Are you ever secretly jealous of people with degrees from elite private schools?

[Anonymous]

I went to an HYP undergrad and had a miserable experience. Still regret it many years later. Could have gone to my state school for free plus a stipend! Sigh. YMMV…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to an HYP undergrad and had a miserable experience. Still regret it many years later. Could have gone to my state school for free plus a stipend! Sigh. YMMV…

That degree can never be taken away from you though.

[Anonymous]

I went to elite private schools for college and grad school, and I am good with sending my kids to public universities if that works out better, and I don't think they or you should feel insecure at all.

There's a lot of reasons to choose a school. If people make assumptions, that's their problem.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my spouse went to no name schools and makes more than my sibling doctor who went to ivys.

I guess for me, it's not really about the money. It's about all the vague, ambiguous things, like class and pedigree. I don't necessarily like that I think this way, but I do. You can fake a lot of things in life, like the ability to buy luxury brands or nice clothing or an expensive watch, or certain affectations. But education? You can't fake that.

Columbia was literally caught faking rankings, and 1/3rd of their students come in through the General Studies backdoor. Definitely fakeable.

Is that how Obama transferred in with self-disclosed mediocre stats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to an HYP undergrad and had a miserable experience. Still regret it many years later. Could have gone to my state school for free plus a stipend! Sigh. YMMV…

No you didn’t. Troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get what you mean OP. I went to a commuter state school and earlier a Catholic parish H.S. Boarding schools + Ivies are so posh. My kid went to HYP and never has to prove how smart/posh she is.

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You obviously are insecure and it's great your kid is at HYP but in reality after a certain point no one cares where you went to school (I went to an ivy so I know). What matters more is how you perform and how resourceful you are. There are couple of people from Harvard who I have worked with who make me question their admission practices so I personally never assume going to a top school guarantees intelligence. Some of my ivy classmates did well but most live average lives. I tell my kids to focus on knowledge and skills and not to be too enamoured by brand names. In the current environment going to an ivy does not mean you are smart but that fit into some institutional priority (not denying that there are some very talented kids at those institutions).

Troll. If you actually went to an Ivy- you would not use a small"i".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, my spouse went to no name schools and makes more than my sibling doctor who went to ivys.

I guess for me, it's not really about the money. It's about all the vague, ambiguous things, like class and pedigree. I don't necessarily like that I think this way, but I do. You can fake a lot of things in life, like the ability to buy luxury brands or nice clothing or an expensive watch, or certain affectations. But education? You can't fake that.

I guess a little, for these reasons. But, that was not an option for me growing up poor and being what is now "first gen." My father was barely literate. But, now we are successful and my kid won't get any benefit because DC will be "privileged." So, we can't win either way.

It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to an HYP undergrad and had a miserable experience. Still regret it many years later. Could have gone to my state school for free plus a stipend! Sigh. YMMV…

No you didn’t. Troll.

+1. So obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to an HYP undergrad and had a miserable experience. Still regret it many years later. Could have gone to my state school for free plus a stipend! Sigh. YMMV…

No you didn’t. Troll.

+1. So obvious.

I don’t think that’s a troll. I went to HYS and I knew a lot of deeply miserable people. They aren’t happy places with well-adjusted people.

[Anonymous]

I went to a NE boarding school (one of Andover/Exeter/Deerfield) and private universities for undergrad and grad school. DH went to public school through 12th grade and flagship state schools for undergrad and grad school (Michigan/UVA/Berkeley/UNC … that sort of thing).

We’ve talked about what we think we each gained from our experiences.

He has better street smarts than I do; he gained a lot from having to navigate massive university bureaucracies.

I think there are certain substantive areas I know better than he does. For example, while his knowledge of grammar is certainly strong enough to do his job well, he often asks me to proofread important emails or asks me why a certain grammatical rule is what it is. I think I have a broader knowledge base than he does when it comes to literature. I benefitted from a very expansive English curriculum in high school.

Honestly, though, what I learned in high school he largely just learned in college, so at the end of the day, we ended up in roughly the same place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get what you mean OP. I went to a commuter state school and earlier a Catholic parish H.S. Boarding schools + Ivies are so posh. My kid went to HYP and never has to prove how smart/posh she is.

‐‐‐‐‐--'
You obviously are insecure and it's great your kid is at HYP but in reality after a certain point no one cares where you went to school (I went to an ivy so I know). What matters more is how you perform and how resourceful you are. There are couple of people from Harvard who I have worked with who make me question their admission practices so I personally never assume going to a top school guarantees intelligence. Some of my ivy classmates did well but most live average lives. I tell my kids to focus on knowledge and skills and not to be too enamoured by brand names. In the current environment going to an ivy does not mean you are smart but that fit into some institutional priority (not denying that there are some very talented kids at those institutions).

Wow. This is pompous and misguided. Either you didn't read what I said or didn't comprehend it. Don't confuse appreciation with insecurity, and don't confuse opportunity with intelligence. Yikes, that is thick! While I am thrilled my kid is attending an Ivy, I realize that her education redults from what she puts into it. Thank goodness, or reading your post would have worried me.

[Anonymous]

I think as long as you are managing life well and can have intelligent conversations it shows that you would have done ok at those schools you are jealous of. There are people who attend non-ivys that probably aren't college worthy yet somehow they made it through, but if you aren't one of these people faking it through a lower-tier college, I don't think it really matters.

[Anonymous]

I'm a self-professed education snob and it's pretty clear that many people feel insecure about their educational background. I actually place a far higher value on education than money. I'd much rather converse with an erudite pauper than some uneducated blowhard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a self-professed education snob and it's pretty clear that many people feel insecure about their educational background. I actually place a far higher value on education than money. I'd much rather converse with an erudite pauper than some uneducated blowhard.

+100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a NE boarding school (one of Andover/Exeter/Deerfield) and private universities for undergrad and grad school. DH went to public school through 12th grade and flagship state schools for undergrad and grad school (Michigan/UVA/Berkeley/UNC … that sort of thing).

We’ve talked about what we think we each gained from our experiences.

He has better street smarts than I do; he gained a lot from having to navigate massive university bureaucracies.

I think there are certain substantive areas I know better than he does. For example, while his knowledge of grammar is certainly strong enough to do his job well, he often asks me to proofread important emails or asks me why a certain grammatical rule is what it is. I think I have a broader knowledge base than he does when it comes to literature. I benefitted from a very expansive English curriculum in high school.

Honestly, though, what I learned in high school he largely just learned in college, so at the end of the day, we ended up in roughly the same place.

This is hysterical. You really think he needs you to proof his emails because he went to public HS? Let me guess…he makes more money than you do?