Have you ever discovered a post on here that you could just tell was written about you?

[Anonymous]

Yes. About your affairs.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Parents at my school were talking about me. I answered their questions and gave them advice. They never knew it was me.

[Anonymous]

When I was a teacher there was a thread about me. Thankfully, it was very positive. But it was weird.

[Anonymous]

Yes. In the College and University discussion boards. There is a poster that ruminates about what school he went to - not a good one, and he tends to post about the same high ranked colleges over and over again, every week.

He tends to ruminate about most everything, and has a short fuse, so it makes him look worse, when I see him IRL. He has no logical coping mechanisms, sadly.

[Anonymous]

No but one time I wrote about something that a fb friend had posted and how ridiculous it was. Someone else came on here and said they knew who I was talking about and how many other people would have that exact fb post situation on that specific day. I think I asked Jeff to remove it because at that point I was just horrified and embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A while back an unpleasant coworker posted nasty things about me on this site. She did not describe me directly but instead bashed people with my particular living situation/lifestyle. The writing style and timing were dead giveaways.

See, examples like this are the ones where I think you're probably wrong. Because DCUM is full of people complaining about certain living situations/lifestyles. Whether divorced, happily married, or unhappily married, whether SAHM or working mom or PT mom or WAH mom, whether rich or middle class or struggling. Someone on here will target these groups randomly because this is a judgmental, insecure group.

And I never believe the "writing style" arguments either. You're not a detective. Lots of people sound the same on paper -- most people do not have very unique or identifiable writing styles.

I think you are just paranoid. Your unpleasant coworker might hate you and say nasty things behind your back, but you are almost definitely projecting onto a stranger here.

Unless someone references identifying info or a specific situation, I don't think you can ever assume you know who the writer is. Just saying "ugh, I can't stand professional women who marry well and then quit their jobs to SAHM" is way to broad.

NP. I am serious when I say there’s a couple posters who’ve I’ve 100% identified IRL by name. They post long life stories each time they post. I found some of their Instagram and LinkedIn accounts too.

Girl, you got too much time on your hands.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A while back an unpleasant coworker posted nasty things about me on this site. She did not describe me directly but instead bashed people with my particular living situation/lifestyle. The writing style and timing were dead giveaways.

See, examples like this are the ones where I think you're probably wrong. Because DCUM is full of people complaining about certain living situations/lifestyles. Whether divorced, happily married, or unhappily married, whether SAHM or working mom or PT mom or WAH mom, whether rich or middle class or struggling. Someone on here will target these groups randomly because this is a judgmental, insecure group.

And I never believe the "writing style" arguments either. You're not a detective. Lots of people sound the same on paper -- most people do not have very unique or identifiable writing styles.

I think you are just paranoid. Your unpleasant coworker might hate you and say nasty things behind your back, but you are almost definitely projecting onto a stranger here.

Unless someone references identifying info or a specific situation, I don't think you can ever assume you know who the writer is. Just saying "ugh, I can't stand professional women who marry well and then quit their jobs to SAHM" is way to broad.

NP. I am serious when I say there’s a couple posters who’ve I’ve 100% identified IRL by name. They post long life stories each time they post. I found some of their Instagram and LinkedIn accounts too.

Girl, you got too much time on your hands.

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Come on now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. In the College and University discussion boards. There is a poster that ruminates about what school he went to - not a good one, and he tends to post about the same high ranked colleges over and over again, every week.

He tends to ruminate about most everything, and has a short fuse, so it makes him look worse, when I see him IRL. He has no logical coping mechanisms, sadly.

The one with the UVA twins?

[Anonymous]

Yes, someone wrote a post about me a really long time ago, like in 2008.