Does “no gift” mean you do not bring a card too?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid (7) makes a card. He draws something and writes happy birthday friend’s name.

Same here. We do a card, since that seems like a nice thing but isn’t expected to be kept or take up space. I like to have my kid thinking about birthdays as a thing you do nice things for the person you’re celebrating but also want to respect the no gifts rule. A handwritten and/or homemade card seems like a reasonable compromise.

Same here. My kid puts thought and effort into the card, so it's still teaching the same lesson -- with the bonus that it's teaching that nice things don't have to cost money.

No gift party pp here. Your cards are loved! Especially when they have drawings. It’s fun to see your kids’ personalities expressed on a card. Thank you for making these! But if you have kids who don’t want to make a card, that’s fine too!

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Anonymous wrote:I would bring a card and put some stickers in there or like a small gift card to a local bakery or ice cream shop or the like.

Why do so many college graduates fail to comprehend NO GIFTS!!!!!????

Because no gifts means no “stuff.” If my kid makes a card and picks out a few stickers to throw in there, that’s not “stuff.” And the parents are free to throw the stickers out with the card. Whatever.

A birthday card is not a gift but stickers are so do not add stickers.

Hmmm I honestly thought it was about not wanting toys. Well, usually my kid makes a card and gets out the sticker book and uses them to decorate the card and then puts a few inside. We don’t buy stickers for the no gift parties. I still don’t think I’ll ask my kid to leave that out because it’s a little above grade level for his age, but I won’t give a small gift card for ice cream or anything anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:I would bring a card and put some stickers in there or like a small gift card to a local bakery or ice cream shop or the like.

Why do so many college graduates fail to comprehend NO GIFTS!!!!!????

Because no gifts means no “stuff.” If my kid makes a card and picks out a few stickers to throw in there, that’s not “stuff.” And the parents are free to throw the stickers out with the card. Whatever.

A birthday card is not a gift but stickers are so do not add stickers.

Hmmm I honestly thought it was about not wanting toys. Well, usually my kid makes a card and gets out the sticker book and uses them to decorate the card and then puts a few inside. We don’t buy stickers for the no gift parties. I still don’t think I’ll ask my kid to leave that out because it’s a little above grade level for his age, but I won’t give a small gift card for ice cream or anything anymore.

JFC, you can use stickers to decorate the card.

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Anonymous wrote:I would bring a card and put some stickers in there or like a small gift card to a local bakery or ice cream shop or the like.

Why do so many college graduates fail to comprehend NO GIFTS!!!!!????

Because no gifts means no “stuff.” If my kid makes a card and picks out a few stickers to throw in there, that’s not “stuff.” And the parents are free to throw the stickers out with the card. Whatever.

A birthday card is not a gift but stickers are so do not add stickers.

Hmmm I honestly thought it was about not wanting toys. Well, usually my kid makes a card and gets out the sticker book and uses them to decorate the card and then puts a few inside. We don’t buy stickers for the no gift parties. I still don’t think I’ll ask my kid to leave that out because it’s a little above grade level for his age, but I won’t give a small gift card for ice cream or anything anymore.

JFC, you can use stickers to decorate the card.

Another poster upthread said not to include stickers inside (like loose stickers). I agree it’s over the top. Read the thread before you lose your mind.

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

So now you are foisting your views on other people’s kids? Maybe you feel insecure about your own kids who can’t handle not having gifts at a party. No, not all kids want gifts at a party. There are kids who prefer experiences to stuff and see the party itself as the gift. And anyway, gifts are mentioned all the time on invites - what do you think registries are for? Do you think it’s less rude to ask for no gifts than to instruct guests where and what to buy on a baby shower or wedding invitation? Some invitations specify cash rather than a gift, is that less rude? Just decline invites to no gift parties if you are so offended, trust me, you and your child won’t be missed.

Said no kid ever! Lol

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

Actually, said my kid. Asked for dinner at his favorite restaurant and day out at water park in the summer with friends. Said no to toys, Nintendo switch game, headphones. Are you so dense that you think all kids think alike?

