Abusive Coaches

[Anonymous]

Does anyone have experience with abusive coaches?

Should I mention something to the DOC?

[Anonymous]

Can you give an example of the abuse?

[Anonymous]

yes please describe the absue before we all make judgements.

[Anonymous]

Abuse is a strong word. If it is indeed abuse, of course you should report it. The fact that you have come here with complaints of mystery abuse, makes me think you are over reacting to something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Abuse is a strong word. If it is indeed abuse, of course you should report it. The fact that you have come here with complaints of mystery abuse, makes me think you are over reacting to something.

+1 My son had an abusive coach. After my son told me some of the crap that was going on, I watched the next practice and I witnessed him embarrassing my son in front of everyone. It took everything I had not to fly out there and kick the S out of him. I emailed the coach and asked for a meeting and he got defensive so I contacted the age group coordinator. The higher ups backed the coach. We left the club immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of the abuse?

New coach this season constantly screams at our girls and makes my daughter want to quit the team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of the abuse?

New coach this season constantly screams at our girls and makes my daughter want to quit the team.

Does coach later follow up with nice complimentary emails? If so, 👀

[Anonymous]

DOC
Safesport
https://positivecoach.org/

Plenty of channels depending on severity.

[Anonymous]

Report it to club leadership along with the BOD. They may not actually care but if there are enough documented examples, they won’t want the liability out there and will deal with the coach.

[Anonymous]

In Europe the opposite happens a lot Many times

Coaches can get very stand offish and not provide structured feedback and instruction, which Americans are used to.

You’ll just get dropped for weeks on end and when you ask, you are told that you are training well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In Europe the opposite happens a lot Many times

Coaches can get very stand offish and not provide structured feedback and instruction, which Americans are used to.

You’ll just get dropped for weeks on end and when you ask, you are told that you are training well.

You know. In Europe, which is a monolithic entity. Therefore the abusive coaches are a good thing so you know immediately when you’re not training well.

[Anonymous]

We witnessed a coach insulting and trash-talking his own players to other players on the bench, not in a constructive feedback way but rather a petty bullying kind of attitude. We sent a note to the director of the club, but as the coach was his brother I don't think anything was done about it.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why any parent puts up with abusive coaches. Is it really worth it for what you think is a ticket to a college scholarship? Or for the bragging rights so you can post a top 10 teams in your age group based on YSR?

If a teacher spoke to your child abusively, would you accept it? Hell no. Why is it even a consideration for soccer? You would demand that the school fix the behavior or transfer to another class or school. Professional players aren’t putting up with this treatment. Kids won’t remember the wins as much as the mental abuse and we’re lucky to have many options for our DC to play competitive soccer.

[Anonymous]

You are responsible to your child, not the coach or the club. You don't like it, leave. Enough parents do this, and perhaps the coaches, and the clubs, will learn.

[Anonymous]

Urban Meyer was just fired for this sort of behavior.