Is it weird to bring my mom to my in-law’s thanksgiving?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask OP. You f'king idiot. Just ASK!

I had to SMH over this response. Calling OP a f'king idiot, when their ability to write a correct sentence is idiotic. Commas are your friend PP.

Ask, OP! What you said was to ask the OP.

As in:
Let's eat, Grandma!
vs
Let's eat Grandma!

[Anonymous]

Does your mom want to go? My mom would eat 5/$1 ramen on thanksgiving before she’d go to my in-laws.

[Anonymous]

We are having our kids, their spouses, and a few of their in laws for Thanksgiving this year. I am happy and excited about it- the more the merrier!

[Anonymous]

Our thanksgivings include my boyfriend, his siblings and their families, his parents, my mom and son (my dad is deceased), my boyfriend’s sister’s husband’s mother and father (they’re divorced, sometimes he brings a girlfriend), and my boyfriend’s brother’s wife’s mom and brother. And whoever else wants to come, all are welcome.

Bring your mom! And celebrate the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has nowhere else to go as I’m her only nearby family and I’m going to my in-laws’ place. They have a large family and my MIL is kind of smug about how blessed she is to have such a large, “close” family (whether it is close is debatable). They would welcome my mom, but MIL has a tendency to gossip and judge the misfortunes of others. My mom’s misfortune being that she is divorced and has no one but me. I hate for her to pity my mom or me. I’m thinking of seeing my mom by myself earlier in the day, then going to the in-laws without her. I don’t want them to feel sorry for me or her.

It would be awesome to bring her and you should. Just prepare her for your MIL.
I don't know why more people don't have mixed holidays so no one is left out. I realize that doesn't work for everyone but it can work for more than do it.

[Anonymous]

Have your mom bring a killer dish.

[Anonymous]

This would be completely normal and encouraged in my family and in my DH’s. I hope they welcome her with open arms!

[Anonymous]

I have posted many times on this forum about issues with my ILs and my own family. Both can be difficult and cause drama.

When it comes to holidays, both sides have welcomed each other always. No problems there. Bring your mother but speak to your MIL directly before, mostly so she has an accurate headcount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has nowhere else to go as I’m her only nearby family and I’m going to my in-laws’ place. They have a large family and my MIL is kind of smug about how blessed she is to have such a large, “close” family (whether it is close is debatable). They would welcome my mom, but MIL has a tendency to gossip and judge the misfortunes of others. My mom’s misfortune being that she is divorced and has no one but me. I hate for her to pity my mom or me. I’m thinking of seeing my mom by myself earlier in the day, then going to the in-laws without her. I don’t want them to feel sorry for me or her.

Invite your mom!

Go there... both of you laugh... smile... talk with everyone... bond..
compliment the relatives cooking or their baking or their outfits, etc.
Have a blast, and you & your mom be the hit of Thanksgiving!

I guarantee you that she won't feel sorry for either of you if you both look like you're having the most fun day ever. 😁

This is a great answer.
What could your mil possibly be smug about, if your mom is the hit of the day?

[Anonymous]

Not at all

[Anonymous]

I'm the mom and we invited two of the kids' local inlaws to Thanksgiving the last few years - minus 2020, where just us two ate at home. Not weird at all. Hope you all have a great time!

[Anonymous]

No it’s not weird.

[Anonymous]

I love all of these I’m inclusionary responses. We used to do this until my mom decided she didn’t like my in laws for no apparent reason. Now we cannot all be together and it just make life harder.