trans in Texas schools

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Anonymous wrote:It seems petty, but without any context about why the teacher refuses to use the new name, we are left to speculate. Even in the most extreme scenario, that the teacher is doing to register disapproval of the trans identified kid, it's not clear that the teacher is doing anything wrong by using the legal name on the roster.

More likely... the teacher just doesn't give a crap about a teenager feeling like the other gender, or being some alternate status of non-gender. Most likely, the teacher has over 100 students per day, and the school year just started, and he doesn't remember that Larlo wants to be called Casey. He's probably just reading off a roster. And the other nicknames are probably easy to remember because they somehow relate to the actual name. I'm not a huge apologist for teachers. But this seems like a case of your friends picking a fight with someone who is working their ass off and doesn't have time to validate the choices of Little Lord Fontleroy, who is apparently picking apart every interaction and making a capital case.

The administration brought it up with him, and he would not budge.

School has been in session 1-2 weeks in Texas. This is so much drama that I strain to believe it. Even if it's true though, you don't know why he "didn't budge" and the idea that the teacher is getting his bearings with the names of over 100 kids is pretty reasonable. It's also a bit reactionary to reach out to the administration and get action taken in the very first week of school.

Quite a pretzel you are twisting into to defend a bigot. Then again your snide comment about Lord Fontleroy suggests you are defending your own bigotry.

Go a head and be man enough to admit you despise trans people. Have the courage of your convictions and don’t be a wuss afraid to state them.

I'm not a man. I'm putting myself in the shoes of the teacher and trying to determine the motivation, taking into account the fact that Texas has only been in session for 1-2 weeks.

Now the OP says that this actually happened last year, which makes the initial post even more suspect.

Maybe Texas's law is bad, I don't know enough about it, but this is probably not a real scenario.

+1 I think OP made up this story. Then this supposed student had a breakdown over not being called their desired name leading to a psychiatric inpatient stay? If this is a true story and their mental health was so bad why wouldn’t the school just switch them to a different classroom?

It is 100% real. If I provided any more details, I would out them. I cannot tell you the sequence of events that led to the hospital stay. But if you think it is implausible for a school to take too long to solve a problem, you aren't a parent.

As I stated before, I cannot say that the breakdown was specifically about the teacher. It is just part of the sequence of events. It could have been due to the loss of hormone therapy or other challenges. Who knows. But the events are all real.

Respectfully, how would you even know? This supposedly was relayed by the child of a friend of a family member who lives in Texas. It's third hand at best, but actually forth hand since the child is the ultimate source. And you relayed it in present tense, despite later noting it was last year. Even if it is true, the teacher no longer teaches the student, so it is even less clear why it is being relayed as a current concern. You literally don't know any of the people involved.

Wow, the level of suspicion I'm getting is just too much. My MIL and my wife are lifelong friends with this family. Every time we visit TX, the kids get together and swim in the pool together, play video games etc. I have known this child since age 6.

The reason I originally relayed it in the present tense was because she didn't even tell us what happened next that evening. Several family members began discussing whether it was feasible for them to live in Texas with the governor vowing to charge parents of trans kids with child abuse, and then the conversation turned to what's happening in VA and would they be better off here. To which I replied that the governor recently has issued his trans student policy and our school superintendent is promising he's not going to change our policy, but I can't say we won't be sued.

So someone here asked the question about how would it be fixed because it's only 1-2 weeks into the school year. Good question. So this AM I asked MIL how the problem would get fixed. It was only then that she explained it was last year and told me about the hospitalization. I wasn't deposing her, so sorry if I did not get every detail up front before I posted. This was/is a real life conversation with family, not an episode of law and order.

Did they explain why they didn't simply update the name with the school? It's bewildering.

