Finding the right nanny to grow with us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would love to know the longest any of the posters here have stayed at one job. Not one company, one job. I promise it's not 10+ years. This whole thing reeks of classism.

I’ve been a surgical nurse in the same hospital for over fifteen years with no plans of leaving. Same with most of our team and floor staff.

[Anonymous]

My mom was a legal secretary to the same attorney for thirty years. She loved it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom who has multiple nannies, you won't find this. You need to accept that no one else is going to want to devote their life to you

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I'm a great employer. I pay very well, great benefits, don't micromanage. I have lost nannies to: pregnancy/wanting to be a SAHM, moving for spouse's job, retirement, and a physical health issue. Life happens. Would you stay in the same job for 10 years, even if it paid well? No, people have lives and lives sometimes necessitate a change to one's job. The idea that you a need to or can "keep" a nanny for a decade plus is frankly a little creepy.

Jesus, have you really gone through four nannies?! In how many years?!

That’s embarrassing, PP.

+1 I had the same nanny for 7 years until I moved, and I agree with first PPs that it's unrealistic to expect this, unless you're paying a huge salary. Nannies are people with their own personal lives and goals...I think the expectations of having someone stay with your kids "throughout their childhood" is unrealistic. People switch jobs--especially people with BAs, which is what the OP wants. How many people with BAs stay in the same job for 7 years? Especially if that job was working with the same kids in the same house day after day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom was a legal secretary to the same attorney for thirty years. She loved it.

Your mom is probably 60+ now. Times have changed. Gig workers and temp jobs are much more common and suit people's changing needs.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my nanny family for 12 years. The reasons why I’ve stayed so long are:

- Up until covid, the parents worked out of the home. This is major and I could not have stayed through the toddler years with WAH or SAH parents
- For the past 12 years, the parents have said thank you, every single day, when I go home.
- Autonomy and no micromanaging. My bosses have always trusted my judgement and let us do activities out of the home
- Minimal job creep. Things have changed as the kids grew older (now I cook families meals and grocery shop) but when the kids were small they never asked me to do meal prep or family laundry (just the kids things) and just let me be a nanny.
- housekeeper comes twice a week and I just do daily tidying
- Fair pay and annual raises
- Guaranteed hours and benefits
- Encourage me to use my vacation time and make it easy for me to leave, by hiring a temp while I’m away.
- The parents are loving and involved. They’re really incredible and the kids are the light of my life.
- Kids are in school, but I’m still paid FT to be on call
- Professional relationship. We aren’t friends, I’m not family, and having those boundaries are important to all of us.
- Treat and respect me as a professional.
- In 12 years, the parents have never fought in front of me and always communicate to me in a kind way.

Families try to poach me all the time, but I’m treated extremely well and would be crazy to leave.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here- I dropped out of college, but I speak 5 languages and have travelled to almost 100 countries. I’ve been to the most famous museums and galleries in the world. I’ve had an education of the world. Families don’t kind that I don’t have a formal education.

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