S/o How to get high conflict husband to go to therapy?

[Anonymous]

Hi Op- this is PP who has shared my similar experience up thread- I hope you find the strength to do what is right for you and I am working on mine as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're the boat wife? I still can't figure out why you like him.

But just find a couples counselor, go to them, share the boat story, and get their suggestions on how to broach the subject based on their experience dealing with people like your husband.

Boat wife here. I don’t really like him. I’m having trouble detaching. Having trouble telling him what I want. The boat + no sex + verbal abuse = me wanting out. I have no idea how to broach this topic with him so was thinking of bringing him to therapy, not to change him but so there’s someone else in the room who can make him give me the space to say what I need to say without talking over me. That I’m miserable and if things don’t change, I’m leaving. And I don’t want to spend years in therapy with him. I’m not 30 anymore. I don’t have that kind of time.

honey, you have your lawyer tell him. you don’t need to tell him.

Exactly. Repeatedly posting here is a waste of time. Get out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're the boat wife? I still can't figure out why you like him.

But just find a couples counselor, go to them, share the boat story, and get their suggestions on how to broach the subject based on their experience dealing with people like your husband.

Boat wife here. I don’t really like him. I’m having trouble detaching. Having trouble telling him what I want. The boat + no sex + verbal abuse = me wanting out. I have no idea how to broach this topic with him so was thinking of bringing him to therapy, not to change him but so there’s someone else in the room who can make him give me the space to say what I need to say without talking over me. That I’m miserable and if things don’t change, I’m leaving. And I don’t want to spend years in therapy with him. I’m not 30 anymore. I don’t have that kind of time.

honey, you have your lawyer tell him. you don’t need to tell him.

Exactly. Repeatedly posting here is a waste of time. Get out.

Wow, you’re nasty. This is OP. Someone bumped this thread today to ask how I was doing and I responded. I haven’t posted on here in a couple weeks. I am leaving.

[Anonymous]

Sorry that people are being jerks. Rooting for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're the boat wife? I still can't figure out why you like him.

But just find a couples counselor, go to them, share the boat story, and get their suggestions on how to broach the subject based on their experience dealing with people like your husband.

Boat wife here. I don’t really like him. I’m having trouble detaching. Having trouble telling him what I want. The boat + no sex + verbal abuse = me wanting out. I have no idea how to broach this topic with him so was thinking of bringing him to therapy, not to change him but so there’s someone else in the room who can make him give me the space to say what I need to say without talking over me. That I’m miserable and if things don’t change, I’m leaving. And I don’t want to spend years in therapy with him. I’m not 30 anymore. I don’t have that kind of time.

honey, you have your lawyer tell him. you don’t need to tell him.

Exactly. Repeatedly posting here is a waste of time. Get out.

Wow, you’re nasty. This is OP. Someone bumped this thread today to ask how I was doing and I responded. I haven’t posted on here in a couple weeks. I am leaving.

I’m sorry…..I was rude. I wish you the best.

PP

[Anonymous]

^^Thank you. I appreciate it. And appreciate all the support from everyone on here!

[Anonymous]

OP, a good life awaits you. Wishing you and the pup all the best.