AITA- breakfast drama

[Anonymous]

8:50 is pretty early. Stop making breakfast so early.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read through all the posts, but I would have gagged if someone tried to make me eat eggs in the morning when I didn’t want to. I can’t blame your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8:50 is pretty early. Stop making breakfast so early.

I mean this isn't quite true, its a very normal time for breakfast. But only if the participants WANT breakfast! Otherwise any time is too early if you're not hungry.

[Anonymous]

Girl, this was definitely a "you" thing. Do you have a therapist?

[Anonymous]

Instead of making eggs you should've just gone to the store and gotten milk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need this much control over their schedule on a Saturday morning? Leave them alone unless there is a reason to leave the house early. You are setting yourself up for miserable teenage years.

Right? I would be so freakin happy to have some alone time. Just let them sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At around 8:50, I nudged the kids (DS (14) had already gotten up to get his phone around 8ish) and I said I would make fresh scrambled eggs and assemble a few other breakfast items (as we were out of milk for cereal). I said they could have 5 minutes but then be downstairs. DH was out running errands so it was just the kids and I.

I gave them 7-8 minutes and asked them to come downstairs as the eggs were ready. They yelled back that they were tired and that they weren’t hungry. I again asked that they come down- it was after 9 and the eggs were ready (along with other breakfast items). At one point I heard DS even said to DD (11) at one point that they better go down before mom gets mad. They eventually came down- DD threw all the stuff off the couch onto the floor (which I told her to pick up and scolded her for it) and DS said he just wanted cereal. He even prepared a bowl until he realized we were out of milk.

He kept pushing back on why we had to get up/have breakfast. I explained I wanted to have breakfast as a family, even if DH was out, and how their reactions made me feel (hurt) and that it came across as disrespectful as it felt like I was being ignored. He accused me of being a hypocrite and that I was perceiving their actions to be that way when they weren’t.

So DCUM- AITA? WWYD? Why do I need to ask multiple times before my kids do what I ask? Is that normal? I just feel so disrespected and am worried I’m raising brats. But I don’t know if DH has my back (that’s for another post) so I’m not sure how to proceed. They are now downtairs listening to music after complaining about me. Is it just tween/teenage thing?

Yeah. You’re the arsehole, chill the phuck out already.

[Anonymous]

OP acted like a petulant teenager. Ironic.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, I agree with the others that you were misguided to demand they eat on your schedule just cause you were in the mood that day. Next time, spend the time running to the store for the milk so they can have the cereal they actually wanted when they are ready to eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I agree with the others that you were misguided to demand they eat on your schedule just cause you were in the mood that day. Next time, spend the time running to the store for the milk so they can have the cereal they actually wanted when they are ready to eat.

Why are you apologizing to her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an 11yo. What we’re the other breakfast items you prepared? Just curious, I ask my kid now what she wants but it’s pretty much a choice of 3 variations. If she’s not hungry she has to drink juice but I don’t make her eat, although it feels wrong to me I’ve learned to let it go.
I don’t you’re an A but I think you set everyone up to fail this morning. Breakfast doesn’t need to be a big deal as far as family time.

Why does she have to drink juice? She’s old enough to know when she’s hungry, unless there is a medical problem at play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I agree with the others that you were misguided to demand they eat on your schedule just cause you were in the mood that day. Next time, spend the time running to the store for the milk so they can have the cereal they actually wanted when they are ready to eat.

Why are you apologizing to her

Because although I think OP is wrong, it isn’t fun to do something you thought was nice that no one appreciated then have DCUM unanimously agree you were wrong. I feel a bit bad for her. Hopefully she learns and doesn’t get defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At around 8:50, I nudged the kids (DS (14) had already gotten up to get his phone around 8ish) and I said I would make fresh scrambled eggs and assemble a few other breakfast items (as we were out of milk for cereal). I said they could have 5 minutes but then be downstairs. DH was out running errands so it was just the kids and I.

I gave them 7-8 minutes and asked them to come downstairs as the eggs were ready. They yelled back that they were tired and that they weren’t hungry. I again asked that they come down- it was after 9 and the eggs were ready (along with other breakfast items). At one point I heard DS even said to DD (11) at one point that they better go down before mom gets mad. They eventually came down- DD threw all the stuff off the couch onto the floor (which I told her to pick up and scolded her for it) and DS said he just wanted cereal. He even prepared a bowl until he realized we were out of milk.

He kept pushing back on why we had to get up/have breakfast. I explained I wanted to have breakfast as a family, even if DH was out, and how their reactions made me feel (hurt) and that it came across as disrespectful as it felt like I was being ignored. He accused me of being a hypocrite and that I was perceiving their actions to be that way when they weren’t.

So DCUM- AITA? WWYD? Why do I need to ask multiple times before my kids do what I ask? Is that normal? I just feel so disrespected and am worried I’m raising brats. But I don’t know if DH has my back (that’s for another post) so I’m not sure how to proceed. They are now downtairs listening to music after complaining about me. Is it just tween/teenage thing?

Yeah, this drama was for no reason. Let them be. Don't force them to eat breakfast so as not to hurt your feelings.

This. You were hurt because they didn't want to eat breakfast when you did? That's silly, and just looking for conflict.

[Anonymous]

Jeezus these kids are utter brats. Not tolerated in our house, so it does not happen.

Also, no screens on weekends -- that's time for family, sports, chores.

9am? We are out the door at 7am for hiking.