DH outfit preferences
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Anonymous
Wrong. The only women I’ve seen look good are ones with perfect bodies. Most of you look frumpy and bumpy and sloppy as hell. Sorry. Truth hurts. You’re not the ones looking at your ass as it moves in the bright sunlight. Leaves nothing to the imagination, but in a bad way. |
Anonymous
The fact that you don't see any middle ground between yoga pants/sneakers/your college sweatshirt and "a dress and [dress] shoes" is pretty telling. You really have no clothes between those two extremes? And yes, those are two ends of a spectrum. Not one pair of khakis, dress pants, nicer jeans? Blouses and tops that aren't Lululemon sports-bra type tops? As for this: "Half these posts are saying yoga pants are low effort and the other half are saying "omg you're being gawked at." Which is it." You fail to understand: Low effort clothes get gawked at. Those two things aren't mutually exclusive. Low effort here means skintight on the bottom and a top that's basically a bra, so, sure, that's a look at lot of men are going to stare at while they thank God for women who think it's fine to wear their low-effort clothes everywhere, all the time, unless they're at the office or a "nice dinner out." |
Anonymous
This statement would send me out the door in bikini and heels. |
Anonymous
Prude is a noun, not an adjective. "Prudish" is the word you are looking for. |
Anonymous
Right. My husband is always complimenting me when I wear leggings or skinny jeans. Definitely his preferred look over dress pants or regular jeans. |
Anonymous
Well, jeans certainly aren’t dressy. And those wide legged jeans that are popular now are actually very sloppy looking. I guess they’re great to cover up a less than perfect body but they don’t look at all neat and attractive. |
Anonymous
Me too! My kinda girl! |
Anonymous
Let us know when and where! |
Anonymous
If you at all resemble Rebecca, I would probably endorse that. |
Anonymous
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As I see it, there is potential for multiple (and possibly conflicting) truths.
If those words or something like them came out of my mouth as a DH, here's what I would likely mean by it: 1. It's a compliment. Wear what you want. 2. I have a preference, it might just be a preference. Still, wear what you want. 3. If it isn't just a preference... and assuming I've been truthful about everything else, it might be (a) not prudishness or commentary on your body as it is a comment on the quality of yoga pants. Because (b) I'm a straight cis male so I've got a lizard brain tuned like the worst of my kind who act out and I notice and appreciate other women in yoga pants... and I also notice when they're practically see through... and I have the thoughts I have. Maybe this is paternalistic or patronizing, maybe slightly prude because I don't want to say "Dear, I can see when you're not wearing panties under those things, and I think about ____________________ and I know other guys do too, even the polite ones." 4. Because I have those thoughts, and I think I can appreciate a woman who - for whatever reason (may or may not be their body and how they're dressed that day) triggers it without being overt about it and denigrating them (or myself) in any way, but I still don't like it and I don't think my partner truly understands my lizard brain or the others guys or what very subtle lines might be crossed that trigger lizard brains in even the nicest, most respectable people. 5. Maybe that is just prudishness... like progressive prudishness? It is certainly a projection. But it does seem like some women are naive in this way and repulsed when informed about this perspective. |
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Anonymous
Oh my goodness this is 10x nicer than how my husband has worded similar sentiments. I cannot imagine being offended by something so polite. |
Anonymous
| DH prefers seeing me in crotchless panties over thongs. |
Anonymous
| My husband loves me in yoga pants. |
Anonymous
| Do women care what their DH wears around the house? |