Etiquette for beach house stay

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Anonymous wrote:A family friend of ours has invited us to join them for a week at their beach house this summer. They have 2 kids, we have 3 kids.

What should we offer/bring to show our appreciation for hosting us? We will offer to pay for groceries and eating out, but should I bring a host gift? Anything else? Do I need to do all the laundry on the day we leave (sheets, towels)? This is our first time being hosted at a vacation home.

Fwiw, both families are well-off (kids in private schools, luxury cars, etc), so it’s not a financial burden for them to host us or for us to offer to pay for stuff. I want to be a good guest.

You are nauseating and I would want to vacation with you in a million years.

Why couldn’t you just say “money isn’t the issue neither of us is hurting” or something like that. “Kids in prívate schools, luxury cars?” Really?

DP here. Someone sounds jealous.

Nope. I have plenty of money. A net worth well into the millions. I just don’t / didn’t waste it on luxury cars or private schools. That way I don’t have to mooch off of others for my vacations.

Anybody who feels the need to say they drive a luxury car and sends their kids to private schools when neither is germane in any way to the issue being discussed is simply pathetic.

You sound like fun! 🙄

I’m a lot more fun than OP.

NP. Jeez, this theme is really off topic for the thread. Im trying to read it for advice on being a good guest. OP’s original post seemed fine to me. Maybe she mentioned particular outward indicators of wealth because she doesn’t know the other family’s wealth level for sure, but she has a guess based on these indicators

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a beach house and like the PP there aren't many families we are keen to host every year. The ones who are on the 'any time' list clean up after themselves, chip in with meals, are easy or low maintenance company and keep themselves busy. Consumable gifts are appreciated, not mugs, towels or trinkets.

A few things that get on my nerves by the end of a week but that I don't feel like I can say to a guest:
-leaving wet towels in a heap where they start to stink
-not reusing beach towels, pulling a new one out every time
-tracking sand everywhere
-pulling out every possible toy or watersport at once and not helping put them back or putting them back dirty
-not offering to help with meals or after dinner cleanup
-leaving doors and windows open while the AC is running

Are you me? Op, basically don’t use the place like a hotel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A family friend of ours has invited us to join them for a week at their beach house this summer. They have 2 kids, we have 3 kids.

What should we offer/bring to show our appreciation for hosting us? We will offer to pay for groceries and eating out, but should I bring a host gift? Anything else? Do I need to do all the laundry on the day we leave (sheets, towels)? This is our first time being hosted at a vacation home.

Fwiw, both families are well-off (kids in private schools, luxury cars, etc), so it’s not a financial burden for them to host us or for us to offer to pay for stuff. I want to be a good guest.

You are nauseating and I would want to vacation with you in a million years.

Why couldn’t you just say “money isn’t the issue neither of us is hurting” or something like that. “Kids in prívate schools, luxury cars?” Really?

DP here. Someone sounds jealous.

Nope. I have plenty of money. A net worth well into the millions. I just don’t / didn’t waste it on luxury cars or private schools. That way I don’t have to mooch off of others for my vacations.

Anybody who feels the need to say they drive a luxury car and sends their kids to private schools when neither is germane in any way to the issue being discussed is simply pathetic.

You sound like fun! 🙄

I’m a lot more fun than OP.

NP. Jeez, this theme is really off topic for the thread. Im trying to read it for advice on being a good guest. OP’s original post seemed fine to me. Maybe she mentioned particular outward indicators of wealth because she doesn’t know the other family’s wealth level for sure, but she has a guess based on these indicators

Blame the OP then. Not her audience. She lost half of it with her boorish comments about wealth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A family friend of ours has invited us to join them for a week at their beach house this summer. They have 2 kids, we have 3 kids.

What should we offer/bring to show our appreciation for hosting us? We will offer to pay for groceries and eating out, but should I bring a host gift? Anything else? Do I need to do all the laundry on the day we leave (sheets, towels)? This is our first time being hosted at a vacation home.

Fwiw, both families are well-off (kids in private schools, luxury cars, etc), so it’s not a financial burden for them to host us or for us to offer to pay for stuff. I want to be a good guest.

You are nauseating and I would want to vacation with you in a million years.

Why couldn’t you just say “money isn’t the issue neither of us is hurting” or something like that. “Kids in prívate schools, luxury cars?” Really?

DP here. Someone sounds jealous.

Nope. I have plenty of money. A net worth well into the millions. I just don’t / didn’t waste it on luxury cars or private schools. That way I don’t have to mooch off of others for my vacations.

Anybody who feels the need to say they drive a luxury car and sends their kids to private schools when neither is germane in any way to the issue being discussed is simply pathetic.

You sound like fun! 🙄

I’m a lot more fun than OP.

NP. Jeez, this theme is really off topic for the thread. Im trying to read it for advice on being a good guest. OP’s original post seemed fine to me. Maybe she mentioned particular outward indicators of wealth because she doesn’t know the other family’s wealth level for sure, but she has a guess based on these indicators

Blame the OP then. Not her audience. She lost half of it with her boorish comments about wealth.

NP - I'm pretty sure it isn't half, just a couple of people who are having bad days and feel the need to belabor a small point.

Regardless, surely we can all agree that this particular horse is dead, and that there's no need to mention it anymore so we can get back to the original question?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A family friend of ours has invited us to join them for a week at their beach house this summer. They have 2 kids, we have 3 kids.

What should we offer/bring to show our appreciation for hosting us? We will offer to pay for groceries and eating out, but should I bring a host gift? Anything else? Do I need to do all the laundry on the day we leave (sheets, towels)? This is our first time being hosted at a vacation home.

Fwiw, both families are well-off (kids in private schools, luxury cars, etc), so it’s not a financial burden for them to host us or for us to offer to pay for stuff. I want to be a good guest.

You are nauseating and I would want to vacation with you in a million years.

Why couldn’t you just say “money isn’t the issue neither of us is hurting” or something like that. “Kids in prívate schools, luxury cars?” Really?

DP here. Someone sounds jealous.

Nope. I have plenty of money. A net worth well into the millions. I just don’t / didn’t waste it on luxury cars or private schools. That way I don’t have to mooch off of others for my vacations.

Anybody who feels the need to say they drive a luxury car and sends their kids to private schools when neither is germane in any way to the issue being discussed is simply pathetic.

You sound like fun! 🙄

I’m a lot more fun than OP.

NP. Jeez, this theme is really off topic for the thread. Im trying to read it for advice on being a good guest. OP’s original post seemed fine to me. Maybe she mentioned particular outward indicators of wealth because she doesn’t know the other family’s wealth level for sure, but she has a guess based on these indicators

Blame the OP then. Not her audience. She lost half of it with her boorish comments about wealth.

NP - I'm pretty sure it isn't half, just a couple of people who are having bad days and feel the need to belabor a small point.

Regardless, surely we can all agree that this particular horse is dead, and that there's no need to mention it anymore so we can get back to the original question?

The whole thread is a dead horse. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out how they should conduct themselves as guests at another family’s home or how to show appreciation. Enough has been said already. And the OP never came back either.