Sister and her husband nap every time they come over

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like health issues.

Diabetes? Low iron? Heart issues?

But both of them? I can’t wrap my head around this whole scenario.

[Anonymous]

It could be any number of personal quirks, but I'd say that Occam's Razor is:

-Sleep apnea/etc. (they're always kind of tired-- it's really common)
-Alcohol or drug use

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Anonymous wrote:I love napping so much. And I'm an introvert. I would absolutely do this if I were visiting family.

What's so strange to me is how you've decided that something completely innocuous is weird, and you want to punish them for it. I mean, WTH?

Most people on this thread are agreeing it's weird.

Fair enough on the weird part, but the impulse to punish it is what I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around.

I think it’s strange that you view this as punishment. I see it as trying to avoid an awkward situation.

[Anonymous]

In a way it’s endearing that they feel so comfortable at the sister’s home to make themselves feel at home enough to seek out couches for napping. It sounds like they relish these naps. It’s their routine for some reason. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this, but they have been doing it for years according to the Op. Why is this now becoming an issue for you, Op?

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DH worked nights for years when my kids were little. He had an amazing ability to catch sleep when he could. On a weekend he’d regularly want to go to his parents and then he’d go to sleep in the guest room and the kids and I would be there, basically without him. Or he’d invite his brother over to watch a game, and then sleep on the couch for 90% of it. Luckily, I get along well with his family, but I always thought it weird that he would say he wanted to be with them and then be asleep.

He wasn’t lazy, or anemic, he just didn’t get enough sleep. I just couldn’t figure out why he didn’t just sleep at home and then have a shorter visit unless it was really about his kids seeing his family.

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What do they do when you go their house?

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Siesta!

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Anonymous wrote:What do they do when you go their house?

great question!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love napping so much. And I'm an introvert. I would absolutely do this if I were visiting family.

What's so strange to me is how you've decided that something completely innocuous is weird, and you want to punish them for it. I mean, WTH?

If you did it every time you come over when it’s supposed to be a visit, you’re as rude as they are.

[Anonymous]

Wanting or needing a nap after lunch is not weird, it’s actually biologically normal and embraced by many cultures. What is weird is taking a nap at someone else’s house when you are there for a short visit. It’s socially inappropriate.

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I love a good nap, but it's super weird that they both just lie down on your couches and go to sleep, thereby preventing you from using your living room. Do they say - we're going to nap now? Or do you all start out sitting around and talking and they fall asleep?

Regardless, I would: (1) suggest meeting at a restaurant for lunch, after which you go your separate ways, (2) if you have them over, usher them out right after the mean if they start heading towards the couches, and (3) if you have them over and they fall asleep, just wake them up and ask them to head home because you have things to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love napping so much. And I'm an introvert. I would absolutely do this if I were visiting family.

What's so strange to me is how you've decided that something completely innocuous is weird, and you want to punish them for it. I mean, WTH?

I love napping too! I've taken 2-3 hour naps daily between Christmas and New Years. It's been heaven. And I'm also an introvert. I would likely nap if staying several days with family.

But not for a one-day visit. If I knew I "needed" a nap this much, I wouldn't schedule a 5-6 hour visit with someone. I'd just meet up for lunch, or dinner, or a hike, or whatever. So OP, I empathize, and I'd plan around the family you have, not the family you want. Change up how you invite them to do activities with you.

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Anonymous wrote:This is pretty wild. I probably wouldn’t say anything but it is completely weird behavior. I am also curious to know how long the visits are and how long they nap. If they are only there for 2-3hrs it seems so strange that a nap would be required at every visit.

I’ve never encountered a healthy adult with a strict nap schedule.

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here....even on Christmas day..they came for lunch. They ate then napped. It was just a few hours visit.

Falling asleep on the sofa after holiday meals is normal but you have to be sitting up and you’ll get straws up your nose and stuff like that.

Yes, at least a penned on mustache and eyeglasses. I thought everyone did this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love napping so much. And I'm an introvert. I would absolutely do this if I were visiting family.

What's so strange to me is how you've decided that something completely innocuous is weird, and you want to punish them for it. I mean, WTH?

I love napping, but I can stay awake when I am a guest in someone’s home.