Every sign, signal, Instinct, etc in the world is telling me to leave

[Anonymous]

Asked again- have you changed your mind about sitting down and talking later?
His reply: I said I didn’t want to talk until you put effort into answering the questions I asked in my emails/texts and adding suggestions to the things you complained about…still haven’t seen either. I’ll be ready to talk when you’ve at least tried to contribute to solutions.

This kind of reply gives me ZERO motivation to want to talk, or “put effort into answering the questions.” Honestly.

We had an appt scheduled for today. I cancelled it because of weather where we live. We haven’t seen each other all day till now. He asked when we are leaving for the appt. I said i just canceled it. “When were you going to tell me?” Me: just now. Him: “it’s such an obvious and unnecessary lie. You weren’t going to tell me just now. Don’t think you realize how often you lie like this.”

Ok. So now I’m also a frequent liar.

Again, now I have negative motivation to want to communicate or do anything. I know I am not stuck but I feel completely stuck and miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asked again- have you changed your mind about sitting down and talking later?
His reply: I said I didn’t want to talk until you put effort into answering the questions I asked in my emails/texts and adding suggestions to the things you complained about…still haven’t seen either. I’ll be ready to talk when you’ve at least tried to contribute to solutions.

This kind of reply gives me ZERO motivation to want to talk, or “put effort into answering the questions.” Honestly.

We had an appt scheduled for today. I cancelled it because of weather where we live. We haven’t seen each other all day till now. He asked when we are leaving for the appt. I said i just canceled it. “When were you going to tell me?” Me: just now. Him: “it’s such an obvious and unnecessary lie. You weren’t going to tell me just now. Don’t think you realize how often you lie like this.”

Ok. So now I’m also a frequent liar.

Again, now I have negative motivation to want to communicate or do anything. I know I am not stuck but I feel completely stuck and miserable.

I’m sorry to keep posting but I have no one else to share any of this with.
I haven’t replied to anything he’s said about trying to contribute to solutions or that I’m a frequent liar.
I’m sitting down in dining room reading a book, trying to decompress a little.
He walks by, looks at me, says nothing, then sends me this message: The fact that you’ve spent so many hours sitting around reading and watching Tv instead of even trying to respond directly, truthfully, and constructively is noteworthy.

Again, this makes me want to retreat even further and not respond, try to “think of solutions”, or communicate. It feels like he’s bullying me, throwing all these insults and negative comments, energy my way. Trying to break me down.

Again I’m so sorry to keep
Replying to myself but like I said, I don’t have anyone else to talk to today about this