Do other parents yell criticisms at your kid?

[Anonymous]

This is the answer to any types of bullying:

https://youtu.be/JHOGs5x90PU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, in my experience, the parents only criticize more., the older the kids get. U14 was probably our worst year for parent criticism and unfortunately it rubs off on their children too.

Yeah, lots of hearing the kids say things like "my dad said blah blah blah" or "my mom was right, you're blah".

[Anonymous]

I noticed more of criticism at younger ages not older. Kinda sad. Nothing outright mean, more snide comments and guffaws. At older ages it tends to be quieter and more directed at a parent’s own kid or not at all.

Either way there’s no quicker way to become an outcast or to get your butt kicked than to publically critique and criticize others people’s kids, in any facet of life. That’s probably the toughest part of being a teacher or a coach - dealing with with parents that don’t want to hear the truth … but at least that’s you job in those cases. Another parent … that's third rail territory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s normal to say “pass to Ava!” Or “shoot!” At that age.

Who is Ava?

Who isn’t Ava, amirite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I think its very hypocritical that many of the parents who are so anti yelling at kids are the same ones that will yell out "stop pushing" when it happens to their kid. Cant have it both ways parents. Would love to hear how you feel about teammates yelling at each other. Should the field be the players domain? Their place to function with their peers without parents getting involved? At what point or age is it ok to criticize ? Boo? Everything shouldn't be cheered and praised. It makes them believe they are succeeding even when they are in reality failing.

who has said this?

Any coach worth their salt will teach how to counter "pushing." My kid has been shoulder charging effectively, without being called since U9, even while playing against bigger kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I think its very hypocritical that many of the parents who are so anti yelling at kids are the same ones that will yell out "stop pushing" when it happens to their kid. Cant have it both ways parents. Would love to hear how you feel about teammates yelling at each other. Should the field be the players domain? Their place to function with their peers without parents getting involved? At what point or age is it ok to criticize ? Boo? Everything shouldn't be cheered and praised. It makes them believe they are succeeding even when they are in reality failing.

who has said this?

Any coach worth their salt will teach how to counter "pushing." My kid has been shoulder charging effectively, without being called since U9, even while playing against bigger kids.

Shoulder charging is a foul you idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

I don't know, it's hard to see you behind that dozen box of DD goodness...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

Big talk behind a keyboard. Pathetic!!

And there you go. Calling someone pathetic. Did that make you feel better diddums?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

I don't know, it's hard to see you behind that dozen box of DD goodness...

He wishes. In reality he bulges out on every side of the dozen box. It takes twenty such boxes to hide even a small part of him from view.

[Anonymous]

no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I think its very hypocritical that many of the parents who are so anti yelling at kids are the same ones that will yell out "stop pushing" when it happens to their kid. Cant have it both ways parents. Would love to hear how you feel about teammates yelling at each other. Should the field be the players domain? Their place to function with their peers without parents getting involved? At what point or age is it ok to criticize ? Boo? Everything shouldn't be cheered and praised. It makes them believe they are succeeding even when they are in reality failing.

who has said this?

Any coach worth their salt will teach how to counter "pushing." My kid has been shoulder charging effectively, without being called since U9, even while playing against bigger kids.

Shoulder charging is a foul you idiot.

It actually isn't. Idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I think its very hypocritical that many of the parents who are so anti yelling at kids are the same ones that will yell out "stop pushing" when it happens to their kid. Cant have it both ways parents. Would love to hear how you feel about teammates yelling at each other. Should the field be the players domain? Their place to function with their peers without parents getting involved? At what point or age is it ok to criticize ? Boo? Everything shouldn't be cheered and praised. It makes them believe they are succeeding even when they are in reality failing.

who has said this?

Any coach worth their salt will teach how to counter "pushing." My kid has been shoulder charging effectively, without being called since U9, even while playing against bigger kids.

Shoulder charging is a foul you idiot.

It actually isn't. Idiot.

DP. It is a foul. Your kid just does not get called because she/he is small. If a bigger player does the same thing they get called. You can also get the ball and it is still a foul.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you should report this to the club and the coach about this. It’s unacceptable and it also encourages these types of bullying from other parents and players.

I don't think you understand OP. She was originally bashing the other parents' daughter as "obese." Then she took down the thread and started a new one because she didn't like what people were posting. I'm guessing she was the one being abusive to the other child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, in my experience, the parents only criticize more., the older the kids get. U14 was probably our worst year for parent criticism and unfortunately it rubs off on their children too.

Yeah, lots of hearing the kids say things like "my dad said blah blah blah" or "my mom was right, you're blah".

News Flash just because you are positive with your doesn't make them right. If they screw up it ok to tell them they screwed up. Its how you the parent have taught them to respond to failure is the real question. Praise if they succeed encourage and teach in response to failure. By never being critical Leeds them to believe they didn't screw up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you should report this to the club and the coach about this. It’s unacceptable and it also encourages these types of bullying from other parents and players.

I don't think you understand OP. She was originally bashing the other parents' daughter as "obese." Then she took down the thread and started a new one because she didn't like what people were posting. I'm guessing she was the one being abusive to the other child.

+1

Definitely seems like OP is the one doing the bullying.