Does “no gift” mean you do not bring a card too?

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Good question. In my case, no gifts depends on the circumstance. We have a birthday party that is joint with another kid. We invite 2 classes, so that’s 40 kids. Neither the parents nor birthday kids want that many gifts. We also don’t want people to bring a gift for a kid that’s not in their class who they don’t know that well. We schedule the party Friday at noon after a half day dismissal (teacher retreat) at a park that is walking distance, so it’s nice for the kids to go straight to the party without having to take a gift to school, which is not allowed anyway. I’m also from a culture where birthdays are more about being thankful for your friends and family, so we always celebrated by being good hosts, but that’s not the main reason we did no gifts. We had a smaller gathering for my older kid - 4 friends went out to dinner and a movie, and we didn’t mention no gifts on the invite. That was a smaller group and all the kids were close to my kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid (7) makes a card. He draws something and writes happy birthday friend’s name.

Same here. We do a card, since that seems like a nice thing but isn’t expected to be kept or take up space. I like to have my kid thinking about birthdays as a thing you do nice things for the person you’re celebrating but also want to respect the no gifts rule. A handwritten and/or homemade card seems like a reasonable compromise.

We do a card too. My kid enjoys it.

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Cards are great because words are free and have the power to make people feel very good. Better than a material gift.

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Anonymous wrote:For kids I always do a gift or gift card.

So if the parents request no gifts you still bring a gift?

Yes, the gift is for the child, not the selfish parents. If the kid has too much stuff, the parents should buy them less.

Way to make it all about yourself, clown.

Your naming calling speaks volumes. You don’t mention gifts as it’s tacky and if you have a party you should be grateful and accept.

You’re rude and obnoxious and proud of it. Speaks volumes about you, none of it good.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Agree. It’s virtue-signaling and insufferable.

Why are you so pushy?

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I say do a card if your kid enjoys it. My kid enjoys that sort of thing and it is good for him to practice writing so I have a bunch of stuff to make cards with.

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Anonymous wrote:I would bring a card and put some stickers in there or like a small gift card to a local bakery or ice cream shop or the like.

Why do so many college graduates fail to comprehend NO GIFTS!!!!!????

Because no gifts means no “stuff.” If my kid makes a card and picks out a few stickers to throw in there, that’s not “stuff.” And the parents are free to throw the stickers out with the card. Whatever.

A birthday card is not a gift but stickers are so do not add stickers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Yes. I am too good for your regifting gifts. You are cheap and have deployable taste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Yes. I am too good for your regifting gifts. You are cheap and have deployable taste.

[Anonymous]

No gift is great! It means no gifts. Just show up and have a good time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid (7) makes a card. He draws something and writes happy birthday friend’s name.

Same here. We do a card, since that seems like a nice thing but isn’t expected to be kept or take up space. I like to have my kid thinking about birthdays as a thing you do nice things for the person you’re celebrating but also want to respect the no gifts rule. A handwritten and/or homemade card seems like a reasonable compromise.

100% this!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For kids I always do a gift or gift card.

So if the parents request no gifts you still bring a gift?

DP but yes, after getting embarrassed too many times. Multiple parties, literally everyone still brought gifts. We looked foolish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Feel free to decline if you’re so delicate.

Why do you think your kids are too good to get gifts from others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just had a no gift birthday party for my 10 year old. If you bring a card, it’s nice, but no one is keeping track. This is his 3rd or 4th no gift party and at first, many brought cards, but this time it was just 2 or 3. Just send your kids and enjoy! People who request no gifts really mean it. If you do bring a gift, you are just making it more uncomfortable for the host and the guests who followed their request. Take a few photos of the bday kid and their friends or record the happy birthday singing and send to the parents to show you appreciate the invitation.

You are making guests uncomfortable with no gifts. Why not allow gifts or are you too good for others gifts?

Yes. I am too good for your regifting gifts. You are cheap and have deployable taste.

That’s fine. I’m sure your kids see what kid of person you are and hate you for it.