Would you still participate if it wasn't anonymous?

[Anonymous]

No. I've been here for about 12 years. I have a registered login. I only use it infrequently when I want to identify myself. I use it in certain threads where my job is relevant. Most of the time, my job is not relevant here and I post anonymously. If I want to identify myself in a thread, I will label myself PP 12:34 or whatever to note that I'm responding again. But it's my choice when I identify myself again and when I don't.

[Anonymous]

I would. I've been in facebook groups where people are similarly candid while being identifiable, and I like that people are accountable for what they say. I like the feeling of community when you know who posters are, even if you don't know them IRL, and I feel like it helps me know people better when I do know them IRL. There's the special "group member" anonymous posting option for things that you are embarrassed about, and that seems to work fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. But I would love it if each user was assigned a random number for each thread so we know who is OP and who is posting multiple times.

No need to track people from thread to thread.

I would leave if that happened.

Anonymity is that entire point, and it’s important within and across threads.

It’s only important within a threat if you are being a jerk.

Or if you are a troll.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

No. I’d be canceled. I don’t buy the covid nonsense and never did. Must pretend to care in real life.

Oh, and I voted Youngkin which I also would not admit in real life for fear of being fired or my career harmed.

[Anonymous]

Hell no. I wouldn't post. I'd go to reddit.

I LOVE my mom's group on facebook. But I rarely post different answers or go against the grain. For instance sleep training posts or potty training posts. I've seen people say "kids should be 3 before you try to train" and everyone agrees with them. But, that wasn't my experience. All mine trained before 2. I think people aren't truthful.

[Anonymous]

I would lurk more and still post but be more careful about sharing personal stories since the risks of identification are higher in a local board because of post history (let's say I post in the school board, home improvement and off topic, someone can link based on my post history, and what I have mentioned in real life to another parent). If I wanted to troll, I would use a fake/throwaway account for that. I have a reddit and slickdeals account, so its really not a big deal for me. I do delete my posts and comments on reddit often.

[Anonymous]

Nope. The info would be much less helpful.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I’ve talked about my history of childhood sexual assault here and included information that could be identifying if aggregated with my other posts. It’s been helpful to have a place to talk through some of that.

I also don’t think people are meaner than in the past. I’ve been here many years now. If anything I think, for instance, the mommy war rhetoric has really mellowed out from where it used to be. I also think Jeff is quicker to delete mean posts than in there past.

[Anonymous]

“If anything I think, for instance, the mommy war rhetoric has really mellowed out from where it used to be. I also think Jeff is quicker to delete mean posts than in there past.”

+1
I do see some obvious troll answers sometimes that are not nice but I don’t get why people have such a hard time ignoring those and rolling past them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you had to register with a screen name for DCUM. It wouldn't have to be your real name, but people would get to know that 'Maplesyrup' is always mean to other people and not pay so much attention to them. Would you still participate?

I'm getting fedup with the meanness here and I've been coming here close to 10 years.

I getting fed up with adults whining about “why are people here soooooo meeeean?” “Mean” is supposed to be struck from your vocabulary by the end of middle school, along with “but it’s not FAIR!”

We all have our crosses to bear, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I’d be canceled. I don’t buy the covid nonsense and never did. Must pretend to care in real life.

Oh, and I voted Youngkin which I also would not admit in real life for fear of being fired or my career harmed.

Ohhhh. You’re one of THOSE, and with the fake persecution complex to boot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. And I can be mean sometimes, but try to be helpful. If it's too mean for you, just find another forum.

+1

Given that the owner has the ability to delete non-constructive mean posts, then it appears that the meanness is a feature, not a bug of DCUM. I’ve been visiting since ~2011 and the mean levels seem the same.

[Anonymous]

Nope. It killed the soccer forum. On national platforms it would be different, but when you are talking local schools, sports, personal experiences, and real estate/neighborhoods posting history can be too easy to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

No.

Sometimes I’m tempted to be mean but then I think “what if this is the person who gave me really good relationship advice or said my dessert suggestion was brilliant?” And I stop myself. Sometimes I just let it out though when somebody is being a real dick.