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Anonymous wrote:I 100% believe this story. I'm in Florida and this state followed suit. It's now in statute that a teacher can only use a nickname or any other name for a kid if a parent fills out a specific form (I guess, oddly, in this case it might have helped.) In the guidance from the school, it reads that, "for example, if your child's name is Robert and they wish to go by Rob." Which of course is utter BS and no teacher on this planet is going to ask for a form to call a kid Rob instead of Robert. There's all kinds of new rules for schools and teachers, and it's 100% directed at trans kids. It's so sick, the hatred dripping from every word of the text. But we're just two days into school and teachers are ignoring it, according to my daughter.

Is this what that rule is about? I live in Florida too and don't understand why we need the form for a nickname. The law is about students enrolled in school under a name that's different from their legal name. This is about the enrollment name vs. the legal name. I don't see anything in this law regarding nicknames.

So my child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as John Doe. He prefers to be called Jack. No problem.

My child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as Jack Doe. Now we need the form.

To me, it looks like someone is misinterpreting the law to require the form in the first scenario.

That's of course what that new rule is about. There is no way that any teacher, principal or superintendent gave two craps about nicknames, until they realized that they could phrase in some way for it to seem like it was nondiscriminatory and applied equally across the board but stick it to the transgender kids. So they craft this dumb rule that says if Judith wants to be referred to as Judy, parents need to fill out a form. It's utter BS.

The rule also states "for our transgender students" that Robert can be called Roberta if a parent fills out the form, but that no teacher or staff member is allowed to refer to Roberta as she or her. So they're saying that even if a parent says yes, call my child Roberta, the school will still refer to Roberta as he/him. Parental Freedom and Rights my a$$. They are hateful liars, all of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I 100% believe this story. I'm in Florida and this state followed suit. It's now in statute that a teacher can only use a nickname or any other name for a kid if a parent fills out a specific form (I guess, oddly, in this case it might have helped.) In the guidance from the school, it reads that, "for example, if your child's name is Robert and they wish to go by Rob." Which of course is utter BS and no teacher on this planet is going to ask for a form to call a kid Rob instead of Robert. There's all kinds of new rules for schools and teachers, and it's 100% directed at trans kids. It's so sick, the hatred dripping from every word of the text. But we're just two days into school and teachers are ignoring it, according to my daughter.

Is this what that rule is about? I live in Florida too and don't understand why we need the form for a nickname. The law is about students enrolled in school under a name that's different from their legal name. This is about the enrollment name vs. the legal name. I don't see anything in this law regarding nicknames.

So my child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as John Doe. He prefers to be called Jack. No problem.

My child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as Jack Doe. Now we need the form.

To me, it looks like someone is misinterpreting the law to require the form in the first scenario.

That's of course what that new rule is about. There is no way that any teacher, principal or superintendent gave two craps about nicknames, until they realized that they could phrase in some way for it to seem like it was nondiscriminatory and applied equally across the board but stick it to the transgender kids. So they craft this dumb rule that says if Judith wants to be referred to as Judy, parents need to fill out a form. It's utter BS.

The rule also states "for our transgender students" that Robert can be called Roberta if a parent fills out the form, but that no teacher or staff member is allowed to refer to Roberta as she or her. So they're saying that even if a parent says yes, call my child Roberta, the school will still refer to Roberta as he/him. Parental Freedom and Rights my a$$. They are hateful liars, all of them.

Schools face lawsuits all the time and many schools have been sued for socially transitioning students without parental knowledge or consent. How do you propose the schools protect themselves from litigation without paperwork documenting parental consent?

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Anonymous wrote:We have family visiting this week from Tx who relayed this story about a family friend who is a trans male high school student. The school district is supportive and helpful. But one teacher refuses to call him by his chosen name. Not an out-there nickname, a traditional name that happens to be gender-neutral. Mind you, he calls other kids by preferred nicknames.

But for this child he uses his birth name. Every day while taking attendance. This boy refuses to answer to this name, and so every day in addition to being publicly shamed in front of his classmates, he is marked absent, in a class where he is visibly present and otherwise participating. This has continued to the point where he is officially a truant in the system. The teacher refuses to mark him present unless he responds to his birth name, and he says he can't be compelled to use his chosen name.

