Contraceptive for DD heading to college

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Anonymous wrote:What a strange post. My DD, through our family background and religious training, knew sex in college was not sensible. And never bothered with it. (yes, I really know this to be true before you DCUM naysayers say she was a harlot on campus). Some of us really do conduct ourselves with dignity. And now she is getting married to someone worth her. Why do you all assume your daughters are going to have sex? Are you not that close to them to know that? I am that close

I am almost certain my parents think the same about me as you think about your DD to this day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:(1) Take her to a gyn. They will kick you out of the room and discuss with her.
(2) She will figure it out when she gets on campus and goes to health center.
(3) She will do one of the many online services just for this.

Doctors hand out birth control prescriptions to that age group. Just make sure she has the insurance card.

Agree. You don’t need to micromanage this. She is an adult, has heath insurance under you/spouse and can manage this. Absolutely bring it up and ask her if she wants an appt before college, let her know the different sources to obtain birth control in college (health center, planned parenthood, etc.) but otherwise, drop it

Yes. It is most important that OP lets her DD know that she approves of her getting birth control. So that DD isn’t scared to use her insurance card. They’ll need to look into whether their insurance covers the full cost of an IUD. Her DS using insurance to get BC will tell her parents that she is, well, getting BC and she shouldn’t have to be scared of doing that.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

Be offended, then. Because if OP’s daughter gets pregnant, the burden of raising the child will fall on OP as it always does in such situations. Not to mention, OP’s daughter might not know yet if she’ll want to be sexually active, but if/when she does in the heat of a moment, she needs to have contraception.

Obv OP is going to have a conversation with her adult daughter headed to college to see if she is wanting to get contraception. Her daughter would say no if not interested and OP has to accept that.

It isn’t hard to get contraception. And school heath center can provide this if/when she is ready if she doesn’t want to just yet.

You can get IUD at college heath center? Or just condoms

Pretty sure you can’t get that, nor can you get BC pills, at the college health center unless your child is on the college’s health insurance. Most children of DCUM posters are on their parents’ insurance as undergraduates.

Also, double check if the school gives out BC or condoms. Catholic colleges don’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IUD insertion IS painful. If you’ve had a kid and recall the cervical checks, it’s like that.

They don’t offer numbing because they don’t know who will experience it as very painful and because the medical system doesn’t care about the pain of women.

But, it’s fast, and having a hormonal IUD isn’t painful. There’s an adjustment period where you may have a lot of spotting, but then periods will be lighter/easier or go away.

It’s definitely what I will recommend to my daughter, having used a few methods.

Many gynecologists do offer numbing, but you have to ask for it.

PSA regardung numbing the cervix for IUD inserts. The reason this is not offered regularly is because it just doesn’t help very much. The part of the insertion that hurts is when IUD passes through the internal cervical canal opening into the uterus. We do not have a way to numb that part of the body. There is a lot of TikTok type messaging out there right now that cervical numbing is not offered because providers don’t care about women’s pain and while this has certainly been a relevant issue in other areas of medical care for a long time I can promise you in the case of IUD insertion it’s not the reason. Best bet for dealing with the pain of insertion is the medication to help with cramping. Numbing the cervix involves sticking a very large needle in to inject lidocaine (which does hurt!) But does not make the actual insertion more comfortable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IUD insertion IS painful. If you’ve had a kid and recall the cervical checks, it’s like that.

They don’t offer numbing because they don’t know who will experience it as very painful and because the medical system doesn’t care about the pain of women.

But, it’s fast, and having a hormonal IUD isn’t painful. There’s an adjustment period where you may have a lot of spotting, but then periods will be lighter/easier or go away.

It’s definitely what I will recommend to my daughter, having used a few methods.

Many gynecologists do offer numbing, but you have to ask for it.

