White tie early in the day?

[Anonymous]

White tie? During the daytime? For wedding guests? Wrong on so many levels I don’t even know where to start.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I was planning to wear something that says "formal tea/garden party".

I have this already: https://us.dolcegabbana.com/fashion/women/clothing/dresses/abito-multicolor-158052145310294.html?keeplocale=true&Country=US

but I can find something longer and maybe a tad fancier. I just don't want to wear a ballgown to a farm in the morning

Beautiful but only an idiot would pay $2000+ for a dress to wear to a barn wedding!

Lovely.

I posted that I already own the D and G dress. Didn’t buy it for the wedding. But by all means, don’t miss an opportunity to be rude.

NP. So, you said earlier that you have the whole gamut in your closet already. Do you have any long-but-kinda-casual dresses, like people are suggesting? What are you leaning toward? Curious to see links/pics to what else you like. I personally could never afford a $2k dress, but it is cute, so let me live vicariously through you!

The fact that OP has pointedly ignored people’s helpful suggestions shows me that she just wanted to show off her $2K dress, and she’s miffed that more people didn’t just fawn all over it. It’s pretty, but it’s nowhere near formal enough to cover the bases if other people are dressed up.

She also is trying to judge people and get pile-on for these relatives making such a faux pas (and implying their standard for "fancy" was a BBQ at her home, when they were probably being gracious guests).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I was planning to wear something that says "formal tea/garden party".

I have this already: https://us.dolcegabbana.com/fashion/women/clothing/dresses/abito-multicolor-158052145310294.html?keeplocale=true&Country=US

but I can find something longer and maybe a tad fancier. I just don't want to wear a ballgown to a farm in the morning

Beautiful but only an idiot would pay $2000+ for a dress to wear to a barn wedding!

Lovely.

I posted that I already own the D and G dress. Didn’t buy it for the wedding. But by all means, don’t miss an opportunity to be rude.

NP. So, you said earlier that you have the whole gamut in your closet already. Do you have any long-but-kinda-casual dresses, like people are suggesting? What are you leaning toward? Curious to see links/pics to what else you like. I personally could never afford a $2k dress, but it is cute, so let me live vicariously through you!

The fact that OP has pointedly ignored people’s helpful suggestions shows me that she just wanted to show off her $2K dress, and she’s miffed that more people didn’t just fawn all over it. It’s pretty, but it’s nowhere near formal enough to cover the bases if other people are dressed up.

She also is trying to judge people and get pile-on for these relatives making such a faux pas (and implying their standard for "fancy" was a BBQ at her home, when they were probably being gracious guests).

I agree 100%.

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Anonymous wrote:They clearly have no clue what they are asking. Wear a pretty, summery dress and be done with it. Maybe a long dress because that kind of checks the formality box if people are dressed up, but you can find something light and comfortable.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/eliza-j-floral-flutter-sleeve-dress/5900351?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=338

Something like this would be perfect.

That is ugly and frumpy.

Maybe on your body.

lol I was just reading the thread about people being mean.
Did you design the dress? Why the nastiness? I'm allowed to not like it.

Nope! You got caught being rude and now you don’t like that you started the rudeness. You don’t get to play innocent when you pooh-poohed someone’s helpful suggestion, with no purpose other than to be negative. You’re not an innocent victim, you’re one of the unnecessarily rude people on DCUM. -dp

[Anonymous]

Op here,

Reached out today to the mother of the bride. She said “it is white tie, so tuxedos and long dresses”. I said “okay, thank you so much for letting me know!”

I messaged another of DH’s cousins to see what they are wearing.

As for the comments about the dress I posted, I took the advice to wear something long. I never said I was dead set on that particular dress just that I had it and it fit the criteria of “garden party”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here,

Reached out today to the mother of the bride. She said “it is white tie, so tuxedos and long dresses”. I said “okay, thank you so much for letting me know!”

I messaged another of DH’s cousins to see what they are wearing.

As for the comments about the dress I posted, I took the advice to wear something long. I never said I was dead set on that particular dress just that I had it and it fit the criteria of “garden party”.

Please update us after the wedding with how things turned out and if others actually wore white tie.

[Anonymous]

High noon is ok for white tie, otherwise not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High noon is ok for white tie, otherwise not.

White tie is properly worn after 6 pm.

[Anonymous]

Good Lord, people, its a wedding -- they can do it anyway they want. Maybe they wanted white tie memories, but could only get the venue for daytime. So what? Only an ogre would mock them for this. It's a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Well, OP, now you've gotten over your social anxiety and called the host, you know what's expected!

Enjoy the wedding. I'm sure it'll be lovely.

Please note that I got married in my family's 18th century castle... with a farm on the grounds. The venue might actually be appropriate for white tie, even though the timing is creative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:High noon is ok for white tie, otherwise not.

White tie is properly worn after 6 pm.

I thought it was after 8 pm. And means tails. Black tie is after 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here,

Reached out today to the mother of the bride. She said “it is white tie, so tuxedos and long dresses”. I said “okay, thank you so much for letting me know!”

I messaged another of DH’s cousins to see what they are wearing.

As for the comments about the dress I posted, I took the advice to wear something long. I never said I was dead set on that particular dress just that I had it and it fit the criteria of “garden party”.

Now that you know that it is White Tie and and Tails, it is permissible for women to wear tiaras.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:High noon is ok for white tie, otherwise not.

White tie is properly worn after 6 pm.

I thought it was after 8 pm. And means tails. Black tie is after 6.

Honestly, nobody cares anymore. Such nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here,

Reached out today to the mother of the bride. She said “it is white tie, so tuxedos and long dresses”. I said “okay, thank you so much for letting me know!”

I messaged another of DH’s cousins to see what they are wearing.

As for the comments about the dress I posted, I took the advice to wear something long. I never said I was dead set on that particular dress just that I had it and it fit the criteria of “garden party”.

Tuxedos are not white tie. A dinner jacket is black tie.

White tie is different.

[Anonymous]

I would need to attend this wedding just to watch the train wreck. Its funny to watch people putting on airs, and doing it oh-so-incorrectly.