I'm sure this will get resolved somehow, and we are hoping it doesn't draw attention to the family because the governor has stated he will go after parents of trans kids for child abuse.

But surely anyone can see this is not about parental rights. This is not about freedom or religious liberty. This is about being too mean spirited to use a gender-neutral nickname. Breaks my heart.

What does this has to do with Political Discussions? There is a separate form for LGTBQ....

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Anonymous wrote:I 100% believe this story. I'm in Florida and this state followed suit. It's now in statute that a teacher can only use a nickname or any other name for a kid if a parent fills out a specific form (I guess, oddly, in this case it might have helped.) In the guidance from the school, it reads that, "for example, if your child's name is Robert and they wish to go by Rob." Which of course is utter BS and no teacher on this planet is going to ask for a form to call a kid Rob instead of Robert. There's all kinds of new rules for schools and teachers, and it's 100% directed at trans kids. It's so sick, the hatred dripping from every word of the text. But we're just two days into school and teachers are ignoring it, according to my daughter.

Is this what that rule is about? I live in Florida too and don't understand why we need the form for a nickname. The law is about students enrolled in school under a name that's different from their legal name. This is about the enrollment name vs. the legal name. I don't see anything in this law regarding nicknames.

So my child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as John Doe. He prefers to be called Jack. No problem.

My child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as Jack Doe. Now we need the form.

To me, it looks like someone is misinterpreting the law to require the form in the first scenario.

That's of course what that new rule is about. There is no way that any teacher, principal or superintendent gave two craps about nicknames, until they realized that they could phrase in some way for it to seem like it was nondiscriminatory and applied equally across the board but stick it to the transgender kids. So they craft this dumb rule that says if Judith wants to be referred to as Judy, parents need to fill out a form. It's utter BS.

The rule also states "for our transgender students" that Robert can be called Roberta if a parent fills out the form, but that no teacher or staff member is allowed to refer to Roberta as she or her. So they're saying that even if a parent says yes, call my child Roberta, the school will still refer to Roberta as he/him. Parental Freedom and Rights my a$$. They are hateful liars, all of them.

Schools face lawsuits all the time and many schools have been sued for socially transitioning students without parental knowledge or consent. How do you propose the schools protect themselves from litigation without paperwork documenting parental consent?

Fine. Then let Roberta, with the proper paperwork, be referred to as she/her. But they don't and won't because what you're describing isn't really the issue. It's a red herring.

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Anonymous wrote:We have family visiting this week from Tx who relayed this story about a family friend who is a trans male high school student. The school district is supportive and helpful. But one teacher refuses to call him by his chosen name. Not an out-there nickname, a traditional name that happens to be gender-neutral. Mind you, he calls other kids by preferred nicknames.

But for this child he uses his birth name. Every day while taking attendance. This boy refuses to answer to this name, and so every day in addition to being publicly shamed in front of his classmates, he is marked absent, in a class where he is visibly present and otherwise participating. This has continued to the point where he is officially a truant in the system. The teacher refuses to mark him present unless he responds to his birth name, and he says he can't be compelled to use his chosen name.

I'm sure this will get resolved somehow, and we are hoping it doesn't draw attention to the family because the governor has stated he will go after parents of trans kids for child abuse.

But surely anyone can see this is not about parental rights. This is not about freedom or religious liberty. This is about being too mean spirited to use a gender-neutral nickname. Breaks my heart.

What does this has to do with Political Discussions? There is a separate form for LGTBQ....

This is a discussion of how government policies are negatively affecting a trans teen. Of course it is political.

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Anonymous wrote:The story in the Post about the child in MS being forced to drive across state lines for testosterone shots was so sad. I wish you all would read or listen to it (they did a podcast of it)

The child had received at least a year of therapy before the shots were approved. I don’t have personal experience with hormone shots/medical transition, but this scenario seems reasonable to me. Therapy before taking the hormones makes sense to me.

Yes, do those with gender dysphoria have underlying mental health issues? Probably. But is that the chicken or the egg?

