Abusive Coaches

[Anonymous]

Abusive behavior is reported all the time. Problem is how do you prove mental and verbal abuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Abusive behavior is reported all the time. Problem is how do you prove mental and verbal abuse?

video tape it. I regret not catching my dd coach's appalling behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abusive behavior is reported all the time. Problem is how do you prove mental and verbal abuse?

video tape it. I regret not catching my dd coach's appalling behavior.

It’s hard when they’re both coach and director.

[Anonymous]

Years ago back in u11 (DS' first quasi-travel season) I was assistant coach along with another more experienced dad who had played back in the day. He was verbally abusive to the boys and a bully. Demeaning comments towards some of the players and expected the world out of his son, my son and the other assistant coach's son. Our three boys were best friends. The other assistant coach got fed up with the behavior and left mid season, leaving no subs. IF we pulled out then the team would have to play down a man the rest of the year... We stayed to support the rest of the kids so they would have a team and not fold. It was the absolute worst thing I have done to one of my kids and I regret every moment of doing that. We should have left early in the fall when the abuse became evident. When we went to u12 the following year and DS joined a real travel club with paid coaches they mentioned to me "did he get yelled at a lot by an old coach?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years ago back in u11 (DS' first quasi-travel season) I was assistant coach along with another more experienced dad who had played back in the day. He was verbally abusive to the boys and a bully. Demeaning comments towards some of the players and expected the world out of his son, my son and the other assistant coach's son. Our three boys were best friends. The other assistant coach got fed up with the behavior and left mid season, leaving no subs. IF we pulled out then the team would have to play down a man the rest of the year... We stayed to support the rest of the kids so they would have a team and not fold. It was the absolute worst thing I have done to one of my kids and I regret every moment of doing that. We should have left early in the fall when the abuse became evident. When we went to u12 the following year and DS joined a real travel club with paid coaches they mentioned to me "did he get yelled at a lot by an old coach?"

This is sad and you should feel like S.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are responsible to your child, not the coach or the club. You don't like it, leave. Enough parents do this, and perhaps the coaches, and the clubs, will learn.

But let it be known why you’re leaving. Be not afraid.

[Anonymous]

Until the parents start confronting the coaches and clubs it won't change. Safe sport is a joke, good concept but it isn't working properly because they are probably afraid to get sued.

Listen to your kids, watch for their passion to decline, and listen to your kids.

When our kid came to us with why they wanted to stop playing we had a hard time with it and then our kid explained things and we observed and it shinned a whole new light on things looking at it from their perspective and we we emailed the coach and got them off the team and our kid has been so relived and happy.

Of course the coach was defensive and the club was numb to it all. when parents asked us why we did that we said watch closely, talk to your kid don't just pay attention to wins and losses, watch the bench and practices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Until the parents start confronting the coaches and clubs it won't change. Safe sport is a joke, good concept but it isn't working properly because they are probably afraid to get sued.

Listen to your kids, watch for their passion to decline, and listen to your kids.

When our kid came to us with why they wanted to stop playing we had a hard time with it and then our kid explained things and we observed and it shinned a whole new light on things looking at it from their perspective and we we emailed the coach and got them off the team and our kid has been so relived and happy.

Of course the coach was defensive and the club was numb to it all. when parents asked us why we did that we said watch closely, talk to your kid don't just pay attention to wins and losses, watch the bench and practices.

The Center accepts all reports affecting the U.S. Olympic and Paralympic Movement of:

Sexual Misconduct, including without limitation child sexual abuse and any misconduct that is reasonably related to an underlying allegation of Sexual Misconduct
Criminal Charges or Dispositions involving Child Abuse or Sexual Misconduct
Misconduct Related to Reporting, where the underlying allegation involves Child Abuse or Sexual Misconduct;
Aiding and Abetting, when it relates to the Center’s process
Misconduct Related to the Center’s Process
Other Inappropriate Conduct, as defined herein
The Center has exclusive jurisdiction to investigate and resolve reports affecting the Movement in the bulleted categories above.

The Center also accepts reports of emotional and physical misconduct (including bullying, hazing, stalking, and harassment) within the Movement. Reports of emotional and physical misconduct can also be made directly to your sport’s national governing body (NGB).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Until the parents start confronting the coaches and clubs it won't change. Safe sport is a joke, good concept but it isn't working properly because they are probably afraid to get sued.

Listen to your kids, watch for their passion to decline, and listen to your kids.

When our kid came to us with why they wanted to stop playing we had a hard time with it and then our kid explained things and we observed and it shinned a whole new light on things looking at it from their perspective and we we emailed the coach and got them off the team and our kid has been so relived and happy.

Of course the coach was defensive and the club was numb to it all. when parents asked us why we did that we said watch closely, talk to your kid don't just pay attention to wins and losses, watch the bench and practices.

The Center accepts all reports affecting the U.S. Olympic and Paralympic Movement of:

Sexual Misconduct, including without limitation child sexual abuse and any misconduct that is reasonably related to an underlying allegation of Sexual Misconduct
Criminal Charges or Dispositions involving Child Abuse or Sexual Misconduct
Misconduct Related to Reporting, where the underlying allegation involves Child Abuse or Sexual Misconduct;
Aiding and Abetting, when it relates to the Center’s process
Misconduct Related to the Center’s Process
Other Inappropriate Conduct, as defined herein
The Center has exclusive jurisdiction to investigate and resolve reports affecting the Movement in the bulleted categories above.

The Center also accepts reports of emotional and physical misconduct (including bullying, hazing, stalking, and harassment) within the Movement. Reports of emotional and physical misconduct can also be made directly to your sport’s national governing body (NGB).

The center has NOT. They take the allegations and hand it over to US club soccer. That’s where it falls on deaf ears.

[Anonymous]

Is youth soccer the new gymnastics. How many buried stories from head of clubs and directors of youth soccer organizations? Coaches leaving one club because of accusations only to be hired by another club. In all fairness it’s probably the parents’ and players’ fault.

[Anonymous]

The clubs that hire these coaches and enable them should be investigated and stripped of their status in their respective leagues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of the abuse?

New coach this season constantly screams at our girls and makes my daughter want to quit the team.

JA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The clubs that hire these coaches and enable them should be investigated and stripped of their status in their respective leagues.

Funny post. Nice irony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of the abuse?

New coach this season constantly screams at our girls and makes my daughter want to quit the team.

JA?

No he is calm now. I like him.

[Anonymous]

Someone idiot enough to ask what to do? You may thousands a year and want to ask this group? You pay, your right to address problems.