So many ACs have no gratitude or respect toward their parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently respecting your elders is a foreign concept. ACs should be grateful to their parents and pay them respect. They owe them respect.

Why should an AC be grateful to the person who failed to raise a good person.

Oh the paradox

[Anonymous]

cepheus wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apparently respecting your elders is a foreign concept. ACs should be grateful to their parents and pay them respect. They owe them respect.

Respect is earned or given not demanded or enforced. You decide to have unprotected sex and bring kids into this world. You wanted to have children so you got to raise them. Why do you expect a thank you for your choice and its consequences? What choice they had in their existence or upbringing.

If they love and respect you, you taught them well. If they don't, its still on parents.

I would think some parents loved their children and were still abused by them. I think some parents are blinded by their love for them and therefore are in denial and unable to enforce boundaries.

There would only be a thousand reasons why adult children are abusive. I do not always think they parents brought it on.

When I witnessed a sibling mocking my mother, I was not impressed and did not think my mother earned the abuse.

And did you say something?

Many kids blame their parents for insecurities that they have and can't reconcile. Not fitting in, being jealous of a sibling, all kinds of things. Parents aren't the only variables in a person's life. Their personality, their experiences, the messages society sends. Parents can do everything well, and a kid can still deal with major issues of mental health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apparently respecting your elders is a foreign concept. ACs should be grateful to their parents and pay them respect. They owe them respect.

How can you make such a general statement like that without knowing anything about peoples lives? My mom let her husbands and boyfriends sexually abuse me, I told her about it every time she did nothing, and you think I owe her respect?

Never.

Jerry died.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm trans and no longer speak with my parents. I have biological children and they never interact with their bigoted grandparents. None of the other queer people I know speak with their parents. This includes the Asian ones.

While not everyone obviously, many Asian parents are right up their with their bigotry and hate for queer people as the religious right in this country. Do you know how many LGBTQ people are homeless in Asian countries, including China? Do you know how many trans women in southeast Asian do sex work and don't live with their family? I don't want to hear about how great Asians are when they hate people that are different. We love you so much. Accept the Terms and conditions and fine bring.*


*Heterosexual and cisgender for family admission

I don't blame the parents. Trans and LGBTQ people did not even exist (at least not openly), when we were growing up and I am a millenial. So around the world this was not an accepted thing. It certainly did not exist as it does now. But, since we have seen gays and lesbians being more accepted, maybe trans people will be too.

But, it is perfectly fine if you are angry at Asians. They are not your parents.

Also, my conservative Asian neighbors voted to legalize gay marriage because they want everyone to get married and become settled and responsible. So, you never know who can inadvertantly become your ally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a white American who agrees with the previous Asian poster. I have great respect and gratitude for my parents, who worked very hard to raise us well.

I also devoted myself to my child, making many sacrifices and always putting her first.

Point being: these concepts are not necessarily foreign to Americans.

Black American here with the same experience. My parents are salt of the earth people, and I have the utmost respect for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apparently respecting your elders is a foreign concept. ACs should be grateful to their parents and pay them respect. They owe them respect.

Why should an AC be grateful to the person who failed to raise a good person.

Oh the paradox

Everyone has their own agency. At least 75 percent of someones characteristics are genetic and related to status in society.