I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone who met their spouse at work.

Because most people don’t.

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I met my husband through a work friend. I don't think I would have had the same relationship with this co-worker if we didn't sit next to each other.

Funny, she also met hers at an after work happy hour.

I'm glad because I hate internet dating and my hobbies don't usually have a lot of men who do the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I don't know a single person who has met their spouse at work.

really? I met my spouse at work and so did many of my friends in non-medical fields. We worked in different departments so it wasn't that weird when we started dating and it would not have been that bad if we had broken up. That said, I am not sure if that is a reason why everyone should go back to the office. I am back a few days a week and don't mind though.

Most Studies estimate that at most 20% of all marriages originate at the workplace. So most married adults are not meeting their spouses at work.

OP’s concern still stands. My DH was met thru work and not at work. That would still be a result of the in-person thought we weren’t colleagues.
Plus, you’re not considering all the work friends, trusted colleagues and mentors. I still keep in touch with the attys from my first job years ago. They’ve been integral in helping me start my own practice. I wonder if those ties still remain for this generation if you only know people via Zoom

Those of us who have worked for international companies are here to tell you but it’s very possible to form strong relationships with coworkers worldwide without having to sit next to them every single day.

You’re either a friendly congenial person, or you’re not.

I’m sorry but no. You are not forming a “strong” relationship with someone that you’ve never seen (or don’t see more than 1x per year). No matter how well you think you know someone, the absence of physical proximity limits your interactions. You know your colleagues as a font type only

Lol. Ok. You clearly have shit interpersonal skills if you cannot connect with someone by voice/video.

And you clearly don’t have any real friends. This is just sad to me. Have you ever had a real, in person friend? Do you not know the difference?
No wonder there are so many lonely, depressed women out there

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Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I've also met lifelong girlfriends through work. When you are working with someone 40 hours a week you really get to know them.

I work with a lot of Gen Z kids and although we all work from home, they get together all the time. They have lunches and happy hours and socialize outside of work hours regularly. I really don't think much has changed.

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Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I don't know a single person who has met their spouse at work.

really? I met my spouse at work and so did many of my friends in non-medical fields. We worked in different departments so it wasn't that weird when we started dating and it would not have been that bad if we had broken up. That said, I am not sure if that is a reason why everyone should go back to the office. I am back a few days a week and don't mind though.

Most Studies estimate that at most 20% of all marriages originate at the workplace. So most married adults are not meeting their spouses at work.

OP’s concern still stands. My DH was met thru work and not at work. That would still be a result of the in-person thought we weren’t colleagues.
Plus, you’re not considering all the work friends, trusted colleagues and mentors. I still keep in touch with the attys from my first job years ago. They’ve been integral in helping me start my own practice. I wonder if those ties still remain for this generation if you only know people via Zoom

Those of us who have worked for international companies are here to tell you but it’s very possible to form strong relationships with coworkers worldwide without having to sit next to them every single day.

You’re either a friendly congenial person, or you’re not.

I’m sorry but no. You are not forming a “strong” relationship with someone that you’ve never seen (or don’t see more than 1x per year). No matter how well you think you know someone, the absence of physical proximity limits your interactions. You know your colleagues as a font type only

Lol. Ok. You clearly have shit interpersonal skills if you cannot connect with someone by voice/video.

And you clearly don’t have any real friends. This is just sad to me. Have you ever had a real, in person friend? Do you not know the difference?
No wonder there are so many lonely, depressed women out there

Let me get this straight. Because I can form close relationships with colleagues around the world that translates into me having no in-person friends? LOL. Your logic is out of this world. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I don't know a single person who has met their spouse at work.

really? I met my spouse at work and so did many of my friends in non-medical fields. We worked in different departments so it wasn't that weird when we started dating and it would not have been that bad if we had broken up. That said, I am not sure if that is a reason why everyone should go back to the office. I am back a few days a week and don't mind though.

Most Studies estimate that at most 20% of all marriages originate at the workplace. So most married adults are not meeting their spouses at work.

OP’s concern still stands. My DH was met thru work and not at work. That would still be a result of the in-person thought we weren’t colleagues.
Plus, you’re not considering all the work friends, trusted colleagues and mentors. I still keep in touch with the attys from my first job years ago. They’ve been integral in helping me start my own practice. I wonder if those ties still remain for this generation if you only know people via Zoom

Those of us who have worked for international companies are here to tell you but it’s very possible to form strong relationships with coworkers worldwide without having to sit next to them every single day.

You’re either a friendly congenial person, or you’re not.