PSA regardung numbing the cervix for IUD inserts. The reason this is not offered regularly is because it just doesn’t help very much. The part of the insertion that hurts is when IUD passes through the internal cervical canal opening into the uterus. We do not have a way to numb that part of the body. There is a lot of TikTok type messaging out there right now that cervical numbing is not offered because providers don’t care about women’s pain and while this has certainly been a relevant issue in other areas of medical care for a long time I can promise you in the case of IUD insertion it’s not the reason. Best bet for dealing with the pain of insertion is the medication to help with cramping. Numbing the cervix involves sticking a very large needle in to inject lidocaine (which does hurt!) But does not make the actual insertion more comfortable.

There are many ways to offer pain relief. We do sedation for 10 minute dental procedures, there is no reason it can’t be an option, if a patient chooses, for genital procedures. Or even one Xanax or Valium to help with any anxiety.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IUD insertion IS painful. If you’ve had a kid and recall the cervical checks, it’s like that.

They don’t offer numbing because they don’t know who will experience it as very painful and because the medical system doesn’t care about the pain of women.

But, it’s fast, and having a hormonal IUD isn’t painful. There’s an adjustment period where you may have a lot of spotting, but then periods will be lighter/easier or go away.

It’s definitely what I will recommend to my daughter, having used a few methods.

Many gynecologists do offer numbing, but you have to ask for it.

PSA regardung numbing the cervix for IUD inserts. The reason this is not offered regularly is because it just doesn’t help very much. The part of the insertion that hurts is when IUD passes through the internal cervical canal opening into the uterus. We do not have a way to numb that part of the body. There is a lot of TikTok type messaging out there right now that cervical numbing is not offered because providers don’t care about women’s pain and while this has certainly been a relevant issue in other areas of medical care for a long time I can promise you in the case of IUD insertion it’s not the reason. Best bet for dealing with the pain of insertion is the medication to help with cramping. Numbing the cervix involves sticking a very large needle in to inject lidocaine (which does hurt!) But does not make the actual insertion more comfortable.

There are many ways to offer pain relief. We do sedation for 10 minute dental procedures, there is no reason it can’t be an option, if a patient chooses, for genital procedures. Or even one Xanax or Valium to help with any anxiety.

You are absolutely right and plenty of people do take anxiety meds before insertion which can help. Sedation is another matter entirely. It requires medication and monitoring capacity that many regular offices don’t have ( risk of respiratory depression ). But what I am responding to specifically is the issue of cervical numbing. I insert IUDs as part of my job and I have this conversation all the time. There is an unfortunate belief that it’s not offered regularly because providers don’t care about women’s pain. That is a complicated Issue in healthcare, which deserves serious discussion, but it has nothing to do with why it’s not offered or encouraged for this particular procedure. To be clear I can, and have, done it when a patient has insisted they want it. But I want them to understand that injecting this medication hurts and is not going to accomplish what they are looking for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

And you were so smart and clever to avoid being raped.

Idk that the risk/benefits of side effects of birth control are worth it if you're only trying to avoid getting pregnant from rape.

This. Hormonal birth control xontrol does terrible things to me. Rape is a much lower risk.

[Anonymous]

Birth control patch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IUD insertion IS painful. If you’ve had a kid and recall the cervical checks, it’s like that.

They don’t offer numbing because they don’t know who will experience it as very painful and because the medical system doesn’t care about the pain of women.

But, it’s fast, and having a hormonal IUD isn’t painful. There’s an adjustment period where you may have a lot of spotting, but then periods will be lighter/easier or go away.

It’s definitely what I will recommend to my daughter, having used a few methods.

Many gynecologists do offer numbing, but you have to ask for it.

PSA regardung numbing the cervix for IUD inserts. The reason this is not offered regularly is because it just doesn’t help very much. The part of the insertion that hurts is when IUD passes through the internal cervical canal opening into the uterus. We do not have a way to numb that part of the body. There is a lot of TikTok type messaging out there right now that cervical numbing is not offered because providers don’t care about women’s pain and while this has certainly been a relevant issue in other areas of medical care for a long time I can promise you in the case of IUD insertion it’s not the reason. Best bet for dealing with the pain of insertion is the medication to help with cramping. Numbing the cervix involves sticking a very large needle in to inject lidocaine (which does hurt!) But does not make the actual insertion more comfortable.

