Cruel Break-Up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the thing you did earlier in the week? Not that is matters much because he’s awful. But it sounds like he didn’t go into the night meaning to break up with you. I would examine the conversation and try to figure out what about your response triggered his meltdown. And try not to do that to my next boyfriend!

Op. Tuesday morning I couldn’t sleep so I got up and was doing some work in his living room. I went to reach for a glass of water and knocked a bag of potato chips on the floor upside down so they spilled. I picked them all up but it was dark and I must have missed a few. Plus it was the middle of the night so I couldn’t go dig around for a vacuum. Anyway I fell back asleep and forgot about it until last night when he mentioned that I didn’t pick them up. I was trying to make the point that I hadn’t intentionally left the chips behind, I had tried to clean them up as best I could in the dark at 4am. He said I was making excuses because I’ve also left bowls on the counter after eating, left teeshirts behind at his place, etc.

I am the poster who asked what happened. This man was a nightmare and your only mistake here was not breaking up with him during COVID. Huge hugs, but you deserve a loving partner who forgives you and accepts your foibles. These are such non-issues…be glad you didn’t have children with this man! He is absolutely going to be a verbally abusive parent!

[Anonymous]

OP, breakups suck. It's just a matter of what degree they are bad. Some people, for whatever reason just have to rub your nose in it. Why an ex has to be cruel is beyond me. It is going to hurt for a while. Be nice to yourself. Get involved in hobbies you always wanted to do. And don't get hung up on finding someone new. My experience is that romantic partners enter you life with no discernible pattern.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a relationship that had run its course and ended badly thanks to an insensitive man who had no regard for your feelings or desire to even remain civil. Thank your lucky stars things did not get more serious, and you are not legally tied to him. It's the perfect time to start dating again and to find someone who truly loves and values you!

[Anonymous]

This is better than the phony "it's not you, it's me" kind of break up. Obviously he had a ton of resentment toward you, justified or not, and he was honest about how he felt. Accept it and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is better than the phony "it's not you, it's me" kind of break up. Obviously he had a ton of resentment toward you, justified or not, and he was honest about how he felt. Accept it and move on.

Wtf?

[Anonymous]

Op here. I was supposed to go out for dinner with his family tonight to celebrate my birthday and one of his family member’s birthdays. His mom just texted to say she was sorry I couldn’t join “this year.” I think he probably hasn’t yet told his mom we broke up because she’s know it was done on my birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I was supposed to go out for dinner with his family tonight to celebrate my birthday and one of his family member’s birthdays. His mom just texted to say she was sorry I couldn’t join “this year.” I think he probably hasn’t yet told his mom we broke up because she’s know it was done on my birthday.

Tell her what he said to you. You owe him nothing. Let his family see him for the horrible person he is. And maybe they can get him the mental health he clearly needs.

[Anonymous]

Was this your first serious relationship? If not, were your previous exes also abusive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was this your first serious relationship? If not, were your previous exes also abusive?

Op No and no. And frankly this ex wasn’t abusive - last night was a different person than the guy I dated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I was supposed to go out for dinner with his family tonight to celebrate my birthday and one of his family member’s birthdays. His mom just texted to say she was sorry I couldn’t join “this year.” I think he probably hasn’t yet told his mom we broke up because she’s know it was done on my birthday.

Tell her what he said to you. You owe him nothing. Let his family see him for the horrible person he is. And maybe they can get him the mental health he clearly needs.

Op I went over to my parents’ right before this happened and my mom is like, don’t respond. Stay out of any drama.

[Anonymous]

We all have break ups. You’re not special, move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We all have break ups. You’re not special, move on.

Okay the sheer number of posts with similar syntax/phrases makes me think the psycho ex is posting.

Also. A breakup on her bday where he said I hate you seems a bit beyond a normal breakup, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I was supposed to go out for dinner with his family tonight to celebrate my birthday and one of his family member’s birthdays. His mom just texted to say she was sorry I couldn’t join “this year.” I think he probably hasn’t yet told his mom we broke up because she’s know it was done on my birthday.

Tell her what he said to you. You owe him nothing. Let his family see him for the horrible person he is. And maybe they can get him the mental health he clearly needs.

Op I went over to my parents’ right before this happened and my mom is like, don’t respond. Stay out of any drama.

Your mother is wise. And a far classier woman than I am, because I would be responding “Hi Jane, actually Steve and I aren’t together anymore because he told me he hated me last night.”

[Anonymous]

Having to justify not picking things up? Sounds more than a little controlling. Wonder what attracted you to this guy n the first place. Sounds like an over- bearing person, instead of a true partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I was supposed to go out for dinner with his family tonight to celebrate my birthday and one of his family member’s birthdays. His mom just texted to say she was sorry I couldn’t join “this year.” I think he probably hasn’t yet told his mom we broke up because she’s know it was done on my birthday.

OMG write her back and say "I'm sorry I won't be able to join you. It has been a pleasure knowing you, but unfortunately I won't be able to keep in touch due to the cruel manner in which Jason broke up with me. I wish you all the best."