Redshirting August boy?

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Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

I think this is the right lens to look at things. Not just consider elementary school and K.

I think it is very hard to be a younger boy in middle school.

I personally think an extra year with your child at home to influence their decision making before they go off into the world is a positive and not a negative but I see the argument the PP is making. Teen years can be tough. But also, many kids turn 18 in that Fall (my son will) so I suppose many of us will be in that boat.

I wouldn't want to send a 17 year old to college. Just me.

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Anonymous wrote:Do it, you won’t regret it. We redshirted my eldest daughter born 5 days before the cut off. She stayed in her preschool one more year (with se lever al other classmates). It was non-issue. She was fine academically and now in 3rd she is doing fantastic (90-99th percentile on ERB), but she was socially immature. Even now that she is among the oldest in her class (though has never been the oldest), she is still on the you get side, but more middle of the pack.

In our well-known private, I have never seen a girl or a boy with an august birthday going on time. Plenty/all are redshirted

They are all socially immature and she should be doing fantastic since she is measured at a year behind what her grade should be.

She's not a year behind, as a late August birthday she's only a couple of weeks older than the official start of the grade. She should be on the more mature end of her class.

You said she is held back. And since she should be on the more mature end of her class, why isn’t she since you held her back to remedy that?

Actually my DD was born 5 days before cut off (not a couple of weeks) and out of 18 kids she is the 4th oldest… so what… 65-70th percentile? Giving that is is scoring 90-99th percentile she is definitely doing great!

You want a cookie? She should be scoring that if she is the 4th oldest. That’s nothing to brag about.

What is your problem? Why so bitter? Why do you care this much?
My guess is that you are super competitive and you want your non-redshirted summer kid to do better than anyone else…. How weird… No chance you would so bitter unless it was personal

Ironically, you’re the bitter one who got cannot handle being called out by your “brag” as not really being something to brag about. DP

Not at all! I am not going on anonymous boards telling other parents their kids are mediocre. My kids are doing great and I support redshirting for any kids who would benefit from one more year before entering PK/K.

You are going on anonymous boards boasting about a scores of a child who is one of the eldest. That should be expected and not an outstanding accomplishment. You’re the mom who wants a trophy for participating.

Ok. Whatever… I really don’t care. My child is very happy and well adjusted at an amazing school, with great friends and great academics. Redshirting was a great decision for us.
My suggestion for OP is to avoid listening to the crazies on this board and talk to teachers at both schools and to other parents. You son will not be the oldest if you decide to redshirt.

NP. Why does her child or any child need to be the oldest. What’s with your infatuation with that. Sounds like you are the one seeking happiness. Name calling only serves to show your insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

Most HS seniors turn 18 their last year of high school. So you're saying this happens to everyone. Big whoop. I have a late spring birthday and even I turned 18 high school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do it.

- parent of a late August birthday kid who didn't redshirt

+1 - another late August-born son regret.

PP here. OP, you should consider academic readiness but also social and emotional development. You could also throw in size too.

I didn't redshirt my late son born in late August, and I regret it. Academically, he was ready. However, his social development was behind, he has ADD and has always had issues regulating his emotions. As school demands increase, lack of maturity and other factors like emotional regulation and ability to concentrate become more of a problem. For my son, everything was great until 5th and 6th grade, when he wasn't ready or able to put forth the sustained effort needed to do well in school. If your kid is very active and has trouble sitting for long stretches, an extra year might help. On top of the other issues, my son has always been small for his age (less than 5th percentile). When academic and social challenges are piled on a kid who is years away from puberty while classmates are pairing up, it's tough. Social and emotional development impact academic achievement.

I don't think that all August-born kids should be redshirted, but a variety of factors should be considered in making the decision.

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Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

I think this is the right lens to look at things. Not just consider elementary school and K.

I think it is very hard to be a younger boy in middle school.

I personally think an extra year with your child at home to influence their decision making before they go off into the world is a positive and not a negative but I see the argument the PP is making. Teen years can be tough. But also, many kids turn 18 in that Fall (my son will) so I suppose many of us will be in that boat.

I wouldn't want to send a 17 year old to college. Just me.

They would not be 17. They would be 18 in August.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

And?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

You wouldn’t send your child to college because of the two weeks of being 17? Good Lord!

[Anonymous]

Send him on time. We did no regrets.

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Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

You wouldn’t send your child to college because of the two weeks of being 17? Good Lord!

What's the rush?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

That 2 week period is not a reason to redshirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

Most HS seniors turn 18 their last year of high school. So you're saying this happens to everyone. Big whoop. I have a late spring birthday and even I turned 18 high school.

Yep, my redshirted kid would start senior year as a 17 yo and turn 18 early during senior year, just like non-redshirted kids.

That's what happens with late August birthdays--they aren't materially different than early September birthdays even if one kid is redshirted and the other isn't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

You wouldn’t send your child to college because of the two weeks of being 17? Good Lord!

What's the rush?

Rushing what? The child wasn’t pushed forward. 18 is not an unusual age to attend college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

That 2 week period is not a reason to redshirt.

It's one of many. But there's no reason that is acceptable to you, so what does it matter if you agree?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Before you redshirt, just remember that you will have a year of parenting an adult in the future.

So many of my friends who redshirted their boys had huge struggles once they reached 18 and still had another year of HS left.

Lots of "you can't make me, I'm 18" and fighting.

And if you don’t redshirt a late August birthday, you’ll most likely be dropping off a 17 year old, non-adult to college, since many colleges start mid-August. There are downsides to that as well.

No, they would be turning 18.

If move-in day is August 15 and your DC turns 18 on August 31, they will be 17 when you drop them off at college. Yes, they turn 18 quickly but you’re dropping off a kid who is not yet a legal adult.

You wouldn’t send your child to college because of the two weeks of being 17? Good Lord!

What's the rush?

What’s the holdup?