In-laws don’t offer to host. Tired of hosting. How to handle?

[Anonymous]

Agree breaking the cycle with a vacation will help. Or tell them you’re thinking of planning a vacation because you need a break from planning holidays and see if they volunteer.

[Anonymous]

Wait so you are already hosting your own family this Xmas, but you don’t want your in laws to come over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tired. DH is very helpful but I’m tired of hosting. I’m tired of helping clean the house and shopping, prepping and cooking, cleaning. I want to be hosted! In-laws never offer and wait for you to offer to host. I oblige because I don’t want to not celebrate with them. We just did Thanksgiving. We’ve done every holiday since 2019. I’m done.
How to drop the rope, or get DH on board. Because let’s be honest, DH is helpful, but majority of hosting falls on the women.

Don't mean to hijack your thread with this question, but... what does the bolded mean?

I've seen this expression used a number of times on DCUM (usually in reference to either feeding like a doormat, creating boundaries or cutting off a toxic relationship/family member).

Is there something in particular that this phrase is referenced from?

You can't figure it out from context in the many posts you've seen it used in? That's how I learned it.

Tell us you don't know without telling us you don't know. 🤣
Next time, don't waste our time posting unless you're going to actually say something of value, your post is worthless.

[Anonymous]

Have them come over for brunch.

“Mary, you and Mark are welcome to come over for brunch at 11am. We can open presents and eat. Once I get the dishes in the dishwasher I will be putting my feet up and playing with the kids and their new toys.”

That is what I did with my MIL for many years. We opened our family presents and the Santa presents. MIL arrived for brunch. She stayed until maybe 2ish and then we went to my parents house in the evening. When she got too old to drive, we began taking her out on Christmas Eve and then kept to our regular Christmas day schedule. Next year I want to go on vacation for the holiday.