I’m not against teens receiving hormones as long as they have been cared for and assessed by mental health professionals.

The kid in the post article was withdrawn, depressed, nearly suicidal before the hormone treatments started. Total 180 once he received the treatments.

I beg all of you to put yourself in this mother’s shoes. The hormones have changed her child’s life for the better.

You should read up on the very strict limitations that countries with socialized medical systems are putting into with respect to medicalized gender affirmative treatment for children. Many of those countries — that don’t have the interests and influence of private clinics at issue — have done systematic reviews of the medical evidence for gender affirmative medical treatment for children and found very, very serious flaws.

The US is increasingly an outlier when it comes to use of hormone treatments on minors. So, I am quite skeptical of the quality of medical care and therapy this child received, as it likely is deviating from an increasingly global consensus. However, it is appalling that they had to drive across state lines for care. Unfortunately, once medicalized treatment has started, stopping it is even more complex and certainly shouldn’t be the purview of state bans.

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Anonymous wrote:I 100% believe this story. I'm in Florida and this state followed suit. It's now in statute that a teacher can only use a nickname or any other name for a kid if a parent fills out a specific form (I guess, oddly, in this case it might have helped.) In the guidance from the school, it reads that, "for example, if your child's name is Robert and they wish to go by Rob." Which of course is utter BS and no teacher on this planet is going to ask for a form to call a kid Rob instead of Robert. There's all kinds of new rules for schools and teachers, and it's 100% directed at trans kids. It's so sick, the hatred dripping from every word of the text. But we're just two days into school and teachers are ignoring it, according to my daughter.

Is this what that rule is about? I live in Florida too and don't understand why we need the form for a nickname. The law is about students enrolled in school under a name that's different from their legal name. This is about the enrollment name vs. the legal name. I don't see anything in this law regarding nicknames.

So my child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as John Doe. He prefers to be called Jack. No problem.

My child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as Jack Doe. Now we need the form.

To me, it looks like someone is misinterpreting the law to require the form in the first scenario.

That's of course what that new rule is about. There is no way that any teacher, principal or superintendent gave two craps about nicknames, until they realized that they could phrase in some way for it to seem like it was nondiscriminatory and applied equally across the board but stick it to the transgender kids. So they craft this dumb rule that says if Judith wants to be referred to as Judy, parents need to fill out a form. It's utter BS.

The rule also states "for our transgender students" that Robert can be called Roberta if a parent fills out the form, but that no teacher or staff member is allowed to refer to Roberta as she or her. So they're saying that even if a parent says yes, call my child Roberta, the school will still refer to Roberta as he/him. Parental Freedom and Rights my a$$. They are hateful liars, all of them.

PP here and I'm truly trying to understand. The rule is listed on the form. The rule doesn't mention anything about nicknames or pronouns. In plain English, the form is just for enrolling a child in school under a name that is different from the child's legal name. Can you please help me connect the dots regarding why this form is used for nicknames or pronouns and how this rule/form is discriminatory against trans students? I'm not saying that it's not, but I just don't fully understand this issue and I'd like to learn more. Thanks in advance.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems petty, but without any context about why the teacher refuses to use the new name, we are left to speculate. Even in the most extreme scenario, that the teacher is doing to register disapproval of the trans identified kid, it's not clear that the teacher is doing anything wrong by using the legal name on the roster.

More likely... the teacher just doesn't give a crap about a teenager feeling like the other gender, or being some alternate status of non-gender. Most likely, the teacher has over 100 students per day, and the school year just started, and he doesn't remember that Larlo wants to be called Casey. He's probably just reading off a roster. And the other nicknames are probably easy to remember because they somehow relate to the actual name. I'm not a huge apologist for teachers. But this seems like a case of your friends picking a fight with someone who is working their ass off and doesn't have time to validate the choices of Little Lord Fontleroy, who is apparently picking apart every interaction and making a capital case.

The administration brought it up with him, and he would not budge.

