NO wedding registry?

[Anonymous]

It's hard to create a wedding registry when you have enough money to buy whatever you need already. Fancy sheets? Got it. Keurig machine-got it, gift card to wine shop-got it.

Younger couples who get married need a registry more than older couples.

Plus, you can still give a gift of your choice, a gift card or cash. I rather get $50 or $100 or whatever amount you spend, even $25 instead of a coffee maker that I don't need, or more satin sheets.

Ask her what she wants. Or just give $100 fresh cash. 1 piece, not a bunch of $20s or $10s.

It's like creating a baby shower registry. So much pressure from friends to create one because they don't know what to buy so I created one. I don't need half of the stuff on there but they said add this, add that. My favorite gifts were 3 months worth of diapers and wipes.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with giving a gift and using your own brain to pick out something personal?

[Anonymous]

I enjoy perusing wedding registries and will select a giftcard through the registry if all the cool stuff at my price range is already bought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to create a wedding registry when you have enough money to buy whatever you need already. Fancy sheets? Got it. Keurig machine-got it, gift card to wine shop-got it.

Younger couples who get married need a registry more than older couples.

Plus, you can still give a gift of your choice, a gift card or cash. I rather get $50 or $100 or whatever amount you spend, even $25 instead of a coffee maker that I don't need, or more satin sheets.

Ask her what she wants. Or just give $100 fresh cash. 1 piece, not a bunch of $20s or $10s.

It's like creating a baby shower registry. So much pressure from friends to create one because they don't know what to buy so I created one. I don't need half of the stuff on there but they said add this, add that. My favorite gifts were 3 months worth of diapers and wipes.

Cultural differences are so interesting—giving someone actual cash for a wedding used to be considered crass. Even showing up to a wedding with a gift in hand was frowned upon; gifts were sent before the wedding to their home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with giving a gift and using your own brain to pick out something personal?

Many people are not skilled at gift selection and the married couple tends to receive duplicates of popular items.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to create a wedding registry when you have enough money to buy whatever you need already. Fancy sheets? Got it. Keurig machine-got it, gift card to wine shop-got it.

Younger couples who get married need a registry more than older couples.

Plus, you can still give a gift of your choice, a gift card or cash. I rather get $50 or $100 or whatever amount you spend, even $25 instead of a coffee maker that I don't need, or more satin sheets.

Ask her what she wants. Or just give $100 fresh cash. 1 piece, not a bunch of $20s or $10s.

It's like creating a baby shower registry. So much pressure from friends to create one because they don't know what to buy so I created one. I don't need half of the stuff on there but they said add this, add that. My favorite gifts were 3 months worth of diapers and wipes.

Cultural differences are so interesting—giving someone actual cash for a wedding used to be considered crass. Even showing up to a wedding with a gift in hand was frowned upon; gifts were sent before the wedding to their home.

Registries also used to be seen as crass.

[Anonymous]

Wedding registries have been around for about 100 years in the US.

[Anonymous]

The bridal shower was a party where we went as couple and had a registry. The wedding we had was a very nice NY/NJ wedding we paid ourselves. We were also 33/35 and were combining two apts to one and actually purging stuff. Did not need more stiff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems fine to me. No one is forcing you to give them money. Give them a gift of your choosing.

Op here- I don’t mind writing a check, I just usually love picking out a nice gift or two from the registry. Given she is a good friend, my plan was around a $300ish gift but I’d have no clue what to randomly buy without a registry. Guess I’ll just write the check but I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have a registry so was just curious.

If she is a good friend ask her if there is something she would like to have. Otherwise buy her something nice that you think she would like and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Indian person here and we don’t usually do registries either; everyone knows to write a check or give cash

What if guests don't know that? Is it horrible to give, I dunno, a platter?

yes. pretty bad to give anything else unless there is a registry. absolutely ok to gift items made of pure gold and pure silver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with giving cash? Better than some useless gift thats just going to be trashed or regifted.

Wouldn’t a registry not be “useless crap” as it’s items the couple personally added to a registry?

Unless you are having a super small wedding or are getting married at 18, yes it's mostly useless crap.

A household only needs so many place settings, serving dishes, etc.

[Anonymous]

The registry is for bridal shower.

My wedding I had a registry but at Bridal Shower party most of gifts picked up.

The wedding no one went off registry.

I been to two hundred person bridal showers and bride is getting 100 gifts.

[Anonymous]

A big money grab?? Common why is giving them $, giving them the equivalent --- or less, a Money Grab?

[Anonymous]

You do know a registry is even more of a cash grab.

My cousin did her registry Fortunoff which was famous for a high end wedding Registry. At that story the bride can return anything for a full refund.

They only put gifts on their from $250-$1,000. The few cheap ones still of our quick. Some she just picked due to price point. Like a $500 vase. She retuned nearly of of it

[Anonymous]

the wedding was 2 years ago. I wonder how the bride made out?