Please tell me what you would do in my situation because I am at a loss (childcare)

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Anonymous wrote:[/b]Your baby sounds awful. I wish you luck finding a new one. [b]We paid about the same a few years ago, maybe less I can't remember and she was wonderful. Cleaned up our house unasked, took him to the park everyday etc... Before we hired her we used an aupair who had free time from her host family and she wasnt nearly as good. Keep looking. You'll find someone.

Funniest thing I’ve read on DCUM in awhile.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re making bad economic decisions based on questionable medical advice. You should go back to your normal job and your full earning capacity. The rotavirus thing makes no sense - can’t he be vaccinated now? And rotavirus is not a death sentence anyway. You need a second opinion on daycare. Also you need to see childcare as your husband’s responsibility too. You are not paying for all the childcare, and you are not backup childcare.

Agree, plus all the other kids at a licensed, regulated daycare center will be vaccinated for rotavirus -- this is one instance where "herd immunity" really works. Same with measles, etc.

This is a great and important point.

Yep, the rotavirus vaccines are fully done at 6 months which means that if OP's child is in any toddler room herd immunity will apply.

Just remember that even in licensed child care centers parents are allowed to fill out religous exemption papers for vaccines. We have 3 unvaccinated kids in one of our infant/toodler rooms.

Is there some discretion for directors if they want to ban exemptions? My daycare is pretty chill but they reserve the right to kick kids out for not having up to date shot records.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re making bad economic decisions based on questionable medical advice. You should go back to your normal job and your full earning capacity. The rotavirus thing makes no sense - can’t he be vaccinated now? And rotavirus is not a death sentence anyway. You need a second opinion on daycare. Also you need to see childcare as your husband’s responsibility too. You are not paying for all the childcare, and you are not backup childcare.

Agree, plus all the other kids at a licensed, regulated daycare center will be vaccinated for rotavirus -- this is one instance where "herd immunity" really works. Same with measles, etc.

This is a great and important point.

Yep, the rotavirus vaccines are fully done at 6 months which means that if OP's child is in any toddler room herd immunity will apply.

Just remember that even in licensed child care centers parents are allowed to fill out religous exemption papers for vaccines. We have 3 unvaccinated kids in one of our infant/toodler rooms.

Is there some discretion for directors if they want to ban exemptions? My daycare is pretty chill but they reserve the right to kick kids out for not having up to date shot records.

Private daycares can refuse to admit unvaccinated kids

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We paid less (on the books) for a nanny 2 years ago and she was a godsend. It was her first full time nanny job though, so if you’re particular about someone who has been a professional nanny for years then your rate very well be low. Doesn’t sound like you’re getting what you’re paying for to have a “professional nanny” anyway though.

Also, all those certifications can be done in a couple hours and cost next to nothing, so if someone doesn’t already have it that seems like a dumb reason to turn them away - just pay for them to get it done. You can find a good - great - nanny in that budget if you adjust some of your demands upfront.

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Your issue is your rate. The nanny market right now is crazy and I don’t know any nannies making less then $25/hr.

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You can’t get $30/hr work for $20/hr. You are going to have to be more involved.

I would make a written schedule for the nanny to follow. Write out what you want (including park time, cleanup time, etc.) and tell your nanny she needs to stick with the schedule. Also tell her that you are facing repercussions at work because she is late, and she cannot be late going forward.

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t get $30/hr work for $20/hr. You are going to have to be more involved.

I would make a written schedule for the nanny to follow. Write out what you want (including park time, cleanup time, etc.) and tell your nanny she needs to stick with the schedule. Also tell her that you are facing repercussions at work because she is late, and she cannot be late going forward.

Me again-also make a meal plan for her to prepare, including snacks. Only things you approve. Toss the convenience foods, they aren’t good for your kid ever and you should hold yourself to the same standards you hold her to. If there are no fruit snacks/nuggets, she can’t feed them to .your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re making bad economic decisions based on questionable medical advice. You should go back to your normal job and your full earning capacity. The rotavirus thing makes no sense - can’t he be vaccinated now? And rotavirus is not a death sentence anyway. You need a second opinion on daycare. Also you need to see childcare as your husband’s responsibility too. You are not paying for all the childcare, and you are not backup childcare.

Agree, plus all the other kids at a licensed, regulated daycare center will be vaccinated for rotavirus -- this is one instance where "herd immunity" really works. Same with measles, etc.

This is a great and important point.

Yep, the rotavirus vaccines are fully done at 6 months which means that if OP's child is in any toddler room herd immunity will apply.

Just remember that even in licensed child care centers parents are allowed to fill out religous exemption papers for vaccines. We have 3 unvaccinated kids in one of our infant/toodler rooms.

Is there some discretion for directors if they want to ban exemptions? My daycare is pretty chill but they reserve the right to kick kids out for not having up to date shot records.