There are many ways to offer pain relief. We do sedation for 10 minute dental procedures, there is no reason it can’t be an option, if a patient chooses, for genital procedures. Or even one Xanax or Valium to help with any anxiety.

You are absolutely right and plenty of people do take anxiety meds before insertion which can help. Sedation is another matter entirely. It requires medication and monitoring capacity that many regular offices don’t have ( risk of respiratory depression ). But what I am responding to specifically is the issue of cervical numbing. I insert IUDs as part of my job and I have this conversation all the time. There is an unfortunate belief that it’s not offered regularly because providers don’t care about women’s pain. That is a complicated Issue in healthcare, which deserves serious discussion, but it has nothing to do with why it’s not offered or encouraged for this particular procedure. To be clear I can, and have, done it when a patient has insisted they want it. But I want them to understand that injecting this medication hurts and is not going to accomplish what they are looking for.

Yes. Sedation, as offered for relatively “simple” dental procedures, is another matter and should still be something offered. Someone somewhere said, dang, some people don’t want to be aware of their molar being pulled at all, and a movement occurred to set up resources to make it an option. There is zero reason why it can’t be something set up for people undergoing reproductive procedures. There is a market. There would be people who would pay for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IUD insertion IS painful. If you’ve had a kid and recall the cervical checks, it’s like that.

They don’t offer numbing because they don’t know who will experience it as very painful and because the medical system doesn’t care about the pain of women.

But, it’s fast, and having a hormonal IUD isn’t painful. There’s an adjustment period where you may have a lot of spotting, but then periods will be lighter/easier or go away.

It’s definitely what I will recommend to my daughter, having used a few methods.

Many gynecologists do offer numbing, but you have to ask for it.

PSA regardung numbing the cervix for IUD inserts. The reason this is not offered regularly is because it just doesn’t help very much. The part of the insertion that hurts is when IUD passes through the internal cervical canal opening into the uterus. We do not have a way to numb that part of the body. There is a lot of TikTok type messaging out there right now that cervical numbing is not offered because providers don’t care about women’s pain and while this has certainly been a relevant issue in other areas of medical care for a long time I can promise you in the case of IUD insertion it’s not the reason. Best bet for dealing with the pain of insertion is the medication to help with cramping. Numbing the cervix involves sticking a very large needle in to inject lidocaine (which does hurt!) But does not make the actual insertion more comfortable.

There are many ways to offer pain relief. We do sedation for 10 minute dental procedures, there is no reason it can’t be an option, if a patient chooses, for genital procedures. Or even one Xanax or Valium to help with any anxiety.

You are absolutely right and plenty of people do take anxiety meds before insertion which can help. Sedation is another matter entirely. It requires medication and monitoring capacity that many regular offices don’t have ( risk of respiratory depression ). But what I am responding to specifically is the issue of cervical numbing. I insert IUDs as part of my job and I have this conversation all the time. There is an unfortunate belief that it’s not offered regularly because providers don’t care about women’s pain. That is a complicated Issue in healthcare, which deserves serious discussion, but it has nothing to do with why it’s not offered or encouraged for this particular procedure. To be clear I can, and have, done it when a patient has insisted they want it. But I want them to understand that injecting this medication hurts and is not going to accomplish what they are looking for.

Yes. Sedation, as offered for relatively “simple” dental procedures, is another matter and should still be something offered. Someone somewhere said, dang, some people don’t want to be aware of their molar being pulled at all, and a movement occurred to set up resources to make it an option. There is zero reason why it can’t be something set up for people undergoing reproductive procedures. There is a market. There would be people who would pay for it.

This might be a dumb question but I am not sure if sedation would keep the relevant..parts relaxed for such a procedure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

And you were so smart and clever to avoid being raped.

