Saw my 4 yo at preschool today and his behavior was terrible

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I am sorry for anyone who is having childcare issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it possible he was acting up because you were there and he was out of his routine? He might listen better to the teachers when you aren't present. Maybe ask his teacher if that's the case.

Teacher here. Sometimes that happens, Has the teacher said anything to you about his behavior prior to this visit?

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Anonymous wrote:How old is he? Being the youngest in a group when you are 3 and the other kids are 4 or 5 is huge!

He’s 4. It’s literally in the title.

Why in the world would you want your son to be the youngest in the class?? That’s insane! Stop pushing him. Let him re-enter that classroom next year with more maturity and the ability to behave on par with the other students.

Op here. My son has special needs and an IEP. He went straight from early intervention to this inclusive preschool classroom at our local public school when he turned 3. I’m hardly pushing him. I’m following the advice of our medical teams to give him the best shot at kindergarten in fall of 2024. He’s only in class for 3 hours, 4 days per week. I have a full time nanny so it’s not even about childcare. I’m pushing to see if he might have a chance of being on the low side of average, not trying to get my son into Harvard.

My DS sounds similar to yours OP. Does your preschool have a designated SN person? She helped tremendously with our son’s transition. I ask because a school that is billing itself as inclusive should have the necessary support staff. My son’s school also welcomed our BCBA and ST/OT to give their recommendations each yet that he attended.

Also, I might try one of the OT camps if you can afford it this summer (skills on the hill early learners booster or something like that). The OTs have a smaller group and can help with the sensory regulation necessary for skills like sitting in circle.)

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See if you can get in to see Claire Lerner from Lerner Child Development.

Go to an Occupational Therapist and see if he has sensory needs that they can help with

Also, time will help.

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Anonymous wrote:Ask the teacher what they recommend. Do everything they say.

Op here. I will follow up but we had a meeting in November for his IEP and the teachers basically said that they are giving him time to mature and that they do not try to force him to participate. They said he still has all of next year to get ready for kindergarten and that they plan to ramp up the expectations more next year and give him time this year.

They also recommended a visual schedule, which we’ve done, but which I don’t think helps.

I’m going to reach out again today to see if she has other thoughts.

We were right where you are literally a year ago. We continued outside OT, added outside speech therapy, and started Ritalin. I can swear to you that 12 month later, things are so much better!

My big evidence: I took my son to a birthday party at My Gym this past weekend, and he was able to participate, listen, and enjoy. It's not perfect by any means, but we made a ton of progress between PK and K - with a group of great teachers and an IEP for ADHD. Fall of 2021, I was leaving My Gym, birthday parties, and play groups with both of us in tears.

Hang in there and trust your son's team!

Do doctors give 5 year olds Ritalin? That seems young.

Psychiatrists can, not pediatricians, and it’s not common, but when safety is an issue, they will. My son gets 7.5 mL per day split over two doses, and it’s been a game changer. We are paying big money to an out of network provider, and he gets monitored a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it possible he was acting up because you were there and he was out of his routine? He might listen better to the teachers when you aren't present. Maybe ask his teacher if that's the case.

My guess is the teacher invited OP to stay so OP could see how he normally behaves, and this was it.

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