Drunk Elephant and Lululemon at private schools

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, Lulu can have some nice clothes that are lovely and last for a long time. Get them on sale and on Poshmark.
I actually expected much more expensive brands if they go to private. I also would expect the rich not to even talk about clothes or money since it shouldn't be an issue.
Second hand shopping is big in DC among the young. Kids are all over the market where they sell old t-shirts and Levi's.

What are the “much more expensive brands”?

[Anonymous]

Please don't send your dd to private school and then tell her she can't have the things that she needs to fit into said private school OP. It's not a good idea.

If you really can't afford it, you can't afford it. But if you can, give her a chance to fit in. Otherwise, reconsider your selection of private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't send your dd to private school and then tell her she can't have the things that she needs to fit into said private school OP. It's not a good idea.

If you really can't afford it, you can't afford it. But if you can, give her a chance to fit in. Otherwise, reconsider your selection of private school.

So you don’t want poor kids at your school and are happy to use lululemon to weed them out. Interesting strategy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, Lulu can have some nice clothes that are lovely and last for a long time. Get them on sale and on Poshmark.
I actually expected much more expensive brands if they go to private. I also would expect the rich not to even talk about clothes or money since it shouldn't be an issue.
Second hand shopping is big in DC among the young. Kids are all over the market where they sell old t-shirts and Levi's.

What are the “much more expensive brands”?

Love Shack Fancy, Golden Goose, Gucci

[Anonymous]

Which particular items are teen girls wearing from Lululemon besides the Swifties and the hotty hot shorts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which particular items are teen girls wearing from Lululemon besides the Swifties and the hotty hot shorts?

The crossbody is a staple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't send your dd to private school and then tell her she can't have the things that she needs to fit into said private school OP. It's not a good idea.

If you really can't afford it, you can't afford it. But if you can, give her a chance to fit in. Otherwise, reconsider your selection of private school.

Really disagree with this. Good social skills will be WAY more important than wearing certain brands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up with my parents telling me we could never afford any of the things I wanted. It was incredibly rough. I also thought we were poor. Turns out we weren’t poor, my parents just weren’t good at that part of parenting. Don’t be like them, find a middle ground.

Same. I was ostracized in the 80s for not having brand name clothes (Izod and Polo shirts, Lee and Levi jeans, etc). I was wearing crap from Goodwill. I didn't even have socks or underwear. My mother, bitter about the divorce she initiated and the crash in lifestyle that came with us, was always going on about how destitute we were. Turns out, she had plenty of money -- she is just a money hoarder and won't spend it on necessities (although she had plenty of nice clothes for herself).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, Lulu can have some nice clothes that are lovely and last for a long time. Get them on sale and on Poshmark.
I actually expected much more expensive brands if they go to private. I also would expect the rich not to even talk about clothes or money since it shouldn't be an issue.
Second hand shopping is big in DC among the young. Kids are all over the market where they sell old t-shirts and Levi's.

What are the “much more expensive brands”?

Love Shack Fancy, Golden Goose, Gucci

Yes, my upper school girls wear LSF dresses and Golden Goose. All their friends do as well. They attend a Big3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't send your dd to private school and then tell her she can't have the things that she needs to fit into said private school OP. It's not a good idea.

If you really can't afford it, you can't afford it. But if you can, give her a chance to fit in. Otherwise, reconsider your selection of private school.

So you don’t want poor kids at your school and are happy to use lululemon to weed them out. Interesting strategy.

No, I am now an adult whose parents sent her to private school without thinking this through. I was friends with the other poorer kids and was always fussed at by my mom about why I wasn't making friends with the wealthier kids. The fact that I didn't have transportation to many school events or ECs or the "right" clothes or the ability to participate in the same leisure activities never occured to my parents. They had no idea what they signed up for.

I see these threads pop up on recent topics. It's a common theme that parents don't even think about this, especially for girls. I see the same thing happening in wealthier public school districts as well, it's not just privates.

Either you need to figure out how to reasonably try to find the funds or find a way to deal with the demands for clothing (buy used, buy neutrals) and high dollar activities. Or, talk to your daughter and let her know up front that this is life and her goal is to receive a good education at this school and that's the most you can provide for her in high school unless she gets a job to pay for everything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't send your dd to private school and then tell her she can't have the things that she needs to fit into said private school OP. It's not a good idea.

If you really can't afford it, you can't afford it. But if you can, give her a chance to fit in. Otherwise, reconsider your selection of private school.

Really disagree with this. Good social skills will be WAY more important than wearing certain brands.

In certain environments, yes. In the non DC private high school I attended? No. Kids can be brutal.

[Anonymous]

So that's how Drunk Elephant is still in business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So that's how Drunk Elephant is still in business.

+1 I don't like DE products at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't send your dd to private school and then tell her she can't have the things that she needs to fit into said private school OP. It's not a good idea.

If you really can't afford it, you can't afford it. But if you can, give her a chance to fit in. Otherwise, reconsider your selection of private school.

So you don’t want poor kids at your school and are happy to use lululemon to weed them out. Interesting strategy.

That's not what it's about. I posted here a while ago about my son being bullied over wearing generic Children's Place shoes. We can afford Nike, and that's what he wears now. It's about him fitting in with one small change, not weeding out others.

[Anonymous]

Maybe get your DD one or two basic drunk elephant product, like a basic cleanser, or serum. Then for Lululemon just buy her an outfit with shorts and a top, Wishing well!