I’m sorry but no. You are not forming a “strong” relationship with someone that you’ve never seen (or don’t see more than 1x per year). No matter how well you think you know someone, the absence of physical proximity limits your interactions. You know your colleagues as a font type only

Lol. Ok. You clearly have shit interpersonal skills if you cannot connect with someone by voice/video.

And you clearly don’t have any real friends. This is just sad to me. Have you ever had a real, in person friend? Do you not know the difference?
No wonder there are so many lonely, depressed women out there

Let me get this straight. Because I can form close relationships with colleagues around the world that translates into me having no in-person friends? LOL. Your logic is out of this world. 😂

Dude, the zoom call you had with a person in Hong Kong that you’ve never met in person doesn’t make you friends. It doesn’t mean you’re close. You just got a job done. It’s crazy that you don’t know the impact of physical presence. You’ve missed most of the details that make a friendship.

My bet is that you’re actually quite lonely, which is why you’re so insistent on the fact that you’re BFFs w people you never met

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Anonymous wrote:I think that's fine for younger staff and people who just want to go into the office for social reasons. You folks go right ahead.

Those of us who are already married can continue to work from home.

Right? I’m not sure that me (a working mom of 3 with no free time) going into the office is going to help out OP. Us marrieds with stay home and the singles can commute if they want.

+1, I am in the office twice a week and I don’t mind helping onboard people during those 2 days or having junior colleagues drop into my office to ask questions, but I put my hours in and go home on my office days. For most non-front facing jobs there is no need for senior staff to be in more than 2 days a week. You’re available for mentoring and questions a couple days a week and you can stagger the senior people’s office days. I definitely don’t need to be back in the office for younger colleague’s social lives because as a 40 something married mom of 2 who puts her time in on office days and tries to beat the traffic home I add nothing to their social lives.

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Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I don't know a single person who has met their spouse at work.

Actually, that's not true - the only people I know that met their spouses at work are in the medical field, where they'll be in person anyway.

I work for the Government and I can’t count the number of people I know who met at work. I met my husband Online in 2001, when that was still embarrassing to admit, and I currently WFH too.

The people on this thread attacking OP for this fear are clearly not on TikTok or IG because it’s a very common concern amongst Gen Z, many of whom are scared of not knowing how to meet people in a world that changed out from under them at a critical time in their lives. They got cheated out of a typical college and/or High School experience. They don’t have the same experience starting a job out of school. This “boomer” insult is SO STUPID. Yelling Boomer every time someone disagrees with you is lazy and closed minded. WFH is not for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Great. Go in.

Nobody else is there.

Then find a job at a company that is in-person. It's not that hard.

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Most of my friends including me met are spouse through people we met at work or happy hours after work.

I never dated anyone I worked with. But did date and marry girls I met at after hours happy hours with co-workers.

My start up pre pandemic had a monthly Thirsty Thursday at our UK, San Fran and NYC location. HR organized and managers had a budget. I only got to go to one pre pandenic took train to NYC was great around 60 of us hung out at a cool roof top bar

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What boomer created this topic ? Nobody meets their spouse at work

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Anonymous wrote:Great. Go in.

Nobody else is there.

Then find a job at a company that is in-person. It's not that hard.

Which companies are in-person?

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Anonymous wrote:Great. Go in.

Nobody else is there.

Then find a job at a company that is in-person. It's not that hard.

Which companies are in-person?

I have friends at Microsoft, Salesforce, Accenture, Deloitte, Northrup, Leidos, ePlus, and a number of smaller companies all with the ability to work in person. You can search for work from home roles on Indeed, etc, so start looking for jobs and make sure that filter is on.

And make an effort to leave your house every day for an activity. You have non-work friends, right? Set up a weekly happy hour in Ballston. You’ll meet LOTS of men that way.

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Anonymous wrote:Great. Go in.

Nobody else is there.

Then find a job at a company that is in-person. It's not that hard.

Which companies are in-person?

I have friends at Microsoft, Salesforce, Accenture, Deloitte, Northrup, Leidos, ePlus, and a number of smaller companies all with the ability to work in person. You can search for work from home roles on Indeed, etc, so start looking for jobs and make sure that filter is on.

And make an effort to leave your house every day for an activity. You have non-work friends, right? Set up a weekly happy hour in Ballston. You’ll meet LOTS of men that way.

Key word here. That doesn’t answer the question. Nobody at those companies actually goes in-person.

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You're right, OP. But there's not much you can do about it. Get on the dating apps like everyone else.