Private daycares can refuse to admit unvaccinated kids

Yes, but not if it's for religious reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re making bad economic decisions based on questionable medical advice. You should go back to your normal job and your full earning capacity. The rotavirus thing makes no sense - can’t he be vaccinated now? And rotavirus is not a death sentence anyway. You need a second opinion on daycare. Also you need to see childcare as your husband’s responsibility too. You are not paying for all the childcare, and you are not backup childcare.

Agree, plus all the other kids at a licensed, regulated daycare center will be vaccinated for rotavirus -- this is one instance where "herd immunity" really works. Same with measles, etc.

This is a great and important point.

Yep, the rotavirus vaccines are fully done at 6 months which means that if OP's child is in any toddler room herd immunity will apply.

Just remember that even in licensed child care centers parents are allowed to fill out religous exemption papers for vaccines. We have 3 unvaccinated kids in one of our infant/toodler rooms.

Is there some discretion for directors if they want to ban exemptions? My daycare is pretty chill but they reserve the right to kick kids out for not having up to date shot records.

Private daycares can refuse to admit unvaccinated kids

Yes, but not if it's for religious reasons.

In home daycares can refuse kids who are unvaccinated for religious reasons

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I don’t have time to read the whole thread but just want to say that my son wasn’t able to get the rotavirus vaccine as an infant as well because of something he had going on at the time they had to get the first dose and missed the cut off. our pediatrician was not concerned.. he started at a small home daycare at 8 months and she said she didn’t have concerns - that the other kids would mostly be vaccinated so it shouldn’t be an issue and if he did get it it wouldn’t be a huge thing most likely. Just interesting and anecdotal.. I can’t imagine her being concerned at 2.5!

[Anonymous]

Because the mary poppins nanny you want doesn't want a 20/hr job for a WFH overly hysterical mess like OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have time to read the whole thread but just want to say that my son wasn’t able to get the rotavirus vaccine as an infant as well because of something he had going on at the time they had to get the first dose and missed the cut off. our pediatrician was not concerned.. he started at a small home daycare at 8 months and she said she didn’t have concerns - that the other kids would mostly be vaccinated so it shouldn’t be an issue and if he did get it it wouldn’t be a huge thing most likely. Just interesting and anecdotal.. I can’t imagine her being concerned at 2.5!

Until the rotavirus vaccine was introduced in the late 2000s, everyone was unvaccinated. And kids weren't dropping dead in the USA.

Rotavirus is also significantly less dangerous when a child isn't an infant even if the child does catch it. The risk is from dehydration which is a bigger problem when the child is an infant with lower body weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because the mary poppins nanny you want doesn't want a 20/hr job for a WFH overly hysterical mess like OP.

Harsh but good point. A very good nanny I had said she refused most jobs with WFH parents. I was an exception because I am pretty hands-off when a nanny is around.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have time to read the whole thread but just want to say that my son wasn’t able to get the rotavirus vaccine as an infant as well because of something he had going on at the time they had to get the first dose and missed the cut off. our pediatrician was not concerned.. he started at a small home daycare at 8 months and she said she didn’t have concerns - that the other kids would mostly be vaccinated so it shouldn’t be an issue and if he did get it it wouldn’t be a huge thing most likely. Just interesting and anecdotal.. I can’t imagine her being concerned at 2.5!

Yes, neither of my children received the rotavirus vaccine (also on Humira for both pregnancies and told no live vaccines until 6 months after birth, and since they don't give rotavirus vaccine after 6 months of age, they never got it). We go to a large pediatricians office and no doctor that we saw at any point for either kid was ever concerned about the risk factor of daycare and both kids started around 4 months.

Definitely get on waiting lists for preschools.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re making bad economic decisions based on questionable medical advice. You should go back to your normal job and your full earning capacity. The rotavirus thing makes no sense - can’t he be vaccinated now? And rotavirus is not a death sentence anyway. You need a second opinion on daycare. Also you need to see childcare as your husband’s responsibility too. You are not paying for all the childcare, and you are not backup childcare.

Agree, plus all the other kids at a licensed, regulated daycare center will be vaccinated for rotavirus -- this is one instance where "herd immunity" really works. Same with measles, etc.

This is a great and important point.

Yep, the rotavirus vaccines are fully done at 6 months which means that if OP's child is in any toddler room herd immunity will apply.

Just remember that even in licensed child care centers parents are allowed to fill out religous exemption papers for vaccines. We have 3 unvaccinated kids in one of our infant/toodler rooms.

Is there some discretion for directors if they want to ban exemptions? My daycare is pretty chill but they reserve the right to kick kids out for not having up to date shot records.

Private daycares can refuse to admit unvaccinated kids

Yes, but not if it's for religious reasons.

Yes, private schools absolutely can refuse to make religious accommodations.