When dating a single mom

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Anonymous wrote:I was dating a single mom last year, and I was thinking seriously about first moving to her school district (we both rented at the time), and then in a few years buying a house with her which would be large enough for everyone.

What happened?

I don't know what happened. She broke up with me.

You dodged a bullet, man. Learn the proper lesson and never even think about moving in with a single mom.

Unless the idea of paying to support her kids while they disrespect you and constantly shout "you're not my real dad!" is somehow appealing?

As a single mom, I would never let you move in with me. I got rid of dead weight when I divorced their father. I don't need a man child to take care of again.

You are a divorced mom. You aren’t a single mom. There is a huge difference.

I disagree.

The issue is there's a spectrum of divorced moms ranging from amicable 50/50 with ample financial support, to sole custody with minimal or no financial support from an abusive ex. Maybe instead of sticking labels just describe the situation like they are, you know, people.

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Anonymous wrote:I was dating a single mom last year, and I was thinking seriously about first moving to her school district (we both rented at the time), and then in a few years buying a house with her which would be large enough for everyone.

What happened?

I don't know what happened. She broke up with me.

You dodged a bullet, man. Learn the proper lesson and never even think about moving in with a single mom.

Unless the idea of paying to support her kids while they disrespect you and constantly shout "you're not my real dad!" is somehow appealing?

As a single mom, I would never let you move in with me. I got rid of dead weight when I divorced their father. I don't need a man child to take care of again.

You are a divorced mom. You aren’t a single mom. There is a huge difference.

Not really. A lot of divorced fathers fall off the map, especially if the divorce was caused by an affair. My ex-h went 11 months without seeing our child.

Same. I think in the past 5 years he's seen the child at most 5 times a year. In some years not at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I am in my 50s and was dating a mom my age. We had a ton of fun together and the sex was inconsistent but sometimes incredibly hot. Her kid came back from college. Now I never see her. She texts me once a week. She always has other plans with her kid or her friends. Maybe she would have dumped me anyway but I think that having a young adult child around has changed things.

A lot of these weirdos have "son husbands", grown up sons living with mom, in the role of "man of the house". It's gross.

I tell my son all the time that he will grow up and find wife of his own. He says he wants to make enough to support me in retirement, I tell him that would be amazing but I am saving for myself and his first obligation will be to his future family.

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Anonymous wrote:I was dating a single mom last year, and I was thinking seriously about first moving to her school district (we both rented at the time), and then in a few years buying a house with her which would be large enough for everyone.

What happened?

I don't know what happened. She broke up with me.

You dodged a bullet, man. Learn the proper lesson and never even think about moving in with a single mom.

Unless the idea of paying to support her kids while they disrespect you and constantly shout "you're not my real dad!" is somehow appealing?

As a single mom, I would never let you move in with me. I got rid of dead weight when I divorced their father. I don't need a man child to take care of again.

You are a divorced mom. You aren’t a single mom. There is a huge difference.

Not really. A lot of divorced fathers fall off the map, especially if the divorce was caused by an affair. My ex-h went 11 months without seeing our child.

Same. I think in the past 5 years he's seen the child at most 5 times a year. In some years not at all.

A lot of divorced fathers are "falling off the map" because their spiteful XW is denying him access to his kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I was dating a single mom last year, and I was thinking seriously about first moving to her school district (we both rented at the time), and then in a few years buying a house with her which would be large enough for everyone.

What happened?

I don't know what happened. She broke up with me.

You dodged a bullet, man. Learn the proper lesson and never even think about moving in with a single mom.

Unless the idea of paying to support her kids while they disrespect you and constantly shout "you're not my real dad!" is somehow appealing?

As a single mom, I would never let you move in with me. I got rid of dead weight when I divorced their father. I don't need a man child to take care of again.

You are a divorced mom. You aren’t a single mom. There is a huge difference.

I disagree.

The issue is there's a spectrum of divorced moms ranging from amicable 50/50 with ample financial support, to sole custody with minimal or no financial support from an abusive ex. Maybe instead of sticking labels just describe the situation like they are, you know, people.

Again, you make a lot of assumptions. I have 50/50 (supposedly but I have them more than that). There is no financial support. Ex is abusive. I live alone with my kids most of the time. Our split was "amicable." I was basically a single parent while married, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I was dating a single mom last year, and I was thinking seriously about first moving to her school district (we both rented at the time), and then in a few years buying a house with her which would be large enough for everyone.

What happened?

I don't know what happened. She broke up with me.

You dodged a bullet, man. Learn the proper lesson and never even think about moving in with a single mom.

Unless the idea of paying to support her kids while they disrespect you and constantly shout "you're not my real dad!" is somehow appealing?

As a single mom, I would never let you move in with me. I got rid of dead weight when I divorced their father. I don't need a man child to take care of again.

You are a divorced mom. You aren’t a single mom. There is a huge difference.

I disagree.

The issue is there's a spectrum of divorced moms ranging from amicable 50/50 with ample financial support, to sole custody with minimal or no financial support from an abusive ex. Maybe instead of sticking labels just describe the situation like they are, you know, people.

Again, you make a lot of assumptions. I have 50/50 (supposedly but I have them more than that). There is no financial support. Ex is abusive. I live alone with my kids most of the time. Our split was "amicable." I was basically a single parent while married, too.

You do a lot of assumptions, too. I have 50:50, my child actually lives 50% with dad; dad pays CS, 100% of all expenses including private school and future college. While he’s not parenting much, my child still wants to sleep there.
So I don’t see why would I not be able to date extensively if I wanted to.