+1

Consensual sex isn't the only way to get pregnant.

Your risk vs. benefit calculator is broken. No doctor recommends hormonal birth control in case of rape.

Women are absolutely going on birth control for this reason. Given the continuous slaughter of women’s access to abortion, birth control usage is becoming the only option in several states.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

And you were so smart and clever to avoid being raped.

Idk that the risk/benefits of side effects of birth control are worth it if you're only trying to avoid getting pregnant from rape.

Well, out of my group of 10 close girlfriends from college, none of us managed to graduate college without being raped or sexually assaulted. And with the current political climate how it is with abortion being banned all over and talk about banning plan B, I wouldn't send my DD away to college without being on some form of BC.

That's quite shocking. I know #metoo and all but I didn't have a single close friend in college who was raped or assaulted. We didn't hang out at frats though and many of us are now married to our college boyfriends.

Add me to the PPs 10 friends.

Maybe don't drink so much. Men rape. You can mitigate that risk.

Drinking doesn't mean you will get raped. WTF is wrong with you. GO F yourself.

Hey, you asked how I avoided it. I avoided situations where men have the opportunity. Not rocket science. If you and 10 of you friends were raped, you might be open to changing your behavior. You know men won't!

You're an a-hole. And an ignorant douche. PLENTY of people get assaulted or raped who are not out partying or drunk.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

And you were so smart and clever to avoid being raped.

Idk that the risk/benefits of side effects of birth control are worth it if you're only trying to avoid getting pregnant from rape.

Well, out of my group of 10 close girlfriends from college, none of us managed to graduate college without being raped or sexually assaulted. And with the current political climate how it is with abortion being banned all over and talk about banning plan B, I wouldn't send my DD away to college without being on some form of BC.

That's quite shocking. I know #metoo and all but I didn't have a single close friend in college who was raped or assaulted. We didn't hang out at frats though and many of us are now married to our college boyfriends.

Add me to the PPs 10 friends.

Maybe don't drink so much. Men rape. You can mitigate that risk.

Drinking doesn't mean you will get raped. WTF is wrong with you. GO F yourself.

Hey, you asked how I avoided it. I avoided situations where men have the opportunity. Not rocket science. If you and 10 of you friends were raped, you might be open to changing your behavior. You know men won't!

DP. I also managed to avoid getting raped in college but I'm not so smug and ignorant to believe that it's because of anything other than I WAS LUCKY. So were my friends. There but for the grace of God...

And incidentally, how does one avoid situations where men "have the opportunity?" Does this mean you have never been alone with a male in any situation? You do realize that sober women get raped all the time, and by people they know.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

And you were so smart and clever to avoid being raped.

Idk that the risk/benefits of side effects of birth control are worth it if you're only trying to avoid getting pregnant from rape.

Well, out of my group of 10 close girlfriends from college, none of us managed to graduate college without being raped or sexually assaulted. And with the current political climate how it is with abortion being banned all over and talk about banning plan B, I wouldn't send my DD away to college without being on some form of BC.

That's quite shocking. I know #metoo and all but I didn't have a single close friend in college who was raped or assaulted. We didn't hang out at frats though and many of us are now married to our college boyfriends.

Add me to the PPs 10 friends.

Maybe don't drink so much. Men rape. You can mitigate that risk.

Drinking doesn't mean you will get raped. WTF is wrong with you. GO F yourself.

Hey, you asked how I avoided it. I avoided situations where men have the opportunity. Not rocket science. If you and 10 of you friends were raped, you might be open to changing your behavior. You know men won't!

I had a friend who was rapped while walking to work. Your comments are vile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(1) Take her to a gyn. They will kick you out of the room and discuss with her.
(2) She will figure it out when she gets on campus and goes to health center.
(3) She will do one of the many online services just for this.

Doctors hand out birth control prescriptions to that age group. Just make sure she has the insurance card.

Online is so easy! I have insurance yet I use project ruby for the convenience.