Does your girls-school high schooler interact at all with boys (or even date/have a boyfriend?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Young men of quality are still taught to date.

We’ve found the best pair ups came from our country club.

Did they take their dates to the sock hop in their thunderbird?

Don’t be silly. They ask the prettiest girls at Mountain Lake Lodge to dance the foxtrot after dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what do we collectively think about Wellesley or Smith?

Boring AF.

[Anonymous]

This thread is a trip. This board goes from “what preschool should Layla go to so she can go to a Big 3 school so she can go to an Ivy” (girls can do anything and mine is going to take over the world!) to “DD is AT a Big 3, and she’s pretty, sporty and fun, but wow would she be better with a boyfriend.”

How very progressive!

Do better mamas.

[Anonymous]

This thread could just as easily have been about boys at all boys schools. Being socially stunted isn't good for anyone, regardless of gender.

[Anonymous]

Curious if the girls schools around here have the same 20% lgbtqia / non-binary identifying trend some of the WDC coed schools have for middle School? Ridiculing long hair, dresses, sports.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For those who are worried about limited male interactions. I posted above about my girls having little contact with boys through the Covid year, but when they did interact with boys through sports it was not like there were any issues to overcome from the previous lack of interaction.
It all seems to happen pretty naturally when kids are given the chance to spend some time together so if your daughter has not had this opportunity yet I am not sure it is going to be any kind of problem.
I did noticed that there was more interaction in Junior year. Sports are good though as the interaction is repeated so they may not speak to each other at first but eventually they all become friends.

I do not understand what you are saying. How is having contact during a sport the same as social interaction with the opposite sex. I doubt the boys and girls are on the same team. Sports teams are very controlled. You do not just stop playing/practicing and go to and hangout with someone because you want to.

Sounds like you’ve never been to a 4-5 hour track meet, swim meet, c country meet, fencing tourney, and certainly no ball tournament. Hockey is coed until 9th grade too.

That said my daughter dates someone from summer camp last year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a trip. This board goes from “what preschool should Layla go to so she can go to a Big 3 school so she can go to an Ivy” (girls can do anything and mine is going to take over the world!) to “DD is AT a Big 3, and she’s pretty, sporty and fun, but wow would she be better with a boyfriend.”

How very progressive!

Do better mamas.

Not OP, but have a daughter in a girls school, and it’s not just about having a boyfriend, it’s about having virtually no interaction with boys so not learning normal social skills with them. There is a different vibe when boys are in the classroom or are coworkers—that my daughter is not being prepared for that at all is my concern. My daughter’s school does have a brother school who they’ve had events with only 3 times in the past two years.

To the poster with a daughter new to a girls school, yes to getting a co-Ed summer job. Madeira has co-Ed summer camps and a co-Ed CIT and counselor program, but you need to sign up early (March).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to NCS, albeit more than twenty years ago.

I really didn’t intermingle much with boys in middle school at all other than during a couple plays.

In high school, I met boys through government club, drama, glee club, and orchestra.

Sta boys are….not the best IMO. I think the all boys environment brews sexism.

I did have a nice boyfriend for my last year or so of high school, an sta guy. In retrospect I don’t even know if that was a good thing because it distracted me from focusing on my friends and my schoolwork. So if it does not happen that’s fine.

In my day, the group you refer to that does know boys tend to go to Beauvoir and often went to Schippens dancing school or at least wooey and sometimes know each other from country club. I don’t know if that dynamic still exists. But I wouldn’t want my daughter to be in that group. Not to slut shame, but they tended to party more and I don’t think the sexual experiences they had were always consensual or positive.

I agree with the dad above not to stress about it. Teenage boys can kinda suck anyway. I think dating in high school is overrated.

Teenage boys can "kinda suck"? As opposed to teenage girls? Hilarious
I did do some coed summer programs and I think that was good for social development. I also went to a coed college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a trip. This board goes from “what preschool should Layla go to so she can go to a Big 3 school so she can go to an Ivy” (girls can do anything and mine is going to take over the world!) to “DD is AT a Big 3, and she’s pretty, sporty and fun, but wow would she be better with a boyfriend.”

How very progressive!

Do better mamas.

Not OP, but have a daughter in a girls school, and it’s not just about having a boyfriend, it’s about having virtually no interaction with boys so not learning normal social skills with them. There is a different vibe when boys are in the classroom or are coworkers—that my daughter is not being prepared for that at all is my concern. My daughter’s school does have a brother school who they’ve had events with only 3 times in the past two years.

To the poster with a daughter new to a girls school, yes to getting a co-Ed summer job. Madeira has co-Ed summer camps and a co-Ed CIT and counselor program, but you need to sign up early (March).

I'm an all-girls school alum and a sr. executive in a male-dominated industry and company. Contrary to what you are suggesting here, I learned to form and use my own voice BECAUSE I was in an all girls setting, and was even better prepared to use it when I got to college, graduate school, and the real world.

OP, I wouldn't worry about your daughter. Social dynamics have been a little odd the last few years to say the least. If she is otherwise thriving, she's ahead of the curve. Focus on that, the rest will come.

[Anonymous]

I don't think anybody here is questioning the benefits to girls of an all-girls classroom. But have zero exposure to members of the opposite sex in all aspects of life is over the top. Part-time jobs, continuing to spend time with friends from middle school, spending time at a local swim club in the summer, joining co-ed non-school activities, and so on are a must for girls at these schools.

[Anonymous]

Can you imagine if interaction with high school teens was actually a useful tool for future jobs and relationships? Yikes! It really is OK to skip this chapter of most people's development. In the workplace, many people will pretend they never had those awkward teenage years, or are in therapy trying to undo the damage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine if interaction with high school teens was actually a useful tool for future jobs and relationships? Yikes! It really is OK to skip this chapter of most people's development. In the workplace, many people will pretend they never had those awkward teenage years, or are in therapy trying to undo the damage.

I agree with you. A lot of posters here, OP included, seem to think something is “wrong” if this interaction isn’t happening.

There’s nothing wrong and all of these kids will be just fine.

[Anonymous]

I thought NCS girls had frequent interaction with STA boys? Do they never see each other in any academic or extracurricular environment?

[Anonymous]

I disagree. One of the best things about raising kids in the DMV is their exposure to people from lots of different countries, races, income groups, and so on. Why would you not value them interacting with half the human population (males)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought NCS girls had frequent interaction with STA boys? Do they never see each other in any academic or extracurricular environment?

It's by no means frequent and the Covid years made it even less so. Pockets of high schoolers will see each other briefly in art classes, theatre, musical groups and some sports (track, swimming).
Then I believe they the kids take senior English together (my kids are not there yet). I've found that there is very little social mixing going on at present. My son and friends hang out mostly with
girls from other schools (Holton, Stone Ridge, other Catholics). I wish they spent more time with NCS girls.