Abusive Coaches

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Anonymous wrote:It’s interesting that FCV parents haven’t asked to have this thread deleted unlike BSC parents.

Because it's just true.

It’s true with BSC too but they don’t accept the truth.

As long as a system is producing elite players, unless the abuse is legally wrong, and not just “harsh words” , then the club is doing the right thing.

A club that supports grown men and women verballing abusing children is never 'doing the right thing.'

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s interesting that FCV parents haven’t asked to have this thread deleted unlike BSC parents.

Because it's just true.

It’s true with BSC too but they don’t accept the truth.

As long as a system is producing elite players, unless the abuse is legally wrong, and not just “harsh words” , then the club is doing the right thing.

A club that supports grown men and women verballing abusing children is never 'doing the right thing.'

The ends justify the means.

[Anonymous]

I teach my kids to yell back. Its better to be in a verbal altercation with someone than take the verbal abuse. Be vigilant before you become a victim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I teach my kids to yell back. Its better to be in a verbal altercation with someone than take the verbal abuse. Be vigilant before you become a victim.

That's good advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I teach my kids to yell back. Its better to be in a verbal altercation with someone than take the verbal abuse. Be vigilant before you become a victim.

That's good advice.

No not really. Unless your kid is precociously talented (like the type it takes 10 minutes to see and realize they can sign pro papers if they want), then in top teams they will just get dropped.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/2021/09/22/washington-spirit-workplace-women-nwsl/

“ Burke had acted abusively to youth players”

“ Torres left the team after making inappropriate sexual comments to players ”

Is it a coincidence that they are all at FCV/NOVA FC now? They are like a band of thieves. I'm sure BP is just dying to upgrade his "coaching" under these two.

We have some coaches with development issues in other states but this has to take the cake. Never heard of anything like this anywhere else in the country.

PS - this is not normal

[Anonymous]

I would encourage many of the parents here to keep their kids home so they aren't exposed to the real world. If your kids really want to play soccer, then enter them in rec and ask to co-coach the team to ensure that the other parent coaches aren't verbally abusing your kid. Make sure you bring lots of orange slices and juice boxes so no one feels left out.

Sorry folks but in elite your sports where winning is important and driven by parents, there isn't much room for snowflakes. Abuse is one thing but the sort of abuse people imply here is just harsh coaching. It isn't for everyone and if your kid plans to play at the next level, get ready because college coaches are not anything like the pre-school environment that you seem to expect.

Look, if the coaches style is a detriment to your kid's development, move to another club. Unless a coach is berating your kid, they aren't getting fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would encourage many of the parents here to keep their kids home so they aren't exposed to the real world. If your kids really want to play soccer, then enter them in rec and ask to co-coach the team to ensure that the other parent coaches aren't verbally abusing your kid. Make sure you bring lots of orange slices and juice boxes so no one feels left out.

Sorry folks but in elite your sports where winning is important and driven by parents, there isn't much room for snowflakes. Abuse is one thing but the sort of abuse people imply here is just harsh coaching. It isn't for everyone and if your kid plans to play at the next level, get ready because college coaches are not anything like the pre-school environment that you seem to expect.

Look, if the coaches style is a detriment to your kid's development, move to another club. Unless a coach is berating your kid, they aren't getting fired.

I don't subscribe to this line of thinking and imho, it's antiquated and exactly what needs to be eradicated from youth soccer. If these coaches are getting removed from pro teams with adults, who have also played in college and are judged by their on-field performance, for their harsh coaching, I can't buy into the argument that this is what is needed for winning at the youth levels. Nor do I buy into the need to toughen my DD up for the realities of college coaches and the real world. Not sure what world you live in but it seems to me to be a sad one. I want my DD to look back at soccer and be happy and love the sport and not think of it as some sort of life boot camp administered by some soccer coach that believes verbal abuse is needed for success.

[Anonymous]

Honestly what's the point of having an A-hole coach, life is too short.

[Anonymous]

https://youtu.be/WAAX82ff3eY?list=PLokQUChWpnfx9F4aXUfYEujHbiteo55t_&t=1028

Here is a good video on the subject and a general idea from a football federation with a lot of success.

The big thing I took away from this section was that many youth coaches seem to be stuck in the "competitor" midset too early when there are better approaches for that specific age. After 16 seems to be when most should handle the pressure and harsher demands of the game and coach. I also agree what is seen as "abuse" is incorrectly labeled in most cases. But. we should be aware that, while not total abuse of a player, it can cause damage to player development by going head first into competitor mode too young. Parents may not be as fine-tuned into the nuance of that distinction but feel something is not right. If it is not working for your kid, it is best to find a place that does work. There are a lot of clubs to choose from in this area, so that should be no problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would encourage many of the parents here to keep their kids home so they aren't exposed to the real world. If your kids really want to play soccer, then enter them in rec and ask to co-coach the team to ensure that the other parent coaches aren't verbally abusing your kid. Make sure you bring lots of orange slices and juice boxes so no one feels left out.

Sorry folks but in elite your sports where winning is important and driven by parents, there isn't much room for snowflakes. Abuse is one thing but the sort of abuse people imply here is just harsh coaching. It isn't for everyone and if your kid plans to play at the next level, get ready because college coaches are not anything like the pre-school environment that you seem to expect.

Look, if the coaches style is a detriment to your kid's development, move to another club. Unless a coach is berating your kid, they aren't getting fired.

You equate winning with abusive coaches and that's not the case at all.

[Anonymous]

Cobra Kai all the way. Worked out for Johnny in the end.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of the abuse?

New coach this season constantly screams at our girls and makes my daughter want to quit the team.

GFR coach ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of the abuse?

New coach this season constantly screams at our girls and makes my daughter want to quit the team.

GFR coach ?

Oh. Just stop it. So obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cobra Kai all the way. Worked out for Johnny in the end.

Quiet!!!!