NO wedding registry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with giving cash? Better than some useless gift thats just going to be trashed or regifted.

Wouldn’t a registry not be “useless crap” as it’s items the couple personally added to a registry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the problem is, OP, just give them $100 or whatever you'd spend on a gift in cash. Consider it a gift to you, you don't have to waste your time picking something out.

I find it super weird that you all are calling this a cash grab, when there's no mention of gifts at all. Maybe they already have everything they need and would prefer to save up money for a down payment.

You sound like a total freak to be offended by this OP. Maybe you shouldn't go since you're such a judgmental asshole.

OP here- HAHAHA where the heck did I say I was offended by this? I simply said that I thought it was odd and that I have never been to a wedding where there wasn’t a registry…and I’ve been to a lot. Clearly you didn’t read my comments as I also said I was planning on spending around $300 for a gift and that I enjoy picking something nice from a registry but that I’d just write a check.

You sound like the freak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the problem is, OP, just give them $100 or whatever you'd spend on a gift in cash. Consider it a gift to you, you don't have to waste your time picking something out.

I find it super weird that you all are calling this a cash grab, when there's no mention of gifts at all. Maybe they already have everything they need and would prefer to save up money for a down payment.

You sound like a total freak to be offended by this OP. Maybe you shouldn't go since you're such a judgmental asshole.

OP here- HAHAHA where the heck did I say I was offended by this? I simply said that I thought it was odd and that I have never been to a wedding where there wasn’t a registry…and I’ve been to a lot. Clearly you didn’t read my comments as I also said I was planning on spending around $300 for a gift and that I enjoy picking something nice from a registry but that I’d just write a check.

You sound like the freak.

NP.

You said this: "I was pretty surprised by that as I’ve never been to a wedding where there was no registry and to me, seems like a big money grab." You really are weird OP calling it a money grab when they did not mention anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with giving cash? Better than some useless gift thats just going to be trashed or regifted.

Wouldn’t a registry not be “useless crap” as it’s items the couple personally added to a registry?

What if they have everything they actually need and like to live with minimal stuff in the house and don't need 200 more gifts. They are forced to create a registry of nice to have things which they don't probably need or have the space for just to satisfy people like you, and it becomes useless crap.

Learn from South Asian weddings and just give cash or a cheque so people can do whatever they want with it.

[Anonymous]

DH and I were 33 and 40 with a combined HHI of $500k and two homes. We had more stuff than we needed already and it was nice all nice things (so no replacing anything with items from a registry). Some people gave money, some people gave personalized gifts like a cutting board with your name, wall hanger with our initial, etc. Some people just gave a card with a kind note. We were fine with anything and happy to have our friends all there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were 33 and 40 with a combined HHI of $500k and two homes. We had more stuff than we needed already and it was nice all nice things (so no replacing anything with items from a registry). Some people gave money, some people gave personalized gifts like a cutting board with your name, wall hanger with our initial, etc. Some people just gave a card with a kind note. We were fine with anything and happy to have our friends all there.

+1. I think a registry is a practical notion if you are just starting out and need help establishing your home. But if you marry later, like many professionals do, you probably have already established your home.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t do registries for wedding or babies because I don’t personally like the idea, and it never occurred to me that people would see it as a money grab.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jewish people don't have a wedding registry for a wedding, just for an engagement. Jewish people give checks.

This is not universal. I am Jewish and had a registry, as did many Jewish people I know. There's nothing in the Torah saying "thou shalt not have a wedding registry."

+1. We’re Jewish and had a wedding registry (not engagement) and so have most Jewish couples I know.

[Anonymous]

Make a donation to a charity in their name.

[Anonymous]

Just give a check OP who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with giving cash? Better than some useless gift thats just going to be trashed or regifted.

Wouldn’t a registry not be “useless crap” as it’s items the couple personally added to a registry?

What if they have everything they actually need and like to live with minimal stuff in the house and don't need 200 more gifts. They are forced to create a registry of nice to have things which they don't probably need or have the space for just to satisfy people like you, and it becomes useless crap.

Learn from South Asian weddings and just give cash or a cheque so people can do whatever they want with it.

If they already have everything they need, they:

1) waited too long to get married; and
2) don't need everyone else's cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with giving cash? Better than some useless gift thats just going to be trashed or regifted.

Wouldn’t a registry not be “useless crap” as it’s items the couple personally added to a registry?

What if they have everything they actually need and like to live with minimal stuff in the house and don't need 200 more gifts. They are forced to create a registry of nice to have things which they don't probably need or have the space for just to satisfy people like you, and it becomes useless crap.

Learn from South Asian weddings and just give cash or a cheque so people can do whatever they want with it.

If they already have everything they need, they:

1) waited too long to get married; and
2) don't need everyone else's cash.

1) Or they are marrying for the second time or third time or whatever
2) Yes, they don't need your cash. Not having a registry just means they don't want any more crap. If they have not mentioned any gifts at all, they care for your presence, not presents. Giving is your choice, so don't be an AH and call them money grabbers just because they don't have a registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t do registries for wedding or babies because I don’t personally like the idea, and it never occurred to me that people would see it as a money grab.

Same here. I would think leaving people to their choice would be easier, but based on the replies in the thread, it looks like people find fault with anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t do registries for wedding or babies because I don’t personally like the idea, and it never occurred to me that people would see it as a money grab.

Same here. I would think leaving people to their choice would be easier, but based on the replies in the thread, it looks like people find fault with anything.

I also don’t do registries. I like the surprise of having people choose gifts without me imposing my will on them. Can’t believe how bent out of shape people get about literally every choice. I’ve been to several weddings without registries and many with no/only small gift requests. I usually do something consumable like spices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with giving cash? Better than some useless gift thats just going to be trashed or regifted.

Wouldn’t a registry not be “useless crap” as it’s items the couple personally added to a registry?

What if they have everything they actually need and like to live with minimal stuff in the house and don't need 200 more gifts. They are forced to create a registry of nice to have things which they don't probably need or have the space for just to satisfy people like you, and it becomes useless crap.

Learn from South Asian weddings and just give cash or a cheque so people can do whatever they want with it.

If they already have everything they need, they:

1) waited too long to get married; and
2) don't need everyone else's cash.

Yes, everyone should rush to get married at 23 because they cannot afford pots and pans. Good reasoning.