Why can’t people mind their own business? Especially when they don’t know…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s the trouble with a heart break

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:…what they’re talking about.

This happened yesterday but I’m still upset.

Entire family went to the park to play. DD7 has type 1 diabetes and has since she was 4. She has a Dexcom on her belly that is not visible unless she’s wearing a thin shirt. The information is connected to my iPhone and an old iPhone that DD keeps with her so she can check her numbers. We decided this was the best route as we continue to teach her how to independently care for herself and her diabetes. Of course I also have access to this information and am always on top of this but our dietician/diabetes educator was the one who suggested this set-up for her particular age range and it works great.

She does have a few games on the iPhone but otherwise a lot is disabled. She knows how she is suppose to use it and we haven’t had any issues with improper or over use.

She had just had a snack at the picnic table and then went to go play. She went and pulled out the phone (in jacket pocket) to check her numbers as she’s suppose to do before and after snacks to get her into the habit. Her diabetes have always been particularly hard to manage so we have to do a lot of extra checks, even with the device.

I noticed a middle aged woman with a toddler came up to her and said something. DD looked upset and came up to me and started crying. She told me the lady told her that she needed to “get off her phone and enjoy the weather” then complained about parents giving kids phones. I comforted DD (who yes, is pretty sensitive. Especially when scolded or corrected my adults. I told her to go play and ignore the woman. I was pretty pissed. But knew there was a chance that DD misinterpreted what she said or that her tone was different.

But I went to push my youngest on the swings next to her and her child/grandchild and she turned to me, pointed to DD and asked, “is she yours?” I said yes and then she got on to me about letting my kid have a phone.

“I know parents these days are all about the electronics but it’s a real shame when I see such a young child with a phone. It’s terrible for their development.”

I kind of just stared. I am so angry at myself because I should have been nasty back and told her where she could go but instead I just said, “that’s how she tracks her blood sugar” in a sheepish voice.

She didn’t seem to respond at all. Just kept pushing her kid.

I’m half angry at myself for not standing up for DD more. I’ve just never had an experience like this and now I’m reeling.

So I'm 43 now and just now realizing that people honestly just can't. They can't control their thoughts, actions towards others when it could be unkind. I think people have these thoughts in their mind but of course should filter what they say because you don't know the whole truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m saying this with love, op, but you need to grow a set. Maybe even reflect on why you were so intimidated by a stranger who was clueless about why a young child might need access to a smartphone. This could be an issue for your dd in the future. You need to practice an elevator pitch about your dd’s diabetes and that the phone is a tool she uses to manage her blood sugar.

This. I don’t love conflict, either, but you need to find a strong voice to stick up for your kids, partly for you, but mostly for them, so they can see when they need real defending. My parents rarely stood up for me as a kid and I had to work damn hard to learn to do so as an adult.

Same. OP - I'm sorry this happened to you. I find that the older generation is just miserable and they don't mind trying to make everyone else miserable, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m saying this with love, op, but you need to grow a set. Maybe even reflect on why you were so intimidated by a stranger who was clueless about why a young child might need access to a smartphone. This could be an issue for your dd in the future. You need to practice an elevator pitch about your dd’s diabetes and that the phone is a tool she uses to manage her blood sugar.

She owes no one an explanation

[Anonymous]

Your daughter cried because she's seen you wither when confronted. Your daughter needs to learn to say "I have diabetes and am checking my blood sugar. Maybe YOU should enjoy your baby and this weather and not worry about me."

Damn, every child should really be raised in NYC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter cried because she's seen you wither when confronted. Your daughter needs to learn to say "I have diabetes and am checking my blood sugar. Maybe YOU should enjoy your baby and this weather and not worry about me."

Damn, every child should really be raised in NYC.

It doesn’t matter why she was on the phone . Checking sugar, solving world piece, or playing a game she can be on her phone. No need to say anything. She doesn’t need to stand up for herself. Because what this random woman said doesn’t matter. Now if it was a cop and she was about to be arrested then sure stand up for yourself or her but we all know 7 year olds don’t get arrested for that at a park .

[Anonymous]

Wow. That is next level. I'm A+ on sass and retort and that may have taken me aback. I would have just been shocked at the level of meddling.

OP, can you just take a step back for a second and pat yourself on the back for having this set up for your kid, her independence and her health!!??? Come on! I'm coming up on 50 and not that long ago, Type 1 was not necessarily a death sentence but could be somewhat debilitating and limiting. Technology and advancement over the last 25 years has been amazing. Your kid is 7 and has the rest of her life to learn to sass back, comforting her was enough, you didn't have to give her the show of having her back this time. Middle school will be here soon enough!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter cried because she's seen you wither when confronted. Your daughter needs to learn to say "I have diabetes and am checking my blood sugar. Maybe YOU should enjoy your baby and this weather and not worry about me."

Damn, every child should really be raised in NYC.

Da fuq you on about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:…what they’re talking about.

This happened yesterday but I’m still upset.

Entire family went to the park to play. DD7 has type 1 diabetes and has since she was 4. She has a Dexcom on her belly that is not visible unless she’s wearing a thin shirt. The information is connected to my iPhone and an old iPhone that DD keeps with her so she can check her numbers. We decided this was the best route as we continue to teach her how to independently care for herself and her diabetes. Of course I also have access to this information and am always on top of this but our dietician/diabetes educator was the one who suggested this set-up for her particular age range and it works great.

