I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I am mid-40s. I don't know ANYONE who met their spouse at work. In fact, most people...before and now...have a rule not to date at work.

I never would have met a man at work. Small employers and mostly women.

Well, this might be hard to imagine, but other people lead different lives than you.

I work in a field that has plenty of men. I broke my rule to not date at work because I had a gut feeling he was the one. We are going on 10+ years now.

Also read some of the previous responses of those that met their husband at work.

Society is going down the you-know-where because no one has the ability to think outside of their own immediate thoughts and feelings.

There's a huge difference between someone who met their spouse at work and someone, like OP, who is actively seeking a spouse at work. The former happens, the latter is extraordinarily problematic.

Meeting a potential spouse at work is probably a healthier venue than meeting at a bar or thru tindr.

[Anonymous]

My son is 22 years old, and will be graduating soon.

I kind of feel bad that he won't have a chance to learn from colleagues in an office setting, at least a few days a week. Also, when I was in my 20's, it was always fun to meet up with friends and go out (or work out together) after work. I met so many people just through work lunches, etc, as I worked in a big corporation that was relatively social.

There are people on this site accusing OP of thinking like a boomer. But I think it's the middle-aged hard-core WFH people who are hellbent on keeping everyone else at home, so that it does not impact their careers when younger workers are OK to come into the office (at least a few days per week).

Also, a lot of the die-hard WFH types seem to kind of dislike their jobs or their office environment. In contrast, for people who like their jobs (and who have nice offices at work), it can be great to go into the office a few days a week.

[Anonymous]

I met so many friends and at least 1 serious bf through work. Meet my husband tangentially through work. This really sucks for young people who aren’t total introverts and don’t have a big crew of friends from college in their same town. I get it.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a loser.

[Anonymous]

Almost everyone I know met in grad school, maybe try that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 22 years old, and will be graduating soon.

I kind of feel bad that he won't have a chance to learn from colleagues in an office setting, at least a few days a week. Also, when I was in my 20's, it was always fun to meet up with friends and go out (or work out together) after work. I met so many people just through work lunches, etc, as I worked in a big corporation that was relatively social.

There are people on this site accusing OP of thinking like a boomer. But I think it's the middle-aged hard-core WFH people who are hellbent on keeping everyone else at home, so that it does not impact their careers when younger workers are OK to come into the office (at least a few days per week).

Also, a lot of the die-hard WFH types seem to kind of dislike their jobs or their office environment. In contrast, for people who like their jobs (and who have nice offices at work), it can be great to go into the office a few days a week.

You’re probably right.

I’m almost 40 and I have young kids. Being able to work from home is a game changer in order to have any work life balance. Then again, I’m already married and I already have a pretty nice professional network. Maybe in 10 years I’ll feel differently, but for now I will use whatever influence I have to push for work from home policies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I suggest you march into your HR and tell them this. Please let us know how much workplace harassment training they assign you as a result. Anyone seeking a spouse at work is a huge liability for a company.

And OP needs to make sure to state this as her reason “ Some of us went to non-flagship state universities with shitty dating pools, have somehow landed at “prestigious” companies and are hoping for a second chance.”

Her company OWES her prestigious man!

That’s quite a leap you’ve made.

She posted it. Try reading the thread before trying to snark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I am mid-40s. I don't know ANYONE who met their spouse at work. In fact, most people...before and now...have a rule not to date at work.

I never would have met a man at work. Small employers and mostly women.

Well, this might be hard to imagine, but other people lead different lives than you.

I work in a field that has plenty of men. I broke my rule to not date at work because I had a gut feeling he was the one. We are going on 10+ years now.

Also read some of the previous responses of those that met their husband at work.

Society is going down the you-know-where because no one has the ability to think outside of their own immediate thoughts and feelings.

Many jobs in DC are like what I described. Get out of your bubble. Most people do not meet at work. You are overly hostile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I suggest you march into your HR and tell them this. Please let us know how much workplace harassment training they assign you as a result. Anyone seeking a spouse at work is a huge liability for a company.

And OP needs to make sure to state this as her reason “ Some of us went to non-flagship state universities with shitty dating pools, have somehow landed at “prestigious” companies and are hoping for a second chance.”

Her company OWES her prestigious man!

That’s quite a leap you’ve made.

She posted it. Try reading the thread before trying to snark.

The last line was of your own making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I suggest you march into your HR and tell them this. Please let us know how much workplace harassment training they assign you as a result. Anyone seeking a spouse at work is a huge liability for a company.

And OP needs to make sure to state this as her reason “ Some of us went to non-flagship state universities with shitty dating pools, have somehow landed at “prestigious” companies and are hoping for a second chance.”

Her company OWES her prestigious man!

That’s quite a leap you’ve made.

She posted it. Try reading the thread before trying to snark.

The last line was of your own making.

It’s a fact based on what she has posted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For the people who immediately focus on intra-office dating, surely you understand that in large cities or urban sprawl, people work for different companies in the same building? That you can meet in the lobby, elevator, coffee shop, little wilted garden, etc? In just a few years, have you entirely forgotten what it's like to go to work?!?!

I really appreciated my workplace and *most* (not all) of the people in it when I was working in person. I don't think there's a big push to return to virtual work at all.

However I think virtual works well for some people, and I hope they can still find virtual options.

As I recall, while I was being paid to work, I worked. I didn't hit on people in the elevator or hang out like a homeless drifter in the "wilted garden."

So you walked straight to your cubicle, typed for 8 hrs, sprinted to elevator, and bolted out the door? If so, you may have certain personal issues. That’s fine
But most of us were capable of going work and being social with fellow employees. You know, normal human interaction

Sorry, my job wasn't typing in a cubicle. No wonder you can't wait to get back.

No wonder you had no friends. You sound fun

And I WFH. I’ve got no skin in this game but I do remember how it was when I was single, young and in an office. Way more fun than your life it seems

I had a life outside the office that was plenty of fun, enough so that I didn't have to beg work colleagues to keep me from being lonely and left alone in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people who immediately focus on intra-office dating, surely you understand that in large cities or urban sprawl, people work for different companies in the same building? That you can meet in the lobby, elevator, coffee shop, little wilted garden, etc? In just a few years, have you entirely forgotten what it's like to go to work?!?!

I really appreciated my workplace and *most* (not all) of the people in it when I was working in person. I don't think there's a big push to return to virtual work at all.

However I think virtual works well for some people, and I hope they can still find virtual options.

As I recall, while I was being paid to work, I worked. I didn't hit on people in the elevator or hang out like a homeless drifter in the "wilted garden."

So you walked straight to your cubicle, typed for 8 hrs, sprinted to elevator, and bolted out the door? If so, you may have certain personal issues. That’s fine
But most of us were capable of going work and being social with fellow employees. You know, normal human interaction

Sorry, my job wasn't typing in a cubicle. No wonder you can't wait to get back.

No wonder you had no friends. You sound fun

And I WFH. I’ve got no skin in this game but I do remember how it was when I was single, young and in an office. Way more fun than your life it seems

I had a life outside the office that was plenty of fun, enough so that I didn't have to beg work colleagues to keep me from being lonely and left alone in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

I don't know a single person who has met their spouse at work.

Really? I did. We weren’t coworkers, but my DH was a client. (I didn’t do any work with him)