Why can’t people mind their own business? Especially when they don’t know…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach her to yell: that's my phone! I don't know you!
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THIS! lol! I tell my daughter if a strange adult comes up to her and starts talking to her, she should scream as loud as possible and run.

[Anonymous]

I’m really sorry. I’d be upset too. Agree with all the other comments that you have done a wonderful job caring for your DD and getting her some great technology. I think you guys will get comfortable discussing it and I’d just really emphasize to my DD that she did nothing wrong and she can’t control what other people think about her. It’s a painful but important life lesson- that woman was judging the crap out of you both but you were ok. You could even talk to her now and say wow that felt uncomfortable, I didn’t agree with that but we are ok. I think you can have a set response in the future “it’s a medical device “ or “it’s an insulin delivery system “ or whatever. But the important thing is your DD is ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is nuts. The woman was right, kids shouldn't be on phones. As part of your job of teaching your 7 year old to manage her D, you and she need to learn how to advocate: "I'm checking my blood because I have T1, diabetes."

Getting upset or aggressive in response to ignorant questions isn't good advocacy. It takes a village - that includes strangers at playgrounds and includes you.

Whether she was right or not about kids being on phones, it was none of her damned business. It was not her child so she didn't have any right to say anything to that child about it.

98% of 7 year olds on their phones at playgrounds are not diabetic or deaf. They should get off their phones. Their parents aren't going to tell them, so it's up to kind strangers to do it.

Strangers aren’t permitted to speak to my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is nuts. The woman was right, kids shouldn't be on phones. As part of your job of teaching your 7 year old to manage her D, you and she need to learn how to advocate: "I'm checking my blood because I have T1, diabetes."

Getting upset or aggressive in response to ignorant questions isn't good advocacy. It takes a village - that includes strangers at playgrounds and includes you.

Whether she was right or not about kids being on phones, it was none of her damned business. It was not her child so she didn't have any right to say anything to that child about it.

98% of 7 year olds on their phones at playgrounds are not diabetic or deaf. They should get off their phones. Their parents aren't going to tell them, so it's up to kind strangers to do it.

Strangers aren’t permitted to speak to my child.

Your poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is nuts. The woman was right, kids shouldn't be on phones. As part of your job of teaching your 7 year old to manage her D, you and she need to learn how to advocate: "I'm checking my blood because I have T1, diabetes."

Getting upset or aggressive in response to ignorant questions isn't good advocacy. It takes a village - that includes strangers at playgrounds and includes you.

Whether she was right or not about kids being on phones, it was none of her damned business. It was not her child so she didn't have any right to say anything to that child about it.

98% of 7 year olds on their phones at playgrounds are not diabetic or deaf. They should get off their phones. Their parents aren't going to tell them, so it's up to kind strangers to do it.

Strangers aren’t permitted to speak to my child.

😂

[Anonymous]

OP, that woman is a miserable person.

Your response was fine. Someone like that is not likely to be embarrassed or back down even when faced with cold, hard evidence that they've just acted like an idiot. But, if you wanted to, it would have also been fine to tell her off.

Be honest with your daughter. Tell her that some people are miserable, unkind, and not very bright. Also, let her know that sometimes older people get confused. It is fine to tell your daughter these things loudly and within earshot of whoever makes comments to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, that woman is a miserable person.

Your response was fine. Someone like that is not likely to be embarrassed or back down even when faced with cold, hard evidence that they've just acted like an idiot. But, if you wanted to, it would have also been fine to tell her off.

Be honest with your daughter. Tell her that some people are miserable, unkind, and not very bright. Also, let her know that sometimes older people get confused. It is fine to tell your daughter these things loudly and within earshot of whoever makes comments to her.

All of these fierce warriors!

This is neither what you would do IRL nor what you should do.

OP's response was fine. She'll be better prepared if anything like it happens again.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry this happened, this makes me rage for you…and I can totally relate to just kind of freezing out of shock in the moment, then later kicking myself for not having said something. Eff that woman. The good news is you now have time to practice what you want to say the next time something like that happens and some miserable old cow sticks her nose where it doesn’t belong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, that woman is a miserable person.

