First overnight trip with new boyfriend and I'm nervous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're both in our 40's, divorced, and have been together for 4 months and have been sleeping together. This weekend we're going on our first trip together and I'm nervous.

First, it's a lot of time together- 3.5 hour car ride each way and then together for at least 72 hours.

Second, he is going to see me with no makeup, no hair done, etc. I have never showered in front of him.

Are these normal things to be nervous about? Or do I sounds crazy?

Hi OP~

Yes it’s normal to worry about these things. You sounds just a bit anxious vs worried however. You are doing something new together so there is anticipation about unknowns!

That’s a lot of time together - perhaps longer than you’ve spent together, uninterrupted? Do you like similar music? Can you bring that NYT column with turn along the questions to ask each other that makes you fall in love? Or tell
Life story from start to finish?

Also seeing you without makeup makes you feel vulnerable perhaps. I suspect this experience of being unmade up self will make you feel closer to him.

Ps lol at the awesome “first overnight trip stories”. I went on one with a man I was dating and didn’t know he uses a CPAP machine all night. Do you know what that is?? Ugh, I mean it was fine but it was unexpected… and WHY WHY WHY do hotels in warm
Places have those awful shutter doors (NOT REAL DOORS!!)? If you haven’t loudly and unfortunately farted behind one of those, consider yourself lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised you've dated for 4 months and haven't farted or pooped around each other. You guys need to loosen up.

Also, most men love women best when they're less dolled up and more natural. They're not naive about how aging works.

I have been with DH for over 25 years and we have never farted around each other. We have also never pooped around each other. Have some class.

Wow! That's intense. We don't even close bathroom doors in our home. I suppose it may change when the kids are teens, but what you guys have going on sounds pretty stifling.

[Anonymous]

OP: Update- I am back from the trip and it went amazingly well! So relieved. We had tons to talk about the whole time, and I DID take my make up off at night and was au natural and felt pretty good.

Also, I'm even more crazy about the guy now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised you've dated for 4 months and haven't farted or pooped around each other. You guys need to loosen up.

Also, most men love women best when they're less dolled up and more natural. They're not naive about how aging works.

I have been with DH for over 25 years and we have never farted around each other. We have also never pooped around each other. Have some class.

Wow! That's intense. We don't even close bathroom doors in our home. I suppose it may change when the kids are teens, but what you guys have going on sounds pretty stifling.

Question for first PP.

When staying in a hotel, is the room commode a pee only zone? You both go to lobby to poop?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update- I am back from the trip and it went amazingly well! So relieved. We had tons to talk about the whole time, and I DID take my make up off at night and was au natural and felt pretty good.

Also, I'm even more crazy about the guy now.

👍🏼😊

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update- I am back from the trip and it went amazingly well! So relieved. We had tons to talk about the whole time, and I DID take my make up off at night and was au natural and felt pretty good.

Also, I'm even more crazy about the guy now.

Aww, that's sweet. Thanks for the update. I actually thought about you tonight and wondered how it was going -- probably a sign I spend too much time here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do. not. compromise your skin by even once, going to bed w/out properly taking off every speck of your makeup 💄 off.

Sleeping w/day old makeup on not only ages your skin - but will also give you pimples as well as bags under your eyes.

This is sarcasm, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update- I am back from the trip and it went amazingly well! So relieved. We had tons to talk about the whole time, and I DID take my make up off at night and was au natural and felt pretty good.

Also, I'm even more crazy about the guy now.

Congratulations on reaching maturity.

Hope things continue to go well for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised you've dated for 4 months and haven't farted or pooped around each other. You guys need to loosen up.

Also, most men love women best when they're less dolled up and more natural. They're not naive about how aging works.

I have been with DH for over 25 years and we have never farted around each other. We have also never pooped around each other. Have some class.

Wow! That's intense. We don't even close bathroom doors in our home. I suppose it may change when the kids are teens, but what you guys have going on sounds pretty stifling.

Question for first PP.

When staying in a hotel, is the room commode a pee only zone? You both go to lobby to poop?

Yes, just say that you need to grab something from the car or you want to check out the pool or whatever. Super easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's normal to be worried about these things in your 20s not your 40s. The beauty of middle age is adopting an I don't give an eff about most things attitude.

This an opportunity to learn more about each other. If he reacts badly eff him, dump him and on to the next.

And stop trying to be perfect or thinking something is wrong if every moment is not filled with chatter. It might be awkward at times and it might not be. Go and be yourself what will be will be

+1

YES!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised you've dated for 4 months and haven't farted or pooped around each other. You guys need to loosen up.

Also, most men love women best when they're less dolled up and more natural. They're not naive about how aging works.

I have been with DH for over 25 years and we have never farted around each other. We have also never pooped around each other. Have some class.

Wow! That's intense. We don't even close bathroom doors in our home. I suppose it may change when the kids are teens, but what you guys have going on sounds pretty stifling.

Question for first PP.

When staying in a hotel, is the room commode a pee only zone? You both go to lobby to poop?

Yes, just say that you need to grab something from the car or you want to check out the pool or whatever. Super easy.

I do this often but for EVERY hotel poop in over 25 years?! Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised you've dated for 4 months and haven't farted or pooped around each other. You guys need to loosen up.

Also, most men love women best when they're less dolled up and more natural. They're not naive about how aging works.

I have been with DH for over 25 years and we have never farted around each other. We have also never pooped around each other. Have some class.

Wow! That's intense. We don't even close bathroom doors in our home. I suppose it may change when the kids are teens, but what you guys have going on sounds pretty stifling.

Question for first PP.

When staying in a hotel, is the room commode a pee only zone? You both go to lobby to poop?

Yes, just say that you need to grab something from the car or you want to check out the pool or whatever. Super easy.

I do this often but for EVERY hotel poop in over 25 years?! Sheesh.

I'm curious if not pooping/farting in front of each other does help to retain some of the mystery that helps with desire in the long run. Any thoughts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised you've dated for 4 months and haven't farted or pooped around each other. You guys need to loosen up.

Also, most men love women best when they're less dolled up and more natural. They're not naive about how aging works.

I have been with DH for over 25 years and we have never farted around each other. We have also never pooped around each other. Have some class.

Wow! That's intense. We don't even close bathroom doors in our home. I suppose it may change when the kids are teens, but what you guys have going on sounds pretty stifling.

Question for first PP.

When staying in a hotel, is the room commode a pee only zone? You both go to lobby to poop?

Yes, just say that you need to grab something from the car or you want to check out the pool or whatever. Super easy.

I do this often but for EVERY hotel poop in over 25 years?! Sheesh.

I'm curious if not pooping/farting in front of each other does help to retain some of the mystery that helps with desire in the long run. Any thoughts?

I'm sure it does but it sounds terribly impractical! Also not all farts are voluntary - I don't fart in front of my husband on purpose but I've accidentally done it a few times in the 14 years we've been together - I would marvel at anyone who'd managed not to! Or who had the wherewithal to NEVER use a hotel toilet in all your years together - what a feat!