Written agreement as a compromise

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If one spouse doesn't want a dog as much as OP doesn't want a dog, there shouldn't be a dog

No kidding. Does your dh realize your level of hatred for dogs?

I don’t think hatred is an appropriate accusation. There’s no abuse intended. It’s like saying people who don’t want kids hate them.

I have found this to be true regarding people who don't want kids--they do hate them.

You've got a big case of selection bias if that's what you think. There are many, many of us here who say all the time how much we like kids - and just don't want them for ourselves. You just don't listen when we say it because you're so committed to your own point of view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spouse really wants a dog and I don’t. I don’t see the point of pet ownership to begin with but anyway, I’m thinking if this is a hill to die on, then I would want us to sign a written agreement first to indicate that Spouse understands I will spend zero time, money, and effort on this dog. This means that Spouse has to understand I’m never going to do any of the following such as walking the dog, paying for medical needs, or cleaning up dog poop/pee/vomit on the carpet. Spouse can do all of that and I do not want to help in any way with regards to the dog. Has anyone done this and how did it work out for you at home?

It isn't going to end well. Are you saying that if a living being is in your house you are never going to pat his head and tell him what a good boy/girl he is? If you were my spouse I would never sign anything and I wouldn't get the dog but, I would be heartbroken. It would make me lose respect for you.