Your response was fine. Someone like that is not likely to be embarrassed or back down even when faced with cold, hard evidence that they've just acted like an idiot. But, if you wanted to, it would have also been fine to tell her off.

Be honest with your daughter. Tell her that some people are miserable, unkind, and not very bright. Also, let her know that sometimes older people get confused. It is fine to tell your daughter these things loudly and within earshot of whoever makes comments to her.

All of these fierce warriors!

This is neither what you would do IRL nor what you should do.

OP's response was fine. She'll be better prepared if anything like it happens again.

NP. Yes…such fierce warriors we are to be able to tell a nosy B to back off our kids at the playground. You sure put us in our place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, that woman is a miserable person.

Your response was fine. Someone like that is not likely to be embarrassed or back down even when faced with cold, hard evidence that they've just acted like an idiot. But, if you wanted to, it would have also been fine to tell her off.

Be honest with your daughter. Tell her that some people are miserable, unkind, and not very bright. Also, let her know that sometimes older people get confused. It is fine to tell your daughter these things loudly and within earshot of whoever makes comments to her.

All of these fierce warriors!

This is neither what you would do IRL nor what you should do.

OP's response was fine. She'll be better prepared if anything like it happens again.

You’re a loser, but not everyone is. I think you’re the hog who tried to come for me when I asked for advice about what to do with boys who were harassing girls during an athletic class. I got decent advice almost immediately but you were pissy. But I did confront, which meant talking to the coach, being blunt with each mom, and they each apologized and made the kids apologize. And in the subsequent class, the girls did well and have already shown they’re quite comfortable at advocating for themselves. Some of you think everyone is weak, and that’s not so.

Some people are better than you, as parents and as people. By some, I mean most. That includes OP, and the other parents who suggested ways to deal directly with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry this happened, this makes me rage for you…and I can totally relate to just kind of freezing out of shock in the moment, then later kicking myself for not having said something. Eff that woman. The good news is you now have time to practice what you want to say the next time something like that happens and some miserable old cow sticks her nose where it doesn’t belong

You have anger problems

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My response would be we don’t have any screen limits. To each their own .

You’re right. It doesn’t matter why my DD had her phone. It’s not this lady’s business regardless.

I think I was so quick to defend because I always feel like I’m a member of the Bad Moms Club. Having a chronically ill child has done a number on my confidence.

OP, you have to practice some comebacks in which you don’t give up any personal information (or your kid’s personal info).

In this case you could have said “Thanks for sharing.” Cold. Shuts her down. Not nasty—if it doesn’t come naturally to you, it won’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My response would be we don’t have any screen limits. To each their own .

You’re right. It doesn’t matter why my DD had her phone. It’s not this lady’s business regardless.

I think I was so quick to defend because I always feel like I’m a member of the Bad Moms Club. Having a chronically ill child has done a number on my confidence.

OP, you have to practice some comebacks in which you don’t give up any personal information (or your kid’s personal info).

In this case you could have said “Thanks for sharing.” Cold. Shuts her down. Not nasty—if it doesn’t come naturally to you, it won’t.

I think ops response was better. Dating this rudely would just give that woman cause to think "not only is that mother a lazy parent for giving her kids a phone, she's also rude " instead op kindly taught her a lesson that's much more likely to make her think twice before opening her mouth again.

Good job, op. You didn't owe her that explanation or anything else, but maybe it'll stop another kid from getting bothered.

[Anonymous]

While I'm sorry your kid had to deal with that, this is what all the folks that scream and scream about their expectation of having a "village" sign up for. The village might not always be to your exact liking and specifications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is nuts. The woman was right, kids shouldn't be on phones. As part of your job of teaching your 7 year old to manage her D, you and she need to learn how to advocate: "I'm checking my blood because I have T1, diabetes."

Getting upset or aggressive in response to ignorant questions isn't good advocacy. It takes a village - that includes strangers at playgrounds and includes you.

Whether she was right or not about kids being on phones, it was none of her damned business. It was not her child so she didn't have any right to say anything to that child about it.

98% of 7 year olds on their phones at playgrounds are not diabetic or deaf. They should get off their phones. Their parents aren't going to tell them, so it's up to kind strangers to do it.

Strangers aren’t permitted to speak to my child.

Case in point. Good luck with trying to control that which you have little control over.