Does “no gift” mean you do not bring a card too?

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

No one wants your plastic crap. Go bother your own grandkids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

They don’t want gifts from you. You have poor taste. There, someone finally told you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

So now you are foisting your views on other people’s kids? Maybe you feel insecure about your own kids who can’t handle not having gifts at a party. No, not all kids want gifts at a party. There are kids who prefer experiences to stuff and see the party itself as the gift. And anyway, gifts are mentioned all the time on invites - what do you think registries are for? Do you think it’s less rude to ask for no gifts than to instruct guests where and what to buy on a baby shower or wedding invitation? Some invitations specify cash rather than a gift, is that less rude? Just decline invites to no gift parties if you are so offended, trust me, you and your child won’t be missed.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid (7) makes a card. He draws something and writes happy birthday friend’s name.

Same here. We do a card, since that seems like a nice thing but isn’t expected to be kept or take up space. I like to have my kid thinking about birthdays as a thing you do nice things for the person you’re celebrating but also want to respect the no gifts rule. A handwritten and/or homemade card seems like a reasonable compromise.

Same here. My kid puts thought and effort into the card, so it's still teaching the same lesson -- with the bonus that it's teaching that nice things don't have to cost money.

[Anonymous]

We don’t. If the host doesn’t want gifts, I am absolving myself and my kid of the effort of a card. After all, our presence is the present.

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Anonymous wrote:For kids I always do a gift or gift card.

So if the parents request no gifts you still bring a gift?

A card isn't a gift unless it has something in it like money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

No one wants your plastic crap. Go bother your own grandkids.

dp It's funny that you assume people will give you a "crap plastic gift" I would honor your wishes and no gift but, I give very good gifts, like books etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For kids I always do a gift or gift card.

So if the parents request no gifts you still bring a gift?

Yes, the gift is for the child, not the selfish parents. If the kid has too much stuff, the parents should buy them less.

OMG do you hear yourself? You don't need to buy gifts for these kids. Save the planet, please. Less junk = better for everyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

No one wants your plastic crap. Go bother your own grandkids.

dp It's funny that you assume people will give you a "crap plastic gift" I would honor your wishes and no gift but, I give very good gifts, like books etc.

DP. I don't assume it will be plastic crap, but it is more stuff in a person's home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid (7) makes a card. He draws something and writes happy birthday friend’s name.

Exactly. Or store bought if your kids are not the drawing type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For kids I always do a gift or gift card.

So if the parents request no gifts you still bring a gift?

Yes, the gift is for the child, not the selfish parents. If the kid has too much stuff, the parents should buy them less.

OMG do you hear yourself? You don't need to buy gifts for these kids. Save the planet, please. Less junk = better for everyone.

It's also not always about what the parents are buying. My kids have 5 sets of aunts/uncles plus 2 sets of grandparents. They get a million hand me down toys from older cousins, not to mention gifts. One side of the family (unfortunately) won't listen to requests for no gifts so we really have no need for friend gifts too. Plus when receiving so much stuff at once my kids just can't appreciate it yet .

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

No one wants your plastic crap. Go bother your own grandkids.

dp It's funny that you assume people will give you a "crap plastic gift" I would honor your wishes and no gift but, I give very good gifts, like books etc.

So inflict your gifts on those who actually want them. I’d wonder about your mental acuity if you couldn’t respect a host’s simple wish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

Why do you care if someone prefers not to get a gift? You are projecting your own insecurities about your gifts but being good enough. It’s not you or your gifts. I’m a NP but we went to several no gift parties when we lived in Manhattan. People had small apartments and everyone understood that some people preferred not to get gifts. It wasn’t a judgment about gifts not being good enough, what an egocentric thought.

It’s rude to mention gifts. Kids enjoy gifts. It’s about the child. If they have too much stuff buy less. It’s self righteous.

No one wants your plastic crap. Go bother your own grandkids.

dp It's funny that you assume people will give you a "crap plastic gift" I would honor your wishes and no gift but, I give very good gifts, like books etc.

So inflict your gifts on those who actually want them. I’d wonder about your mental acuity if you couldn’t respect a host’s simple wish.

+1. My kids have birthday parties with gifts, but I’m happy not to bring gifts when requested. The sheer obtuseness of people who accuse parents who have gone through the effort of arranging a party and INVITING you, of being rude and selfish for requesting no gifts is appalling. What do you possibly have to complain about? Your kid is being invited to a party. Be gracious.