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

So now you are foisting your views on other people’s kids? Maybe you feel insecure about your own kids who can’t handle not having gifts at a party. No, not all kids want gifts at a party. There are kids who prefer experiences to stuff and see the party itself as the gift. And anyway, gifts are mentioned all the time on invites - what do you think registries are for? Do you think it’s less rude to ask for no gifts than to instruct guests where and what to buy on a baby shower or wedding invitation? Some invitations specify cash rather than a gift, is that less rude? Just decline invites to no gift parties if you are so offended, trust me, you and your child won’t be missed.

Said no kid ever! Lol

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

So now you are foisting your views on other people’s kids? Maybe you feel insecure about your own kids who can’t handle not having gifts at a party. No, not all kids want gifts at a party. There are kids who prefer experiences to stuff and see the party itself as the gift. And anyway, gifts are mentioned all the time on invites - what do you think registries are for? Do you think it’s less rude to ask for no gifts than to instruct guests where and what to buy on a baby shower or wedding invitation? Some invitations specify cash rather than a gift, is that less rude? Just decline invites to no gift parties if you are so offended, trust me, you and your child won’t be missed.

Said no kid ever! Lol

Actually said my kid. Asked for dinner at his favorite restaurant and a day at the water park with friends this summer. Said no thanks to toys, Nintendo switch game etc. Are you so dense that you think all kids think alike?

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Amazon gift card sent by email. This is what "no gifts' means.

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Anonymous wrote:Amazon gift card sent by email. This is what "no gifts' means.

OMG, it’s like trying to talk to a toddler. No gifts means no gifts. Save your Amazon gift cards and give them to your teachers. Do you really think people request no gifts and expect gift cards?

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

No one wants your plastic crap. Go bother your own grandkids.

dp It's funny that you assume people will give you a "crap plastic gift" I would honor your wishes and no gift but, I give very good gifts, like books etc.

DP. I don't assume it will be plastic crap, but it is more stuff in a person's home.

Did you miss the part where I said I would honor your wishes?

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

So now you are foisting your views on other people’s kids? Maybe you feel insecure about your own kids who can’t handle not having gifts at a party. No, not all kids want gifts at a party. There are kids who prefer experiences to stuff and see the party itself as the gift. And anyway, gifts are mentioned all the time on invites - what do you think registries are for? Do you think it’s less rude to ask for no gifts than to instruct guests where and what to buy on a baby shower or wedding invitation? Some invitations specify cash rather than a gift, is that less rude? Just decline invites to no gift parties if you are so offended, trust me, you and your child won’t be missed.

Said no kid ever! Lol

Actually said my kid. Asked for dinner at his favorite restaurant and a day at the water park with friends this summer. Said no thanks to toys, Nintendo switch game etc. Are you so dense that you think all kids think alike?

At some point kids stop caring about toys but plenty of other things to get them.

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Anonymous wrote:Amazon gift card sent by email. This is what "no gifts' means.

OMG, it’s like trying to talk to a toddler. No gifts means no gifts. Save your Amazon gift cards and give them to your teachers. Do you really think people request no gifts and expect gift cards?

OMG who cares. An Amazon gift card couldn’t be easier to use. The parents could even just use it towards groceries FFS. You can say “no gifts” but at the end of the day you should be gracious to your guests and an Amazon gift card is literally the most useful thing someone could gift.

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

So now you are foisting your views on other people’s kids? Maybe you feel insecure about your own kids who can’t handle not having gifts at a party. No, not all kids want gifts at a party. There are kids who prefer experiences to stuff and see the party itself as the gift. And anyway, gifts are mentioned all the time on invites - what do you think registries are for? Do you think it’s less rude to ask for no gifts than to instruct guests where and what to buy on a baby shower or wedding invitation? Some invitations specify cash rather than a gift, is that less rude? Just decline invites to no gift parties if you are so offended, trust me, you and your child won’t be missed.

Said no kid ever! Lol

Actually said my kid. Asked for dinner at his favorite restaurant and a day at the water park with friends this summer. Said no thanks to toys, Nintendo switch game etc. Are you so dense that you think all kids think alike?

Yeah, sure.