School has been in session 1-2 weeks in Texas. This is so much drama that I strain to believe it. Even if it's true though, you don't know why he "didn't budge" and the idea that the teacher is getting his bearings with the names of over 100 kids is pretty reasonable. It's also a bit reactionary to reach out to the administration and get action taken in the very first week of school.

Quite a pretzel you are twisting into to defend a bigot. Then again your snide comment about Lord Fontleroy suggests you are defending your own bigotry.

Go a head and be man enough to admit you despise trans people. Have the courage of your convictions and don’t be a wuss afraid to state them.

What a weird and dramatic over reaction to a comment. I too questioned the validity of this story.

Did you sneeringly call a trans teen Little Lord Fontleroy?

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Anonymous wrote:It seems petty, but without any context about why the teacher refuses to use the new name, we are left to speculate. Even in the most extreme scenario, that the teacher is doing to register disapproval of the trans identified kid, it's not clear that the teacher is doing anything wrong by using the legal name on the roster.

More likely... the teacher just doesn't give a crap about a teenager feeling like the other gender, or being some alternate status of non-gender. Most likely, the teacher has over 100 students per day, and the school year just started, and he doesn't remember that Larlo wants to be called Casey. He's probably just reading off a roster. And the other nicknames are probably easy to remember because they somehow relate to the actual name. I'm not a huge apologist for teachers. But this seems like a case of your friends picking a fight with someone who is working their ass off and doesn't have time to validate the choices of Little Lord Fontleroy, who is apparently picking apart every interaction and making a capital case.

The administration brought it up with him, and he would not budge.

School has been in session 1-2 weeks in Texas. This is so much drama that I strain to believe it. Even if it's true though, you don't know why he "didn't budge" and the idea that the teacher is getting his bearings with the names of over 100 kids is pretty reasonable. It's also a bit reactionary to reach out to the administration and get action taken in the very first week of school.

Quite a pretzel you are twisting into to defend a bigot. Then again your snide comment about Lord Fontleroy suggests you are defending your own bigotry.

Go a head and be man enough to admit you despise trans people. Have the courage of your convictions and don’t be a wuss afraid to state them.

I'm not a man. I'm putting myself in the shoes of the teacher and trying to determine the motivation, taking into account the fact that Texas has only been in session for 1-2 weeks.

Now the OP says that this actually happened last year, which makes the initial post even more suspect.

Maybe Texas's law is bad, I don't know enough about it, but this is probably not a real scenario.

Why did you mock the child by calling them Little Lord Fontleroy? Out of pure nastiness that’s why. You are not a good person.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems petty, but without any context about why the teacher refuses to use the new name, we are left to speculate. Even in the most extreme scenario, that the teacher is doing to register disapproval of the trans identified kid, it's not clear that the teacher is doing anything wrong by using the legal name on the roster.

More likely... the teacher just doesn't give a crap about a teenager feeling like the other gender, or being some alternate status of non-gender. Most likely, the teacher has over 100 students per day, and the school year just started, and he doesn't remember that Larlo wants to be called Casey. He's probably just reading off a roster. And the other nicknames are probably easy to remember because they somehow relate to the actual name. I'm not a huge apologist for teachers. But this seems like a case of your friends picking a fight with someone who is working their ass off and doesn't have time to validate the choices of Little Lord Fontleroy, who is apparently picking apart every interaction and making a capital case.

The administration brought it up with him, and he would not budge.

School has been in session 1-2 weeks in Texas. This is so much drama that I strain to believe it. Even if it's true though, you don't know why he "didn't budge" and the idea that the teacher is getting his bearings with the names of over 100 kids is pretty reasonable. It's also a bit reactionary to reach out to the administration and get action taken in the very first week of school.

Quite a pretzel you are twisting into to defend a bigot. Then again your snide comment about Lord Fontleroy suggests you are defending your own bigotry.

Go a head and be man enough to admit you despise trans people. Have the courage of your convictions and don’t be a wuss afraid to state them.

