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[quote=Anonymous]As I see it, there is potential for multiple (and possibly conflicting) truths.

If those words or something like them came out of my mouth as a DH, here's what I would likely mean by it:

1. It's a compliment. Wear what you want.
2. I have a preference, it might just be a preference. Still, wear what you want.
3. If it isn't just a preference... and assuming I've been truthful about everything else, it might be (a) not prudishness or commentary on your body as it is a comment on the quality of yoga pants. Because (b) I'm a straight cis male so I've got a lizard brain tuned like the worst of my kind who act out and I notice and appreciate other women in yoga pants... and I also notice when they're practically see through... and I have the thoughts I have. Maybe this is paternalistic or patronizing, maybe slightly prude because I don't want to say "Dear, I can see when you're not wearing panties under those things, and I think about ____________________ and I know other guys do too, even the polite ones."
4. Because I have those thoughts, and I think I can appreciate a woman who - for whatever reason (may or may not be their body and how they're dressed that day) triggers it without being overt about it and denigrating them (or myself) in any way, but I still don't like it and I don't think my partner truly understands my lizard brain or the others guys or what very subtle lines might be crossed that trigger lizard brains in even the nicest, most respectable people.
5. Maybe that is just prudishness... like progressive prudishness? It is certainly a projection. But it does seem like some women are naive in this way and repulsed when informed about this perspective.[/quote]

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