Prom Decliners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of my kids didn't go. They are both gay and didn't want to deal with potential homophobic drama.

Are you in the DC area?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My DS does not like dancing and didn't want to spend his hard earned $$$ on some "weird looking clothes". So on prom night he and his buddies went to Paintball."

I can just picture this. And we wonder why so many adult men are losers who have zero appeal to women. Can't manage to dress themselves. Can't manage to talk to a woman. And the parents do zero to nudge them into adulthood or help them out with the expense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My DS does not like dancing and didn't want to spend his hard earned $$$ on some "weird looking clothes". So on prom night he and his buddies went to Paintball."

I can just picture this. And we wonder why so many adult men are losers who have zero appeal to women. Can't manage to dress themselves. Can't manage to talk to a woman. And the parents do zero to nudge them into adulthood or help them out with the expense?

I disagree. I don’t like getting dressed up. As a middle aged women, I’d rather go play paintball with DH than put on a dress, make up and go out to dinner and dancing. I would support and help out my son or daughter if they wanted to go to the prom OR if they wanted to do something else with friends, like paintball.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"My DS does not like dancing and didn't want to spend his hard earned $$$ on some "weird looking clothes". So on prom night he and his buddies went to Paintball."

I can just picture this. And we wonder why so many adult men are losers who have zero appeal to women. Can't manage to dress themselves. Can't manage to talk to a woman. And the parents do zero to nudge them into adulthood or help them out with the expense?

I disagree. I don’t like getting dressed up. As a middle aged women, I’d rather go play paintball with DH than put on a dress, make up and go out to dinner and dancing. I would support and help out my son or daughter if they wanted to go to the prom OR if they wanted to do something else with friends, like paintball.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My DS does not like dancing and didn't want to spend his hard earned $$$ on some "weird looking clothes". So on prom night he and his buddies went to Paintball."

I can just picture this. And we wonder why so many adult men are losers who have zero appeal to women. Can't manage to dress themselves. Can't manage to talk to a woman. And the parents do zero to nudge them into adulthood or help them out with the expense?

In high school, my friends and I always skipped prom and went bowling (though dressing up in over-the-top thrift store party dresses was part of the fun!). Shockingly, we all successfully made it to adulthood and marriage.

I would argue that there’s something to be said for young people who already know how to listen to their own drummers rather than just follow the crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"My DS does not like dancing and didn't want to spend his hard earned $$$ on some "weird looking clothes". So on prom night he and his buddies went to Paintball."

I can just picture this. And we wonder why so many adult men are losers who have zero appeal to women. Can't manage to dress themselves. Can't manage to talk to a woman. And the parents do zero to nudge them into adulthood or help them out with the expense?

In high school, my friends and I always skipped prom and went bowling (though dressing up in over-the-top thrift store party dresses was part of the fun!). Shockingly, we all successfully made it to adulthood and marriage.

I would argue that there’s something to be said for young people who already know how to listen to their own drummers rather than just follow the crowd.

+1000000000000000000000000000000000

[Anonymous]

So your high school alternative proms included both boys and girls. This kid went with a bunch of other boys to play paintball. Totally different situation.

[Anonymous]

At least a quarter of the kids at DC's prom were part of a same sex couple. We are in DC proper. I thought the outlying areas besides VA were progressive and inclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your high school alternative proms included both boys and girls. This kid went with a bunch of other boys to play paintball. Totally different situation.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Why? Because these are responses to a criticism of parents of boys who "don't know how to dress themselves or talk to girls." That post was criticizing a bunch of boys who went to play paintball instead of interact with their classmates at a party. This has nothing to do with kids who know how to navigate normal teen social/romance/relationship stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because these are responses to a criticism of parents of boys who "don't know how to dress themselves or talk to girls." That post was criticizing a bunch of boys who went to play paintball instead of interact with their classmates at a party. This has nothing to do with kids who know how to navigate normal teen social/romance/relationship stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because these are responses to a criticism of parents of boys who "don't know how to dress themselves or talk to girls." That post was criticizing a bunch of boys who went to play paintball instead of interact with their classmates at a party. This has nothing to do with kids who know how to navigate normal teen social/romance/relationship stuff.

And?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. No idea why anyone thinks my 2022 senior kid isn't interested in or didn't attend their prom. They went all in, as did the vast majority of the kids at their small high school.

The vast majority? Well then why did you even start this thread?

So she could get in a dig at the "stunted development" that she wants to blame on the "lockdowns." Or she's an idiot. "Some kids don't like prom" just isn't really a headliner, though, you know?

Nailed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My DS does not like dancing and didn't want to spend his hard earned $$$ on some "weird looking clothes". So on prom night he and his buddies went to Paintball."

I can just picture this. And we wonder why so many adult men are losers who have zero appeal to women. Can't manage to dress themselves. Can't manage to talk to a woman. And the parents do zero to nudge them into adulthood or help them out with the expense?

Imagine thinking any of this has anything to do with choosing to skip a lame, dated school dance.

[Anonymous]

DS has a long term girlfriend and a close group of friends. They are getting dressed up, going out to dinner, then planned a movie night at one of the kids' home. Their prom has been 'covid-ified' (his word) and will be held in the school's parking lot. There will be food trucks for the refreshments. Sounds okay to me, but for $70??? nah. I love that his group of friends are still getting together to celebrate this as a milestone together, and one last special time to get together before they graduate and scatter to the winds, which is what I think the milestone should be about anyway.