I'm not a man. I'm putting myself in the shoes of the teacher and trying to determine the motivation, taking into account the fact that Texas has only been in session for 1-2 weeks.

Now the OP says that this actually happened last year, which makes the initial post even more suspect.

Maybe Texas's law is bad, I don't know enough about it, but this is probably not a real scenario.

Why did you mock the child by calling them Little Lord Fontleroy? Out of pure nastiness that’s why. You are not a good person.

Because the kid sounds extremely over dramatic! They’ve never faced any actual hardship and being referred to by a name they dislike led to psychiatric hospitalization. Sorry, it’s a bit much. NP who didn’t call them Fontleroy but thinks this is incredibly lame.

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Anonymous wrote:I 100% believe this story. I'm in Florida and this state followed suit. It's now in statute that a teacher can only use a nickname or any other name for a kid if a parent fills out a specific form (I guess, oddly, in this case it might have helped.) In the guidance from the school, it reads that, "for example, if your child's name is Robert and they wish to go by Rob." Which of course is utter BS and no teacher on this planet is going to ask for a form to call a kid Rob instead of Robert. There's all kinds of new rules for schools and teachers, and it's 100% directed at trans kids. It's so sick, the hatred dripping from every word of the text. But we're just two days into school and teachers are ignoring it, according to my daughter.

Is this what that rule is about? I live in Florida too and don't understand why we need the form for a nickname. The law is about students enrolled in school under a name that's different from their legal name. This is about the enrollment name vs. the legal name. I don't see anything in this law regarding nicknames.

So my child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as John Doe. He prefers to be called Jack. No problem.

My child's legal name is John Doe. I enroll him as Jack Doe. Now we need the form.

To me, it looks like someone is misinterpreting the law to require the form in the first scenario.

That's of course what that new rule is about. There is no way that any teacher, principal or superintendent gave two craps about nicknames, until they realized that they could phrase in some way for it to seem like it was nondiscriminatory and applied equally across the board but stick it to the transgender kids. So they craft this dumb rule that says if Judith wants to be referred to as Judy, parents need to fill out a form. It's utter BS.

The rule also states "for our transgender students" that Robert can be called Roberta if a parent fills out the form, but that no teacher or staff member is allowed to refer to Roberta as she or her. So they're saying that even if a parent says yes, call my child Roberta, the school will still refer to Roberta as he/him. Parental Freedom and Rights my a$$. They are hateful liars, all of them.

PP here and I'm truly trying to understand. The rule is listed on the form. The rule doesn't mention anything about nicknames or pronouns. In plain English, the form is just for enrolling a child in school under a name that is different from the child's legal name. Can you please help me connect the dots regarding why this form is used for nicknames or pronouns and how this rule/form is discriminatory against trans students? I'm not saying that it's not, but I just don't fully understand this issue and I'd like to learn more. Thanks in advance.

I also don’t understand and would like to. TIA!

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Anonymous wrote:It seems petty, but without any context about why the teacher refuses to use the new name, we are left to speculate. Even in the most extreme scenario, that the teacher is doing to register disapproval of the trans identified kid, it's not clear that the teacher is doing anything wrong by using the legal name on the roster.

More likely... the teacher just doesn't give a crap about a teenager feeling like the other gender, or being some alternate status of non-gender. Most likely, the teacher has over 100 students per day, and the school year just started, and he doesn't remember that Larlo wants to be called Casey. He's probably just reading off a roster. And the other nicknames are probably easy to remember because they somehow relate to the actual name. I'm not a huge apologist for teachers. But this seems like a case of your friends picking a fight with someone who is working their ass off and doesn't have time to validate the choices of Little Lord Fontleroy, who is apparently picking apart every interaction and making a capital case.

The administration brought it up with him, and he would not budge.

School has been in session 1-2 weeks in Texas. This is so much drama that I strain to believe it. Even if it's true though, you don't know why he "didn't budge" and the idea that the teacher is getting his bearings with the names of over 100 kids is pretty reasonable. It's also a bit reactionary to reach out to the administration and get action taken in the very first week of school.

