a foreign embassy employee. Another 3-4 month relationship with a woman whose parents were immigrants, but they were very wealthy and she had a typical upper class American upbringing.

I’ve noticed no major differences and have little respect for men who pull the “American woman can’t compare” card.

If you've never dated women outside the US then of course you wouldn't notice a difference. Ignorance is bliss I guess. Enjoy those DC hotties buddy.

Thanks, pal! It's being going great so far.

DC women are very international and diverse in all age groups. Grad students from all over the world; ex spouses of international orgs staff. These are usually foreign born women from upper class families or the women selected for their beauty abroad by ex husbands, and then brought to the US. Lifestyle and beauty are correlated. Not sure why any man would need to travel abroad to find a woman, if he lives in dmv area with such huge selection

Depending on the country, it can be like night and day in terms of the number of quality women you can date relative to the US. There is a reason none of these guys date American women.

What you are saying is true about foreign born women in the DC area, but as people inevitably assimilate, they tend to lose their redeeming qualities that you initially found attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only dated in DC as an adult, mostly Americans, but have had a longish relationship with a woman who moved here from another country for law school and with a foreign embassy employee. Another 3-4 month relationship with a woman whose parents were immigrants, but they were very wealthy and she had a typical upper class American upbringing.

I’ve noticed no major differences and have little respect for men who pull the “American woman can’t compare” card.

If you've never dated women outside the US then of course you wouldn't notice a difference. Ignorance is bliss I guess. Enjoy those DC hotties buddy.

Thanks, pal! It's being going great so far.

DC women are very international and diverse in all age groups. Grad students from all over the world; ex spouses of international orgs staff. These are usually foreign born women from upper class families or the women selected for their beauty abroad by ex husbands, and then brought to the US. Lifestyle and beauty are correlated. Not sure why any man would need to travel abroad to find a woman, if he lives in dmv area with such huge selection

Depending on the country, it can be like night and day in terms of the number of quality women you can date relative to the US. There is a reason none of these guys date American women.

What you are saying is true about foreign born women in the DC area, but as people inevitably assimilate, they tend to lose their redeeming qualities that you initially found attractive.

You are just not well-off enough to date attractive foreign women in DC. This full assimilation never really happens culturally. Looks also remain with the woman if she’s a real beauty she’ll age well. If she had a wealthy family to send her for a grad program or married into US, very likely she’s got great genes - both intelligence and beauty. But foreign born women mature financially very quickly; by 30 y.o. in DC, if they have a good degree. They don’t date “regular” man just because a beautiful woman with brain and money has options. Accent or cultural background don’t matter. Execs in dmv area often date foreign born women of all ages. Agree that if you go abroad, the women there wouldn’t have as many options. But you also have to deal with negative selection: wh…res, who are only with you for money; girls who barely speak English, not as good of a gene pool, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ask for a phone number.
Ask out on a date. ...
Ask to hold hands.
Ask for a kiss. ... without the expectation of more.
Have a discussion about whether you are monogamous and exclusive before having sex.

Asking, discussing, negotiating, and begging are not sexy. A confident, successful, socially calibrated man does not need to ask. If she showed up for the date and shaved her legs, then she wants a kiss.

“If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago.”
— Mark Manson

D.C. has lots of slender women.
https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/prevalence-maps.html

But they are not eager because:
Women ages 16-29 in the Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC-VA-MD-WV metro area earned 102% of what men their age earned in 2019.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/interactives/wage-gap-calculator/washington-arlington-alexandria-dc-va-md-wv/16_29/

You obviously have no game. Asking can be super hot.

Consent contracts, FTW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ask for a phone number.
Ask out on a date. ...
Ask to hold hands.
Ask for a kiss. ... without the expectation of more.
Have a discussion about whether you are monogamous and exclusive before having sex.

Asking, discussing, negotiating, and begging are not sexy. A confident, successful, socially calibrated man does not need to ask. If she showed up for the date and shaved her legs, then she wants a kiss.

“If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago.”
— Mark Manson

D.C. has lots of slender women.
https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/prevalence-maps.html

But they are not eager because:
Women ages 16-29 in the Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC-VA-MD-WV metro area earned 102% of what men their age earned in 2019.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/interactives/wage-gap-calculator/washington-arlington-alexandria-dc-va-md-wv/16_29/

Who is Mark Manson?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ask for a phone number.
Ask out on a date. ...
Ask to hold hands.
Ask for a kiss. ... without the expectation of more.
Have a discussion about whether you are monogamous and exclusive before having sex.

Asking, discussing, negotiating, and begging are not sexy. A confident, successful, socially calibrated man does not need to ask. If she showed up for the date and shaved her legs, then she wants a kiss.

“If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago.”
— Mark Manson

D.C. has lots of slender women.
https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/prevalence-maps.html

But they are not eager because:
Women ages 16-29 in the Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC-VA-MD-WV metro area earned 102% of what men their age earned in 2019.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/interactives/wage-gap-calculator/washington-arlington-alexandria-dc-va-md-wv/16_29/

You obviously have no game. Asking can be super hot.

Men don’t think it’s hot because they didn’t grow up on Jane Austen. They just don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating 101

Go to a public place.
Meet an attractive person.
Ask for a phone number.
Call.
Ask out on a date.
Plan a fun date.
Have a fun time.
Call again
Repeat.
Treat each other with respect.

Your date is not a prostitute or a data entry program with inputs and outputs.
Every person is different.

Ask to hold hands.
Ask for a kiss.
Put your arm around each other.
Be affectionate without the expectation of more.
Have a discussion about whether you are monogamous and exclusive before having sex.

Dating in DC is wonderful. There are so many opportunities to meet people out and about. There are so many fun date ideas.

Only betas ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The older women in DC get, the pickier and more selective they get, despite corresponding decline in physical beauty.

This is true. I am friends with two women who are divorced and will probably be single forever because their laundry list of must-haves isn’t reasonable and they aren’t willing to make any compromises. One has been single for almost ten years, the other two. They deserve only the best and shouldn’t have to settle

By single do you mean no relationships or just not remarried yet?

They’re both very attractive so they date a lot. The one who’s been single for almost ten years sometimes goes on multiple dates each week. No one meets her standards. She’s amassed a bunch of guy friends but I don’t think she’s had a relationship for longer than three or four months since her divorce.