She does have a few games on the iPhone but otherwise a lot is disabled. She knows how she is suppose to use it and we haven’t had any issues with improper or over use.

She had just had a snack at the picnic table and then went to go play. She went and pulled out the phone (in jacket pocket) to check her numbers as she’s suppose to do before and after snacks to get her into the habit. Her diabetes have always been particularly hard to manage so we have to do a lot of extra checks, even with the device.

I noticed a middle aged woman with a toddler came up to her and said something. DD looked upset and came up to me and started crying. She told me the lady told her that she needed to “get off her phone and enjoy the weather” then complained about parents giving kids phones. I comforted DD (who yes, is pretty sensitive. Especially when scolded or corrected my adults. I told her to go play and ignore the woman. I was pretty pissed. But knew there was a chance that DD misinterpreted what she said or that her tone was different.

But I went to push my youngest on the swings next to her and her child/grandchild and she turned to me, pointed to DD and asked, “is she yours?” I said yes and then she got on to me about letting my kid have a phone.

“I know parents these days are all about the electronics but it’s a real shame when I see such a young child with a phone. It’s terrible for their development.”

I kind of just stared. I am so angry at myself because I should have been nasty back and told her where she could go but instead I just said, “that’s how she tracks her blood sugar” in a sheepish voice.

She didn’t seem to respond at all. Just kept pushing her kid.

I’m half angry at myself for not standing up for DD more. I’ve just never had an experience like this and now I’m reeling.

This is where I draw the line at being patient with people. I think you know what to do next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My response would be we don’t have any screen limits. To each their own .

You’re right. It doesn’t matter why my DD had her phone. It’s not this lady’s business regardless.

I think I was so quick to defend because I always feel like I’m a member of the Bad Moms Club. Having a chronically ill child has done a number on my confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter cried because she's seen you wither when confronted. Your daughter needs to learn to say "I have diabetes and am checking my blood sugar. Maybe YOU should enjoy your baby and this weather and not worry about me."

Damn, every child should really be raised in NYC.

Hard NO, daughter should be taught her medical information is private and tell the other adult, please leave me alone. As a parent, I'd have no issue telling someone to leave my child alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter cried because she's seen you wither when confronted. Your daughter needs to learn to say "I have diabetes and am checking my blood sugar. Maybe YOU should enjoy your baby and this weather and not worry about me."

Damn, every child should really be raised in NYC.

Oh stfu, it’s a little kid who got scolded by an adult

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:…what they’re talking about.

This happened yesterday but I’m still upset.

Entire family went to the park to play. DD7 has type 1 diabetes and has since she was 4. She has a Dexcom on her belly that is not visible unless she’s wearing a thin shirt. The information is connected to my iPhone and an old iPhone that DD keeps with her so she can check her numbers. We decided this was the best route as we continue to teach her how to independently care for herself and her diabetes. Of course I also have access to this information and am always on top of this but our dietician/diabetes educator was the one who suggested this set-up for her particular age range and it works great.

She does have a few games on the iPhone but otherwise a lot is disabled. She knows how she is suppose to use it and we haven’t had any issues with improper or over use.

She had just had a snack at the picnic table and then went to go play. She went and pulled out the phone (in jacket pocket) to check her numbers as she’s suppose to do before and after snacks to get her into the habit. Her diabetes have always been particularly hard to manage so we have to do a lot of extra checks, even with the device.

I noticed a middle aged woman with a toddler came up to her and said something. DD looked upset and came up to me and started crying. She told me the lady told her that she needed to “get off her phone and enjoy the weather” then complained about parents giving kids phones. I comforted DD (who yes, is pretty sensitive. Especially when scolded or corrected my adults. I told her to go play and ignore the woman. I was pretty pissed. But knew there was a chance that DD misinterpreted what she said or that her tone was different.

But I went to push my youngest on the swings next to her and her child/grandchild and she turned to me, pointed to DD and asked, “is she yours?” I said yes and then she got on to me about letting my kid have a phone.

“I know parents these days are all about the electronics but it’s a real shame when I see such a young child with a phone. It’s terrible for their development.”

I kind of just stared. I am so angry at myself because I should have been nasty back and told her where she could go but instead I just said, “that’s how she tracks her blood sugar” in a sheepish voice.

She didn’t seem to respond at all. Just kept pushing her kid.

I’m half angry at myself for not standing up for DD more. I’ve just never had an experience like this and now I’m reeling.

This is where I draw the line at being patient with people. I think you know what to do next time.

OP, you don't owe anyone an explanation. You tell her that why your child is on a phone is none of her business and to leave your child alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter cried because she's seen you wither when confronted. Your daughter needs to learn to say "I have diabetes and am checking my blood sugar. Maybe YOU should enjoy your baby and this weather and not worry about me."

Damn, every child should really be raised in NYC.

Da fuq you on about

PP is one of those clowns who needs to tell everyone they’re from NYC because they have no actual identity apart from that

[Anonymous]

OP, this woman was nosy and judgmental and you shouldn't give two more seconds of thought to what she said.

Even if you didn't use the phone for this purpose, there are a million other reasons your kid might have a phone. Plus, she just looked at it and then went back to playing!

Seriously, ignore this woman and her judgment. I would be pissed if this had happened to me and would probably have gone off on the woman.

Maybe just imagine multiple DCUMers giving this woman a piece of our minds and maybe that will make you smile. Don't let her take up any more space in your head. She's not worth it.