Can you remain married to a man who doesn’t have a vision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get out while you can. I wish I had realized the gravity of the situation early thinking he would change, 30 years later we are in the same place, same apartment, same everything, it's a nightmare.

Don't be me.

Op here.

I mean that my husband is dreamy and airy and does not have his feet on the ground. He has no timeline that he is working with and things unfold if and when they do without much planning or execution.

He doesn’t have a plan for what our family life will look like. We got married when we did because I wanted to. He showed no interest in children because he did not even make 100k until 2 years ago. We TTC then but we have had recurrent losses. We do not have a house fund, and I do not see how we will leave our rented apartment anytime soon.

I make 120k on my own now but it’s new.

I feel defeated and lost.

On the flipside, it doesn't sound like he lucked out with you, either. So there's that to consider, OP.

[Anonymous]

No. I would not marry or stayed married to a male with no goals or vision for anything. He sounds mentally disabled.