White tie early in the day?

[Anonymous]

So basically this is just a white trash family who doesn’t know what “white tie” means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did your husband wear OP?

He wore navy slacks, a button down shirt and tie that had some colors that match my dress.

[Anonymous]

Wait-- NO one is going to get out their smelling salts over the fact there was a freaking raffle at a wedding, to raise money for some item that was on the registry but no one purchased? Because I'm going to have to use an an entire smelling-salt-store worth of 'em, plus I'll have to cluch not only my own pearls but every pearl in DC, over THAT detail.

But seriously: I'm not afraid to judge out loud: A raffle at a wedding, selling off shots at winning the bouquets (so desirable!) to pay for some big-ticket item that wasn't bought from the registry -- that's beyond tacky. Maybe the family thought it was somehow funnier? or classier? or something? than just saying frankly, "Get out your wallets and pony up $X each toward Sally and Sam's Super Expensive Registry Item they knew no one would really get for them, but they sure do want it!"

Blast me if you want, DCUM, but damn, a wedding raffle truly takes the cake for greediness. In fact, maybe instead of the bouquet raffle, the family should have just sold the cake, by the slice. At least then everyone would have gotten a little something for their money.

[Anonymous]

OP, what was the registry item?

I think the idea of a raffle is hilarious and too crazy for the etiquette rules to even apply.

Sounds like a fun wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Wait-- NO one is going to get out their smelling salts over the fact there was a freaking raffle at a wedding, to raise money for some item that was on the registry but no one purchased? Because I'm going to have to use an an entire smelling-salt-store worth of 'em, plus I'll have to cluch not only my own pearls but every pearl in DC, over THAT detail.

But seriously: I'm not afraid to judge out loud: A raffle at a wedding, selling off shots at winning the bouquets (so desirable!) to pay for some big-ticket item that wasn't bought from the registry -- that's beyond tacky. Maybe the family thought it was somehow funnier? or classier? or something? than just saying frankly, "Get out your wallets and pony up $X each toward Sally and Sam's Super Expensive Registry Item they knew no one would really get for them, but they sure do want it!"

Blast me if you want, DCUM, but damn, a wedding raffle truly takes the cake for greediness. In fact, maybe instead of the bouquet raffle, the family should have just sold the cake, by the slice. At least then everyone would have gotten a little something for their money.

At first I thought OP was legit but now I’m wondering if troll. The extra stuff from the wedding seems too extra.

[Anonymous]

The groomsmen wore jeans and a polo shirt. What a hot mess!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The groomsmen wore jeans and a polo shirt. What a hot mess!

This is where OP overplayed her hand. For me, I prefer a more subtle troll. Overt trolling just doesn’t do it for me.

[Anonymous]

Op here:

A few people said “tell us how it goes”. So I did. Everything at the wedding was relatively tame. A little weird, but tame.

[Anonymous]

So tacky of the mom! If they were so concerned they should’ve just bought it for them themselves!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here:

A few people said “tell us how it goes”. So I did. Everything at the wedding was relatively tame. A little weird, but tame.

I’m one of the people who asked for the follow up. I appreciated you coming back! You’re commentary on the wedding and convo with the MOB have been neutral. People here will always attack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So basically this is just a white trash family who doesn’t know what “white tie” means.

https://www.npr.org/2018/07/30/633891473/why-its-time-to-retire-the-disparaging-term-white-trash


DONNELLA: Wray says that contradiction exists because white trash is used to describe a contradiction - white people who don't act like white people. We have all these racist stereotypes about black and brown people that they are poor and lazy and violent. But those same stereotypes don't exist for white people. So they're put into a whole different category.

WRAY: This is a term that really has white supremacy baked into it because it's kind of like it's understood that if you're not white, you're trash.

[Anonymous]

Op here,

The registry item was a hot tub. It was about $700 when I saw it on the registry. The couple likely got a lot of gift cards because they had those on the registry as well and I could see that several had been purchased. So hopefully they only needed a few hundred to get the hot tub.

The collection they passed around was for the couple to have spending money on their honeymoon.

While I do think money grabs are innately tacky, most weddings/baby showers/bridal showers etc are basically money grabs. I’ve been to a baby shower that had a raffle and I’ve been to weddings were you had to pay for your food. You know what they say, it takes all types!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Wait-- NO one is going to get out their smelling salts over the fact there was a freaking raffle at a wedding, to raise money for some item that was on the registry but no one purchased? Because I'm going to have to use an an entire smelling-salt-store worth of 'em, plus I'll have to cluch not only my own pearls but every pearl in DC, over THAT detail.

But seriously: I'm not afraid to judge out loud: A raffle at a wedding, selling off shots at winning the bouquets (so desirable!) to pay for some big-ticket item that wasn't bought from the registry -- that's beyond tacky. Maybe the family thought it was somehow funnier? or classier? or something? than just saying frankly, "Get out your wallets and pony up $X each toward Sally and Sam's Super Expensive Registry Item they knew no one would really get for them, but they sure do want it!"

Blast me if you want, DCUM, but damn, a wedding raffle truly takes the cake for greediness. In fact, maybe instead of the bouquet raffle, the family should have just sold the cake, by the slice. At least then everyone would have gotten a little something for their money.

At first I thought OP was legit but now I’m wondering if troll. The extra stuff from the wedding seems too extra.

The attire of the groomsmen had me wondering, but the raffle pushed me over the edge.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like the tackiest wedding. I just can't imagine this. Cultural differences maybe? Yikes. Just yikes.

[Anonymous]

I think this is trolling, but it is SUCH a treat to imagine that I am here for it.