DH outfit preferences
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Anonymous
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OP, do you tend to wear leggings/yoga pants anyplace outside the house? Maybe your DH is trying to find a diplomatic way to tell you that it's not a look for outside the house or the gym. They're often skintight and maybe he feels that he prefers to keep your curves for himself and/or the look is too revealing. Some leggings/yoga pants are tight in front as well as in back (do I need to elaborate here? I hope not) and I really wonder sometimes if women wearing them at the store, around town, etc. realize that. |
Anonymous
| Amazing how some women can be so paranoid and joyless that an unqualified compliment is a potential reason for insecurity or offense. Sheesh. No wonder everyone around here seems to be in unhappy marriages. |
Anonymous
While there was definitely a complement from the DH, it wasn't exactly "unqualified" in her mind since he didn't favor her leggings or yoga pants. But I agree that she's not seeing the positive here, which is almost everything he said. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
According to OP, he said she looks great in everything but prefers jeans over leggings. You really have to work to find a backhanded compliment here. |
Anonymous
| He probably finds leggings too revealing. My husband hates revealing clothing too. |
Anonymous
+1, my husband is a total old man (at 39) and would want me to "leave something to the imagination" in public. |
Anonymous
| It’s a complement, OP. |
Anonymous
I said that SHE's perceiving a slight to her beloved leggings. |
Anonymous
+1 DP. My DH is an old-fashioned kind of guy and hates the trend of "athleisure." I didn't realize it until we were on a vacation and visiting a historic home and there was a group of women, all in pricey but very much "nothing left to the imagination" yoga pants and those "sports bra" types of yoga tops as their daywear as they toured around the historic site. He turned red and asked me in total seriousness if clothes like that were, well, clothes, or gym clothes, or what? He seriously doesn't understand the idea that some consider these things "clothing" for wearing outside the house. He's no prude with me at home, for sure, but just doesn't see how leggings and yoga pants are fine as daywear. (Neither do I.) |
Anonymous
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The yoga pants hate is pretty intense here. Body shaming dudes uniting with prude women.
I say this as a guy who loves his cargo shorts, so I too have known oppression. |
Anonymous
"Prude" women? Nope. Women with class, who don't need the validation of being gawked at by strangers while at the grocery store or picking up the kids from school. |
Anonymous
| Most women do not look good in leggings. Maybe he's trying to tell you not to walk around in public in them. I have only seen about a dozen women in the past dozen years that actually have the body to wear them out in public. I am 5'7" and weight 115lbs and I STILL would never go out in public in them unless I'm running. I look great in tight jeans and pants, but leggings don't do anyone any favors. |
Anonymous
Np here perhaps the better term for you I'd pick me |
Anonymous
| As long as he doesn't shame you for your preference. He's allowed to have a preference too. My husband has preferences and sometimes I tell him straight up "I know you hate these jeans but I like them so too bad" (usually something wide leg and baggy). And he knows I prefer him in a plain shirt rather than a graphic tee with a really dumb slogan on it. But he wears the tees anyway and I love him anyway. |