Quite a pretzel you are twisting into to defend a bigot. Then again your snide comment about Lord Fontleroy suggests you are defending your own bigotry.

Go a head and be man enough to admit you despise trans people. Have the courage of your convictions and don’t be a wuss afraid to state them.

I'm not a man. I'm putting myself in the shoes of the teacher and trying to determine the motivation, taking into account the fact that Texas has only been in session for 1-2 weeks.

Now the OP says that this actually happened last year, which makes the initial post even more suspect.

Maybe Texas's law is bad, I don't know enough about it, but this is probably not a real scenario.

Why did you mock the child by calling them Little Lord Fontleroy? Out of pure nastiness that’s why. You are not a good person.

Because the kid sounds extremely over dramatic! They’ve never faced any actual hardship and being referred to by a name they dislike led to psychiatric hospitalization. Sorry, it’s a bit much. NP who didn’t call them Fontleroy but thinks this is incredibly lame.

I am not the PP but come on. The child was almost certainly not hospitalized because of the name, and supporting gratuitous name-calling just weakens your credibility. You just sound nasty and ignorant. OP made it clear that the name incident with the teacher happened in conjunction with hormonal treatment withdrawal. We don’t know why the child was hospitalized but one can reasonably hazard a guess that being abruptly withdrawn from medication that has extensive physical and mental impact and that is frequently (if incorrectly) called “lifesaving” by the medical professionals, peers, loved ones, and other people the child trusts most would have a severe mental health impact. This child was let down across the board, but was almost certainly not hospitalized because of one jerk of a teacher. Use your head.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems petty, but without any context about why the teacher refuses to use the new name, we are left to speculate. Even in the most extreme scenario, that the teacher is doing to register disapproval of the trans identified kid, it's not clear that the teacher is doing anything wrong by using the legal name on the roster.

More likely... the teacher just doesn't give a crap about a teenager feeling like the other gender, or being some alternate status of non-gender. Most likely, the teacher has over 100 students per day, and the school year just started, and he doesn't remember that Larlo wants to be called Casey. He's probably just reading off a roster. And the other nicknames are probably easy to remember because they somehow relate to the actual name. I'm not a huge apologist for teachers. But this seems like a case of your friends picking a fight with someone who is working their ass off and doesn't have time to validate the choices of Little Lord Fontleroy, who is apparently picking apart every interaction and making a capital case.

The administration brought it up with him, and he would not budge.

School has been in session 1-2 weeks in Texas. This is so much drama that I strain to believe it. Even if it's true though, you don't know why he "didn't budge" and the idea that the teacher is getting his bearings with the names of over 100 kids is pretty reasonable. It's also a bit reactionary to reach out to the administration and get action taken in the very first week of school.

Quite a pretzel you are twisting into to defend a bigot. Then again your snide comment about Lord Fontleroy suggests you are defending your own bigotry.

Go a head and be man enough to admit you despise trans people. Have the courage of your convictions and don’t be a wuss afraid to state them.

I'm not a man. I'm putting myself in the shoes of the teacher and trying to determine the motivation, taking into account the fact that Texas has only been in session for 1-2 weeks.

Now the OP says that this actually happened last year, which makes the initial post even more suspect.

Maybe Texas's law is bad, I don't know enough about it, but this is probably not a real scenario.

Why did you mock the child by calling them Little Lord Fontleroy? Out of pure nastiness that’s why. You are not a good person.

Because the kid sounds extremely over dramatic! They’ve never faced any actual hardship and being referred to by a name they dislike led to psychiatric hospitalization. Sorry, it’s a bit much. NP who didn’t call them Fontleroy but thinks this is incredibly lame.

I don’t think the kid is being dramatic but is clearly mentally unwell. Unfortunately this population is known to have a lot of mental health issues. Many students can have rough upbringings or other hardships but don’t end up getting hospitalized in a psych unit. I truly hope this kid is getting quality care from a good mental health care provider and not one just solely focusing on gender affirmation.